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- We've had SO much fun with this post the last couple of days! Tons of parents have weighed in o (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-06T21:37:32+0000)
Mothering Magazine: We've had SO much fun with this post the last couple of days! Tons of parents have weighed in on whether or not their children's names are the lists, and many have shared their own beautiful choices. Do you see your kids' names on these lists or in the comments? :)Comments:
yad irol - Only 253 people named their daughters "Princess." Stunning it wasn't more, but sad it happened more than zero times.
renoggaw hsa - Neither of my kids' names were on the list. My husband and I have two of the most popular names of our generation with multiples in our own families, we wanted something different for our kids. We agonized for months about what to name our daughter, pouring through books and family trees when one day I said "what do you think about Tabitha?" and it stuck. It wasn't the most popular name with certain members of our family, but from the moment she was born it fit her personality to a T. We named our son Carlin, after the late George Carlin. He meant so much to both of us, coming up as literate rebels in a very small Texas town, that we couldn't resist giving our son the most fantastic namesake we could think of.
mulp tteffom einalem - Nope. My daughters are Flannery and Helena.
oigroigid hakebdnahsoj - Nope — 3 sons, Lemuel, Cedar, and Soren 😘
smailliw ikcipok yllek - I think these lists are misleading since they count spelling variations as unique names. for instance Jacob is one of the most popular while Jaycob is one of the least? Yeah... that is the same name, lol! I have 2 kids on the first list (although my oldest is 11 and her name was not popular then) and 2 kids on neither list. :)
enileuqcaj eilatan - Kimmy Steele did you really name your daughter Remington Steele?
rezloh ellehcim ytsim - None of my kids made either lists their names are different but sound common...4 boys Holden,Hobbes,Houston,Hayes and three girls Hollis,Hopi and Hartley. My oldest son's name has gained popularity In The years after his birth and I think Hayes might too.
nielk yenram - Weird that there are so many "A" girl names 13 on the top list and even 8 on the lower end. I know quite a few too and my first daughter is Ani (Ah-knee)
repooc-nostaw elleinad alle - Not on a list either! My son (6wks) is named Oren & I have two girls, Piper (6) & Ever (4)
ssom igna - 1 out of 5 for us. Our boys: kierian, aiden, lycan. Our girls: kianna and inara.
notnud hslaw aliehs - Probably will never see my kids' names on any list, my son is Taeg and my daughter Lazuli... Surprised I didn't see Juliet, my third daughter. :)
ellievel nannerb eirrac - My eldest (age 6) is in the beautiful least used list! Sunniva! It is an old family name and we spell it the family way: Seneva. I love that it I s uncommon but excited to see it get positive feedback.
eeb haras - Not on either list. Agnesse and Cynthia have been overlooked in the revival of old-fashioned names, which is fine by me. :)
zeuqirne adnama - Both of my boys first names were on the list but they have two middle names each and none of them were on there...so they are covered if they would like something more unique. We chose names that had a strong meaning and family connection. I am loving all these cool names in comments. :)
kefuoh allenips assej - my babes Josephine Vita, Noah Immanuel, and Eva Maria Marigold…….Noah at number one on most popular but his middle on the least popular, haha….none of the others on the lists. Really I think kids come in with their names, my boy is SUCH a Noah, does not feel ordinary or common on him whatsoever; names are malleable and shape-shifting---a common name on my uncommon boy is pure magic :-)
orazzinnac redlewkcalb eitak - Adrianna, it means dark water. Our other kids have dark hair and eyes and are mostly Italian. She came out a redhead w green eyes...My husband is part Irish... Lol but still love it for her :)
snikliw enileuqcaj - Our sons name is Jakob and our daughters name is Sloan
esooh nav adnama - My daughter's name is Lua
nostrebor ahtibat - One of my kids' names made it to a list (John), but the other two (McKayla and Daxton) didn't.
zehcnas nagaem - Whew! We weren't on either list
iksnizogor aerdna - I was surprised Sophie was not on most common. Did I miss it? I am not a fan of the name Sophia- but we loved Sophie. My other two, Greta and Elliott didn't make the list either.
- It is so easy to feel sad about how your body has changed. Stretch marks. Loose skin. Weakened (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-24T15:00:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: It is so easy to feel sad about how your body has changed. Stretch marks. Loose skin. Weakened abdominal walls. Looser, softer breasts. That line that may run the length of your belly. That cesarean scar that will fade but always be there. Some extra fat around your middle. Your hips that widened to…Comments:
kcirdum aynat - This is beautiful. Extra love goes out to all of us baby loss moms who are trying to love our postpartum bodies when we have the reminders of carrying our beautiful children but no babe in our arms.
nosredep einnaej - Tanya Mudrick, love to you. <3 You still carried a human being, an eternal soul. Your life will be richer for the experience. I'm a loss mama, too, and the pain can give you a deep well of empathy for others.
icirutrut airam - It's hard to love your postpartum body when you have ppl who criticize
bmelog einahpets - Its hard when the father of your child no longer finds you attractive and we live in a brainwashed society that frowns upon natural beauty. I'm OK with me, but I feel like I'm the only one who's OK with it.
llahsram esiuole - Sophia Pretorius is that sent really called for? Shows how immature and judge mental you are. This article is supposed to be helping women accept themselves in a society which seems to be ruled by bitches like you.
tserces relgov ennaej - This made my 1 week post partum self cry!
sarf nyleuqcaj - I always like to look at the similarities in mine and my daughter's belly.. we thin out and get chunky in the same areas. If I love it on her why shouldn't I love it on myself? I like to think of the health benefits my fat has for her body since we are breastfeeding :)
raew eisor - As much as I hide my postpartum belly, I've come to appreciate it as well. It doesn't look "beautiful" but sure my babies have preferred my soft snuggly belly after nine moths inside of my soft snuggly belly. Even 2 years postpartum (and still nursing) I am okay with having a soft middle. That soft middle allows me to cuddle my toddler close without worrying that my ribs and hips are digging into him. When motherhood requires less snuggling, then I may care more about the appearance of my stomach.
muabssun yllek - I can't help but think to when it used to bOther me. I was trying to Find the self worth in my body and how beautiful I felt. So thankful that my identity is in Christ and I can see the beautiful thing He had created my body for in the first place. It was never to make me feel beautiful (I already am to Him) it was to grow and nurture and protect and coddle... What a profound beautiful creation we are mamas :)
hguanavac assenav - Love this and reminds me to love myself a bit more.
yevad lehcar - I love that picture ! I found myself on the toilet in the bathroom nursing my one week old. I gave my camera to my 4 yr old so he would stay out of trouble for 5 minutes. He snapped some photos at some very revealing angles - belly, butt, boob, ripples and rolls galore. My instant reaction was a groan and was just about to delete the picture when I just sighed, smiled and accepted every contour of my new motherly form.
erabab-aynogeleg nyleve - I'm 61. I have 2 children ages 23 and 26. I never got back my prepregancy body. Try as I surely did....I never was lean and firm again. It was heartbreaking. I gave up in fact and became overweight with the excuse that I was accepting and embracing my "womanly" figure. This led to health issues as well as severe self doubt. For the last several years I have embraced wellness which has included diet changes exercise yoga and meditation. Now that my children are grown I have allowed myself to do that. I wish I would have had that confidence earlier. Better late than never
neebelpputs inaluahek ahtnamas - Thank you for posting this. It makes the world of difference <3
pordlaw nosihcta refinnej - I know I struggle with how my body has changed from what it was before baby. But I am so thankful my husband still looks at me as a hottie and he tells me all the time I'm beautiful! I am my own worst critic of my tummy. I am blessed to not have any stretch marks but I have a very soft middle and it looks much like the one in the picture! I don't think of it as gross though. I hate trying on clothes and I'm very self conscious of it but when I hold and feed my baby all of that bs just fades away and it was completely worth losing my six pack for my beautiful baby boy's life!
sojed oznerol ydnor - Fuck dat get your ass back in the gym asap
aram elyag - For all those expecting and new mothers, thought this was good advise.
nosrettek kaldes elleinad - Hang in there, post-partum gals! With all the things you have to do, you have to worry about being sexy too? You have plenty of time to "get your body back". And breast feeding really does help. When my son turned one I was thinner than before I had him, without trying! Relax and enjoy your babies !
navanac esined - This is just what I needed. Every word is so true. And we should cherish our little ones and not be worrying about what our body's look like. So glad my fiance still sees me as beautiful and attractive. I hate my tummy but I love my daughter and I would rather be in the house spending time with her than in a gym with a bunch of strangers x
enil orac - Beautiful article and pictures. Awww and look at those little feet!! X
llahsram esiuole - Sophia Pretorius is it hard to breathe up there on your high horse? I think and hope the lady who commented above Me maybe helped to deflate your sails a little and realize what a total cow you
kinsawk divad ajcyrtap - I dont care... I have a healthy baby that's important! !!!!!
- Are your children's names on this list? (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-03T23:04:26+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Are your children's names on this list?Comments:
racassem eleztnik elocin - The biggest question is why would 233 people name their baby Princess? ?? Yikes.
sille emiaj - My kids aren't on either list: Trentyn, Orion, Zander, Aurora, and Lyra
me erialc - My son is Rowan. "Rowen" is on the least popular list. Strangely, he has met two other Rowans over the last couple of months :)
yerffej enitsirhc - My son's is not on here at all. And his name is Reznor.
nosreve r egiap - My Magnolia is pretty original.
relsseab lyrehc - My daughter's name is #49 on the most popular list. I don't care; I just like it.
sedreg arreis - Half of the uncommon names are uncommon because they are a) made up nonsense or b) misspelled. I don't think they should even count.
nella naoj - 248 people named their girls Collins?
nosredna-yeluacm einnob - I find it creepy that any government agency is the source of this data...
hsuor l sidnarb - None of my kids are on either list- Isabel, Oliver, and Violet.
tdrahnoel rehcahcst nitsyrk - Numbers 10 and 17 on the most popular. I think Elizabeth has been on that list for like 200 years.
yrogerg k yma - My sons name is on the most popular list although that's not why we choose it. We just wanted something normal. Something that could be professional ( for example if he's a doctor or prime minister) or just something he could shorten if he wanted. And also something he could spell!!!!
ybhguolliw yma - I think it would be more interesting if they combined all the alternative spellings.
xie anitsirhc - My kiddos missed both lists! Althea and Theron.
ttocla assilem - When I had my Charlotte in 2009, you never heard the name! Now it's #11? Poop.
yhrrah arual - Urgh this makes it seem like we chose a "popular" name at number one :( he was our Noah before we even conceived x
sniknej nitsirk - My son Dylan is number 28 on the popular list. My daughter Annabelle is on the least popular list but I guarantee you my youngest 'Cambria' is even less popular.
sekots latsyrc - My daughters name isn't on either list- I'm so glad it's never been popular, I'm not a fan of overused typical names.
irogerg .m yelhsa - Wow! My daughters name, Sadie, is number 50 in popularity!
smailliw imoan - My older two are (Daniel and Elizabeth), but my two year old isn't! Her name is Gwendolyn, or Gwennie, if you ask her.
egroeg asil - The name Lloyd has not been in the top 1000 since 2002. My poor kid :)
- Let me tell you about my son. He’s three. He’s imaginative. He can be a wild man. He’s se (Type: link | Published: 2013-10-08T20:00:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Let me tell you about my son. He’s three. He’s imaginative. He can be a wild man. He’s sensitive. He loves his ballet classes. He loves princesses. I would not change a thing. Not one single thing.Comments:
sserk adnawal - I have to wonder why the author assumes that the little boy who said princesses were gross was "taught" that, but she sees her son as "being himself" for liking them, rather than being "taught" ...even tho it's completely obvious she loves princesses herself.
ykstedor ohce - My son likes his nails painted, too. Dark green- his favorite color- so they're "like a pirate".
evol annahoj - Jerusha, why encourage them to be a man or a woman by YOUR definition? Why not just let them BE? My beloved cooks, cleans, raises our 3 boys, all while rocking my world. He is a real man to me, but maybe not to you. We all have different tastes!
hguabenih aivilo - I'm the author and I want to thank everyone who has commented. I feel a tremendous amount of support, especially from mothers who have had similar experiences. To clarify: I was never into princesses, but my son is. He plays dress up with his friends, reads fairy tales, and sees movies. He also loves cars, trains, and other "boy" things. What I was trying to reflect is that we all just do the best we can for the kids we have. Thanks again for your thoughts. I'm glad this is something that can be discussed and not dismissed.
ipul ahsurej - Gosh why not let men encourage boys and teach them what it is to be a man? Whats so bad about pointing out what things are best left to girls and what are more inline with their masculinity? Its called learning. You ladies need to stop being so soppy and silly, painted nails at 3 is fine, so are sparkly shoes but the reality is your son is a boy and will one day be a man and needs guidance toward that, so keep that in mind - who's to say your not part of the problem? I want my son to be proud of the differences between himself and his sisters and to embrace all the exciting things being a man can bring and I trust the men in his life to teach him. Who cares if it means he misses out on pretty painted nails.The same applies for my girls. Finally I hope they also learn to appreciate the differences in the opposite sex and see them as a desirable addition to their own lives when they grow up. I dont think my boy will care about having been discouraged from wearing pretty nail polish or barbie tshirts then, im sure he will appreciate the assurance from his parents from a young age that he is a boy /man and can grow easily into that. Im sure he will appreciate pretty nails on his wife instead.
ffarg-ellivreksab adnerb - Ok so I have a pic of my 21 year old son in tights and a velvet dress while he was playing dress up. He now is definitely a grown up hetero sexual man. We didn't make a big deal out if it at the time. I believe if we give our kids room to be who they are then they will become who they are meant to be. No judgement here.
nagrom yssirc - I love this. It drives me nuts when my father, or anyone else for that matter tells my son he can do or like something because "that's for girls". My son has two older sisters. When they get their nails painted he want his done too. He's five. And being from a family that doesn't buy in to gender divisions much, he's gonna be a little different. He'll figure out in his own time what's acceptable for him personally. And hopefully without too much social pressure.
gnirffeil irehs - My daughter is also 3 and loves dinosaurs, jaguars, Diego, bugs, climbing and running and playing ball. She has shown zero interest in anything princess, but does love her baby sister and taking care of her baby dolls. She is going to be a dragon for Halloween this year and is so excited. She has also decided that baby sister will be a dinosaur. I, too, worry so much about future bullying and stereotyping because she is beautiful, loving, sweet, and imaginative and energetic, athletic and....and innocent. She loves and feels all of life with her whole heart and I know she can be hurt. But all I can do is tell her all of these wonderful things I love about her always and tell her she is perfect and loved....always loved...no matter what.
refoh htiaf - Mine dresses as a princess, paints his nails, and pretends to be He-man when he talks to people. Nice mix of interests. :)
rehcsif nasus - No matter if this is a phase or a potential lifestyle for your son, I believe he is going to be one of the most open and honorable men out there. I have plenty of pics of my middle son at age 3 playing dress up in his sister's clothes and he also liked to be naked as much as possible until at least age 5. I always want my children to express who they are and be proud of that, even if it is against society's norms. He is 12 now, he doesn't dress in girls clothes and he does not walk around naked, but I will tell you what he does do, he does have a huge, open heart and he walks on a path of not only tolerance, but of acceptance for others. Social Justice issues are very important to him even at age 12. You sound like a wonderful loving mother to me!
naggalcam nonnahs - I think children only want to eat ice cream and cupcakes because most parents dangle it over their heads for the sake of rewards and punishments. I think if we treated children like actual human beings rather than annoyances to be managed, we would see that they want to do well, eat well, learn, please etc. Just like a child will learn to read when he is ready and it makes sense for them, not when a parent or teacher dictates the terms.
drahc nire - Have a son (4) with very similar interests. Adores dressing up like a princess, having his nails done, purple has been his favorite colour for almost 2 years. He is currently growing his hair long and sometimes wears a pink headband to school. He also takes a ballet class and he had one little boy say to him last year 'dancing is for girls'. It makes me sad. My son, and yours, are beautiful, sensitive beings and I wish they'd be allowed to grow without the judgment and comments. How come no questions when a girl wears blue? Congratulations to you on being a WONDERFUL, loving mother to your son. I am proud of you and know you are not fighting this alone!
kcochctih htebasile eneri - I love you sooo much for being so wonderful to your wee man. Look how happy he is. You are such an inspiration. Much love to you and you son and your whole family! :D (y) ♥ ♥ ♥
rolyat issej - Love this too! Unfortunately, as they grow older, the comments from other closed-minded people will drag him into conformity. My son is eight now, and I couldn't be with him 24/7 to help him work through the harassment when he wanted to wear nail polish and butterflies and flowers out of the house. :-( he doesn't even go out to play anymore. I just want him to stay innocent and true to himself forever, but it doesn't work in this society that's obsessed with putting people into molds and ridiculing them if they don't fit.
elknih ruon einnoc - DD played exclusively with Thomas the Train until she was 3yo. Then it was horses, then Star Wars and now at 12 it's archery & soccer. We've raised her to explore the world and know no matter what she did out there, she'd always be accepted back here.
reltub latsirhc - For the most part, people are allowed to raise their children how they see fit. I support traditional gender roles. I don't encourage my son to pursue activities traditionally pursued by girls. Nor do I encourage him to dress like a girl or to be feminine. To each his/her own. If others want to do so with their kids, that's their choice and right. I don't judge them. As for me and my family, we don't play like that.
sekao enaj azile - My son (3) loves bugs and trucks and cats. And pink and books and dirt. I wouldn't be able to push him into dresses and nail polish if I wanted to. He's just not fancy. But I do encourage his interests, whatever they are (with safety in mind, I will never encourage his interest in running around the house with a blanket over his head, running into walls). I loved the part about not wanting to cut his options in half. How is he supposed to discover what he likes if I'm standing in the way, trying to guide him away from perfectly innocent things? What if he misses out on a passion for fashion because I told him boys don't wear pink, or boys shouldn't spend so much time making sure their outfit matches? That would be a shame. He really has an eye for color. I know that most people aren't ready for throwing out traditional gender roles, but they will be eventually. Maybe he will contribute to that when raising his own kids. And he will remember that his parents never tried to stifle his interests.
sekao enaj azile - ^ That would certainly be unhealthy. But headbands? Yeah, I think he'll be fine.
naloot reimroc elocin - My son who is now 7 is sandwiched between two sisters. He has alway played dress up with them. One day he asked me to buy him a dress in Nordstrom. My husband and I have never sex stereotyped out kids so I thought why not? So I bought the dress, he wore it around the house and eventually tired of it. He grew out of his dress stage as he did other stages. But when I bought the dress all I thought was, "He will always know that I accept him amd love for who he is no matter what."
warccm nosamoht arat - My 3 yr old son doesn't really have any feminine interests BUT I loved this article & shared it bc it's what UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is all about!!! I have more than 1 friend who's sons do these things & 1 boy started withdrawing & pushing away from his father bc he'd come home from work & "shame him" & correct him when he was dressed up in his sister's tights, a dress or cheerleader outfit (the mom allowed him to do what made him happy)....the Dad finally realized he was losing a valuable relationship with their 3 yr old son, who's now 4 & he started accepting him & not "getting on to him" for dressing like a girl & guess what? The boy doesn't do it as much anymore....not that it would matter if he did....but the point is, the boy just wanted to be loved & accepted for who he was CHOOSING to be, not scolded when his Dad came home from work for something so petty! I live in the South & my boys hair is a little long & curly & I just to dress him smocks quite often & still occasionally do & people either love it or hate it, but it makes me SO MAD when people tell me I'm making my boy girly, a sissy or confusing him for putting him in a BOY's smocked outfit, like a Jon Jon or longall! I don't dress him that way daily & never did....he looks precious in shorts & tees too...but, I like both looks & if HE didn't want to wear it, I wouldn't force him too...I try to give him options with clothes & shoes as it helps him learn INDEPENDENCE! Keep fighting the good fight, mamas!!! ❤
hcarb eitak - I recently found my daughter playing tea party with her cars. I couldnt help but feel like a proud mother :)
- My sweet girl is 10 1/2 months old. She wakes to nurse at least three times per night. So, I am (Type: link | Published: 2013-10-08T17:00:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: My sweet girl is 10 1/2 months old. She wakes to nurse at least three times per night. So, I am wondering when other breastfeeding, bed sharing babies finally slept through the night. Please share!Comments:
dnarbedlih yrallih - Around 2 years. Sorry to be a downer, ha
esiw eimaj - 3.5 years old...I'm tired.
srelles tenaj - my babies sleep with me until they decide otherwise. they sleep through the night after they wean.
zenitram aicila - Not sure. I was too busy sleeping to pay attention
leznew refinnej - About 3 is when the scale tipped to more sleeping nights. But, they all still wake. Heck, I wake to drink or bathroom.
rebes rebma - Both of mine always have except for when they were teething but I consider STTN to be a 6 hour stretch.
itfeh adnerb - Um, he still doesn't? He's over 4 years old. Hahahaha!
veyabalab htebazile - Six weeks for all three. My kids always slept like rocks... I think I must have maybe been sleep-nursing them!
psiwt retniw - Almost 3 and not yet...oh wait, I'm almost 30 and I still don't. Such a crazy expectation when it's natural to wake throughout the night. Only difference between adults and babies is that adults can usually fall back asleep on their own.
htims lehcar einahpets - Hasn't yet :-( going on 28 months
sekao enaj azile - He's three and has some nights where he doesn't wake up until morning, but usually it's more like 3 or 4am. Still though! It was every two hours for over two years so I'll take it!
relheukmiel .d yk - At a couple weeks
dleifwen lebanna - I slept through night feeds so they just didn't really bother me! But she didn't sleep through without waking till 3
rendrag halil - It took her about 4 years - once she stopped nursing.
retlawkcub yralih - Still nursing 3 or so times a night at 17 mos, more when teething...more as in, like a newborn. :)
gnireed ylloh - It happens sometimes now! And he sleeps alone mostly now too. He will be 3 in December. :)
notgnirreh tnannet allicsirp - Every child is different. Just remember that after the first year, the parent's needs are as important as the child's and so any solution you discover must meet both sets of needs!
nytram haras - If you define sleeping through the night as 5 hours straight (which is how its usually defined for babies) then my current baby has been since she was about three weeks old. Goes to bed around 9:30, wakes up once between 3-5 to eat, goes right back to sleep til around 7 :-)
namsdnal nodgdoh yelrebmik - 6 YEARS. And at ten my husband still lays with him until he's asleep in his own bed.u lovely son likes to tell us that "if we hasn't coslept he'd be more confident to sleep on his own. Oy vay
notgnirreh aromak - umm, we're at 20 months and I have no answer...yet!
nameeb nej - My 3 yr old is just starting to sleep all the way through a 10-12 hour stretch. If we're considering 5-6 hours to be STTN then since maybe 10 months.
- Love this list....what would you add as Number 11?? (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-12T22:01:52+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Love this list....what would you add as Number 11??Comments:
gnilsek kcirme tegdirb - Lose all vanity during the nursing years. :)
rede elleinad - Unintentionally memorize theme songs to kids shows, get them stuck in your head, and get caught in public singing them to yourself
yelsnit arod - The other day my toddler had a bogey up his nose and in the absence of a tissue I picked it out with my fingers!!! I just said to my husband I never thought I would do that for another person...
nerraw ydoj - Use my saliva and thumb to clean my kids face! I used to HATE that when my mother would do that, and here I'm doing it too! When you don't have wipes what do you do? Lol
drawoh .l acire - No to #8! Never could stand tardiness and still can't!
uwkuhcogu ellehcim - Starve and learn to eat cold food. Mama doesn't eat until the baby is all taken care of!
rekcumhcs acinorev - Absolutely do NOT catch vomit in my hands.
hsuk epoh ecidnac - 11. Let your kid eat food off of (your own) floor because you are too exhausted to get to it first or replace it.
nostrebor eirrac - Develop spider senses. I can tell what they're doing and it baffles them.
nnub eiluj - Sleep the coma-like sleep of a teenager. Any little sound rouses you. My mom told me that once you're a parent, you never sleep as soundly as you did before, and so far, she is right.
yllennod refinnej - Feel guilty about things you swore you would never feel guilty about... From the second you find out you are pregnant! It never ends...
nryb yllas - My 11: lie to ur kids about whether the park, pool, Wal-Mart, ice cream store is open.
nosnhoj reltehs nirak - Hide in the dining room to catch up on Facebook. Guilty...
woh dna yhw :gniloohcsemoh - Value your own life far more because your child depends on you.
htims erodam ylloh - Pick a nose that isn't yours!
eirrauqcm nospmis asil - Get over the idea that you NEED 8 hours sleep to function!
nelliuq ydnarb - I'll never forget the first time I caught vomit in my hands. It was in the car & my husband was laughing so hard. I had to yell at him to pull over.
egroeg ylime - 11.)Tell another human to not bite you..
ettemelliug eiram anirbas - Be glad that a child is throwing a fit in a store-because for once it's not yours.
yrats m nwad - #11 pick a bugger off your friend's toddler's nose without thinking twice.
sanilég eirélav - Taking your shirt to wipe your toddler's nose because you dont have a kleenex and there's juste NO WAY you are leaving the park so soon just for a stupid kleenex ;-).
- Olivia Wilde isn’t the first celebrity mom to make a point of showing off her choice to breas (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-11T21:32:43+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Olivia Wilde isn’t the first celebrity mom to make a point of showing off her choice to breastfeed, and she won’t be the last, but some are saying that this beautiful shot in the Sept ’14 issue of Glamour is doing more harm than good.Comments:
edisdoow esaertap - Personally, it seems like all I ever hear is how HARD breastfeeding is and how if it just doesn't work in the beginning then you should just give up. I think it's wonderful how many women are actually even TRYING to breastfeed and if celebrity endorsements and photos help more women even TRY or even give it serious consideration, how can that be a bad thing? By the way, PARENTHOOD is hard. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't advertise the positives of it. Lord knows parenting (and breastfeeding) could use more good and glamorous press. Maybe it will make some people try harder. You never know.
And I think this is a beautiful photo! Makes her look like as glamorous and powerful as we women should FEEL while and about breastfeeding our babes. It is a pretty incredible thing! :)
raeydoog hakeber - I cannot comprehend the debate. She did a photoshoot; I read her comments on Twitter. Baby got hungry, she fed him and allowed them to photograph it. So what? It's a very nice photo. The baby even peed on her beautiful, expensive dress lol. I don't see the issue.
noremac nnej - So because some people find breastfeeding difficult, the ones who don't are supposed to hide and not talk about it? I think breastfeeding needs to be normalized. I don't see what there is to debate about.
byzrg madits rebma - Its just stupid there is a debate at all. Bottle moms can continue to use bottles and breastfeeding moms should be free to breastfeed its really not a matter for debate. Don't like watching breastfeeding or looking at the photos than don't look. Same with bottle feeding don't like it don't look.
resset namtla eirojram - She's pretty daring to nurse a naked baby in that fancy dress!
muab iksweleim ellehcim - The moment you spend any time debating this sort of thing, patriarchy wins. Stop it.
egavas anitsirhc - I'm starting to become really tired of reading all the BFing drama. I'm gonna have to get rid of all my natural parenting blogs. I breastfeed and I'm tired of everyone debating. I don't care what everyone else does or doesn't do. I do it because I can and its best for my kids. I realize its not always so simple but seriously can we STOP discussing it.
renttib eitsirhc - The more breastfeeding is normalized the better. It doesn't really matter if it is glamorous or not.
yelnoc-kyrakot asil - Debate? Over this? What has happened to our world?
ycats elocin - What's there to debate? First it was BFing moms vs FFing moms, now it's every day BFing moms vs celeb BFing moms. Guess what we ALL have in common: we're MOMS! Stop the mommy wars. I'll never look like a Victoria Secret model, but I don't pitch a fit because they make it look so easy to look so great lol. Cmon people lol.
mlazrednav yelsew - They say "Causes Debate" and you then believe there is something to debate. This is classic NLP.
It's like saying "The debate over spanking sparked anew" when in fact the debate is long over, spanking is harmful and assult.
etihw lehcar - I think it is great and is helping to normalize it. Whether it is hard to do or not is not the question.
rehcsif nasus - I think it helps normalize breast feeding. And, yes, it's not easy in the beginning, but the more we see breast feeding in the media the more "normal" it will become. More power to her!
egavas anitsirhc - One more thing.. The reason I'm tired of it is that there is just so much negativity in the comments always.
setakakralc epolenep - Sheesh! I cannot wait for the day when everyone just relaxes and chills out!!!
zevetse-arerbac oecam - I don't understand how breastfeeding became a choice. We naturally produce milk. We choose to stop it, not start it.
nosnahpets ydnam - Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it's hard. That's why I made a point of doing two photo collages on my Instagram page to show both the easiest and hardest versions with my son - same baby, different days. You know what? Both are ok! Every breastfeeding relationship, heck every breastfeeding session, is different. Anyone up in arms about a mama looking fancy while easily nursing her baby needs to examine their perspective. For her, that's everyday life. That should be ok too.
zelaznog anitsirc mrotslaciport - There's only a debate because some websites are trying to stir the pot
senoj yma - I think it's a great picture. Obviously this is not a newborn. The first few weeks are the hardest. Celebrate what you love instead of bashing others for what you hate!
htims srewob anit - Dammed if you do, dammed if you don't. Why does everything have to cause controversy? She was doing something natural and thought it was sending a good message to support breast feeding. Not everyone can do it, but those who can shouldn't have to deal with others shaming them for it or calling it indecent. I breast feed three of my sons with no problems. My fourth was born premature and sent 77 days in the NICU. He's had all sort of problems including feeding problems and I have to bottle feed him my milk. I keep trying to get him on the breast but at five months, we still struggle to make the few times a week we are successful work. I think this is a beautiful photo and I don't feel like it is meant to throw her ability to do this in anyone's face.
yekcam anitsirhc - Dear everyone,
Calm the eff down, for some it's easy, for some it's hard. Nothing worth fighting over.
- I have a pack ‘n play. Before my first was born, I dutifully set it up right next to the quee (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-11T17:24:40+0000)
Mothering Magazine: I have a pack ‘n play. Before my first was born, I dutifully set it up right next to the queen-sized bed I shared with my husband. I bought five sheets for it. I was doing what I had read was the “best” way to …Comments:
sretniw acceber - I think the "hard" decision would be to put the baby in another room... We brought our son home the day he was born -took a picture of him in front of his crib- then brought him into the bed with us. We currently have two kids in the bed, not telling their ages, but it's all good and fun, and bedtime is a joy!
ecir pirtdnannej - Why is that a hard decision?
kcammow yecnahc haras - So many family unintentionally sleep with their babies, not aware that there are safe ways to bed share. I find it so sad that there is such a stigma that mothers don't feel free to talk to the pediatrician without fear of being admonished. It would be so much better to instead make safe bed sharing standards easy to find. The "don't ever bring baby to bed with you" recommendation is a dangerous one.
ahcum nredom - Not a hard decision for me with any of my 4 kids. Best decision I made.
nagol eelyk - I had to go to a cardiologist once. My daughter came up in conversation and he immediately asked about this. He then lectured on the dangers. My reponse was "wow you are a cardiologist AND a pediatrician AND a child sleep expert? Impressive." he shut up :-)
hsiap rehtaeh - We have a family bed. My 7month old sleeps with us. We love it and i dont plan to move her out of the family bed untill she asks to sleep in her big girl bed. Dont we all want to sleep cuddled with the people we love?
ahsyates arasalak - No other mammal makes their babies sleep away from them. It is not natural. Humans forget sometimes that we too are mammals and by design are meant to stay close to our young.
yhganoccm adnama - The only hard part has been dealing with other people's disapproval. But oh well!
knar drallats htebazile - It wasn't a hard decision- it was natural and easy. :)
reztlem llij - All other mammals co-sleep with their babies - what is that telling us?
gninnap ztnalf eiggam - I LOVE bedsharing. There is nothing more natural. It shouldn't even have a name. I tell everyone how much I love it. I honestly believe it's safer, because nothing can escape my knowledge, and I can feel and hear him breathing and moving. We are so in sync. Plus, there's the bonus of feeling his little feet on my belly, his tiny hands on my arm or face or chest, his little forehead and fuzzy hair under my lips. And his smiles when he wakes up. There's no better start to the day than when we wake up together. Parents who sleep separately from their little ones just don't know what they're missing.
sniggol nosliw nej - I never really intended on bedsharing, but a baby waking to nurse every 2 hours quickly changed that. I co-slept with my baby son in my bed, only having to wake for a second to roll over and latch him on, then quickly fall back asleep while he did his 3am feeding. I seriously don't know how people function who do the whole crib thing. I was so exhausted when mine were infants that I could barely manage the rolling over and lifting my shirt part of the feeding. I can't imagine having to physically get up out of a deep sleep, walk down the hall, pick the baby up out of the crib and sit up for a feeding. A lot of couples fight about midnight feedings, we never did because of bedsharing and breastfeeding my husband always got a good night's sleep and so did I.
aryzok nagem - I had such guilt that we bedshared with our son, from about a month old, to now, at 2 years old. As a pediatric nurse, I feel that it's always been my dirty little secret. Thank you for this article.
yessuh htims airotciv - As a NICU nurse, I had to put behind 25 years of telling other parents not to bed share. Amazing how easy it was for me, my husband and son to bed share.
izzehg adnerb - It was hard for me to listen to myself and not the main stream that it was something bad and harmful.
nahcm rolyat - I couldn't imagine not getting to cuddle with Kaya. We fight about who gets to cuddle her. Haha. We have a great bed sharing relationship. We all get the most sleep possible and get to share so much special time together! It has been so easy to transition her into my life with love and respect for her, and we are all learning so much about life together. I would highly recommend co sleeping! It's easy to let your instincts take over on some things!
remmirg yram - Best thing we ever did. We all slept better. Of course the crib became a toy box !!
smailliw alyak - I have done it without thought. I do what my instincts tell me to do. I love having my babies sleep next to me :)
iccumat ynaffit - Bed sharing was such a natural decision for me. Like the author stated it was not my intention but after my oldest was born it just naturally happened and I educated my self on how to do it safely.
level nire - Ashley this is a wonderful article!!
yabyevreh tuobaesiurc soma ssej - The midwife at hospital told me to put my baby on my chest and go to be 2 days old
- It began simply by reading the medical literature myself so I could more confidently explain th (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-09T18:35:03+0000)
Mothering Magazine: It began simply by reading the medical literature myself so I could more confidently explain the risks and benefits to parents. However, when I read the literature, I realized that the purported benefits simply didn't make sense and the risks were not ethically acceptable.Comments:
gnireog hael - My one month old had to see a urologist and we told him he was intact. The dr. asked why we didn't circumcise and I replied, "because it isn't medically necessary" and I prepared for a fight. He replied, "ok good, it isn't. I have three sons and they weren't circumcised." He went on to say that his adult son did opt to be circumcised and I was so happy that he wasn't gonna fight us and that his son got to make that decision in lieu of it getting made for him.
tserofed anala - The rudeness of anti-circ folks tells me we made the right decision TO circumcise our son. Each parent is doing what THEY believe is best for their child, being hateful only makes me LESS likely to consider your insights.
tuhregnif nnyl - Saying intact is cleaner isn't rudeness. It's science.
ayom eobraj ytsirc - I was a nursery nurse for years....this is truly the most barbaric thing I have ever witnessed! The docs claim they will numb the baby, most lie, use numbing cream then cut them! The baby is strapped down to a circ board and screams a blood curling scream! It's awful!!!!
reparcs hteb - How is it an act to show THEIR devotion if they aren't even old enough to understand religion let alone worship some one
rekrab swal refinnej - When I was a pharm rep, I called on urologists and it never failed they were always talking about fixing botched circs. So sad! And unnecessary.
ollenob trawets nire - Yes, Lisa, a personal decision for the person to whom the penis belongs. No one else 💔I'm sorry that happened to your son.
snikrep htebazile hannah - My son is circumcised and I don't regret it in the least. I have read far too many articles of its benefits. He was perfectly fine, healed perfectly fine, and wasn't in pain for very long. It's like if he had a tongue tie and needed it clipped. Short pain he'll never remember, comforted at my breast right away.
namesab anaid - God created boys the way he did for a reason. Circumcision is unnatural and unnecessary. None of our 5 sons was circumcised nor were my father and two brothers. None of them and no one I know has had problems. Circumcising all because of medical problems of a few is wrong. Of course circumcision may be necessary for some due to a medical problem.
nodlehs noid nasus - When my first son was eight days old, my husband forced a circumcision, I saw the pain in my babies eyes and swore he no longer trusted me. My second son was not circumcised I am glad for that. If you want to be cut wait till your are grown and can make that choice yourself.
kavon eel nnyl - When I was pregnant with my son, my obstetrician told me she had been required to assist with circumcisions during her residency. She told me she had seen babies faint from the pain. She said circumcision was up to me, but she would not be the doctor doing it. She was against it. She didn't circumcise her son. I decided to leave my baby boy intact. He's 21 now, and when I asked him about it, he said it has never been an issue for him.
enoihccannap aneri - The article didn't give me any scientific reason for not circumcising except "buy my book"
nihsika-kcibab elocin - So , Melissa ... Do you have trouble keeping your vagina clean?
What a pleasant way that your "lord" would like you to demonstrate your devotion by cutting on your newborn baby .
nannarb yeliah adnama - We chose not to curcumcise. We just didn't find it necessary.
noslen-enraeh ear alnek - Why is this anyone else's concern? Do what you think is best for your child. It's your business. Not the rest of the world's.
reparcs hteb - And are forced to undergo the procedure kicking and screaming without consent
skciw ylime - If circumcision really prevented STD'S why do circumcised guys need to wear condoms?
inimodeciv asil - We didn't have our son circumcised and when he was about a year old the skin grew closed (he couldn't urinate)and he had to have an emergency circumcision. That was horrible. As all things with mothering and parenting ...it's a personal decision. :)
ollenob trawets nire - Melissa, that is Old Testament---and it was NOtHiNG like the circ's performed today!
uaenurb alegna - What a useless interview! The interviewer did not probe what didn't add up, not a pinch of science from either end. Sigh
teram ol - about friggin time, that doctors started speaking out about this, instead of just making money from hurting our babies.
- When I was a kid, I loved the television show Let’s Make a Deal. I especially loved the segme (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-08T21:18:39+0000)
Mothering Magazine: When I was a kid, I loved the television show Let’s Make a Deal. I especially loved the segment in which the host, Monty Hall, would ask a woman from the audience to find some obscure item in her purse, such as a paper clip or supermarket receipt.Comments:
reyd yeliab htebazile - I'm too tired to add it all up. But surely having a loose guinea pig under my chair adds an extra 50 points to whatever it is?
rapsak nahganom nelle - 130. But you have to understand...this week is the first time in fifteen years i haven't had one kid or the other with me for more than 24 hours. They went to two different sleep away camps and I've had 5 days of peace!
elpeet reyob nasus - My kids are in their 20s but I scored points for still having Goodnight Moon and the Womanly Art on my bookshelf! :)
ort aras - Lol.. I didn't tally but I answered yes to most of the items so.... My house is a mess :)
rezloh ellehcim ytsim - Thanks to the FLYlady I only have 115 points and I have seven children ages 13 years- 17 months :) I am impressed with my low score ;)
eudal ailema - 10 points for The Baby Book. But I only have a 6 month old. My points will add up over the next 10 years.
rehcnim latsyrc - 70. Yay for the bonus, I was only at 20 before that. (2 sippy cups).
nedrub haras - 135! Loved the bonus at the end...ha!
yelxol nna - 0....seriously, none of that in my living room. Nvc and ocd can indeed work together!
nager'o nidorrep yduj - My baby is 18 now... But when all 3 kids were little I would have scored higher than I should admit!!!
llerbmik eruhs al ytsirk - Geez, I was only at 25, and I have a 22 month old.
sagrav nej - 25. They didn't ask about the kitchen, though!! Lol
ecneps acissej - 125 some of you are really gross and need to clean your house!!!
onafla esorbma'd assilem - 161 and I have 4 under 2 1/2.
nameloc rim - I'm annoyed that this quiz assumes everyone owns a couch...
trebmuh htebazile - I just got a 250! As I clean the couch with red food coloring on it because my child made herself some lava juice. And spilled it.
rennat rebuh zil - Just had our disgusting couch cleaned yesterday!
eladsgar ardnassac - I feel like I'm missing out I got a zero. No couch family room.
reizarf elleumej - Only 45 points for me
sredlihc ymmik - 75, thanks for the bonus! lol
seknon ymmat - 95 for me. Is that good or bad
- One of our most popular breastfeeding articles of all time! (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-06T14:00:31+0000)
Mothering Magazine: One of our most popular breastfeeding articles of all time!Comments:
salibrib-kcirederf rebma - Yeah, those covers are a mess! However, I nursed four kids whenever and wherever they were hungry and I never had any trouble keeping my breast covered. If my shirt didn't do the job, a small scarf or blanket did. And no, I didn't cover my babies' heads. Just my breast.
I REALLY wish more mamas were talking about how easy it is to nurse without exposing parts you don't wish to. I think articles like this only make modest mamas think breastfeeding is not for them :( I think that the majority of people that wish nursing mamas used a 'cover' are asking for the breast to be covered- not the baby. Yeah, there are sickos with mommy issues that hate breastfeeding. But most people just aren't comfortable with strangers' naked breasts. And that's kinda fair, IMO.
I do realize that the article makes no direct mention of exposure levels! But it also doesn't mention how to cover yourself if it makes you feel more comfortable.
Also, in nursing four kiddos anywhere and everywhere with my breast COVERED, I only ever got positive feedback from people (Midwest towns, the Deep South, and the East Coast- so not just in progressive locations!) Not one single dirty look or rude remark. I also wish more people talked about that. Forget the haters. Focus on positivity and encouragement ❤️
nosive ylime - I nursed both my children wherever, and however I wanted. Interestingly, one actually fed better with a cover. I often wear long scarves, and so would just create a silky tent over my arm and his head whilst we were nursing. Without it he would be distracted by the world around us, but the scarf created an intimate space for us both.
.p sogellag efam - Take the cover out of the nappy bag. Hand it to the person suggesting you use it. Say 'you are welcome, when you've finished your meal give it back'. Bam!
sngised daeh ym fo tuo - Wonderful essay! I loved the phrase "nursing exile" at the end. Don't new mothers sometimes feel isolated enough without being sent away to feed their babies!? Thanks for sharing!
nnamuen esile - I love nursing, am now nursing baby #3. But I just want to contribute that I feel far more comfortable nursing in public WITH a cover than without. If it's too hot or baby isn't interested in cover or whatever, I take those situations one at a time and decide what to do, often ditching the cover while making sure I'm still modest enough to make myself comfortable. I'm not afraid of what others are thinking or trying not to offend people. I want my point of view to be supported too! I want it to be ok that I would RATHER nurse with a cover. Please, friends?
moolb nambul asil - Whether you use a cover or not (and I did) it's not difficult to be modest when nursing...I don't understand why some women insist on completely exposing themselves in public ..personally, I have actually never seen a woman completely expose themselves in public to nurse but it sure becomes the standard to debate... I do agree women should be able to nurse wherever they want to...standing, sitting, walking...just with some effort of modesty...
htims naitsirhc refinnej - I was very lucky that I never had a single negative comment in the two years I nursed my son on airplanes, in shopping malls, in parks, at the grocery store, in restaurants -- wherever we happened to be. Maybe I exuded some "Don't f--- with me" vibe, but I don't recall getting so much as a snide glance from anyone. And I never used a cover, either!
otudreps einalem - Just yesterday I was feeding my 6 month old in a Burger King playplace when a toddler came up to me to see what I was doing, she was there with her Grandmom and Gramma came over and picked her up and told her she can play with the baby again after he's done eating if he doesn't fall asleep!
I have to say that all the people who complain about the older generation just haven't met the right people yet. Maybe I'm just lucky to live in a progressive area, but I have yet to come across anyone who has a problem with my baby eating! And that makes me very happy :-D
danas mo - If the baby is used to the cover, it will be just fine
yeltom lirpa - The covers are for other people's comfort and completely rediculous. My baby hated mine so I never used it. If someone doesn't want to watch a mother feed her baby they don't have to look. My child doesn't have to suffocate under a hot blanket because someone is uncomfortable with me feeding my child. People are rediculous.
sllew assilem - The amount of comments calling breastfeeding women inconsiderate disturbs me. As a non-mother myself I have to say that a baby feeding from its mother is not offensive. People wearing PJs in public is offensive, People bullying others in public is offensive but a tiny flash of boob flesh...definitely not.
smis enilegnave - It is funny about people who complain about women who let it all hang out when breastfeeding, but I've never come across that, and I certainly never did. Mostly, I've seen mom's who are able to nurse without a fuss and no one is the wiser.
I'm large busted and I tried to use a cover just so I wouldn't flash people while getting my daughter latched. It worked for a couple months, then, she would grab the cover off and cry, which drew more attention than just latching her quickly. I did have my mom throw a hat at me once to cover myself when I nursed my daughter in a park, but other than that, no one has bothered me about nursing without a cover.
streeg ekjiram - I was very surprised when reading this article. I live in Belgium and I have only had positive reactions to breastfeeding. Also in France, Italy ... Is the US that conservative?!
mahnwod-nworb yecats - My first loved the nursing cover but my second whips that thing off in a hot second, so the world is just going to have to deal with it. :)
llewen atrebor - Those are nothing but a flashing neon sign screaming "Mother is nursing!!!"
eloirp acceb - As someone commented in the original article - "you try eating with a blanket on your head and see how enjoyable that is" which I agree with. It's breastfeeding for godsake. It's healthy! It's natural! It's 15-30 mins to give a little person the most complete nutrients they will ever have. Teenagers are walking around with their asses almost completely hanging out but a new mom can't show the top half of her chest? No, we need to address the standards here.
nnamznih nahbois - As I read this I nurse my 4 week old, completely exposed. 😉 Deirdre Traylor
nosbig eeg - I've always used a cover as I have big boobs and my baby has always been easily distracted. When we are at home he now brings me the cover when he wants a feed. I personally don't see what the big deal is with covering up if that's what you want to do.
zurc aled eiram assenav - It's so hard to cover up your baby when your nursing. 1) it's not an easy task for them because they work out when they nurse, sweat. 2) you sweat, and it's a workout for you as well.. First time moms become VERY engorged, chances are the baby is having a hard time latching so chances are you may get mastitis (breast infection)
It's just not easy as times to just cover up!!!! If ppl don't like woman nursing the babies in public they can just look away!!!! Us moms invest too much time, patients, our bodies to give a SH** about ppl hating on us for feeding our babies in public, or not covering up!!!!
nosliw llessur - Why nurse with a cover at all its perfectly natural and there's absolutlely nothing wrong with it
rekab ogaitnas ana - My boy used to grab the cover out of the bag and hand it to me whenever he wanted to nurse. I miss those times!
- It's World Breastfeeding Week so we'll be featuring some of our favorite nursing articles over (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-04T17:00:35+0000)
Mothering Magazine: It's World Breastfeeding Week so we'll be featuring some of our favorite nursing articles over the next few days! Here's one from Mayim Bialik (Blossom, Big Bang Theory) written especially for Mothering. I realize that many here disagree with Mayim about circumcision, but let's please keep the comments focused on breastfeeding. She's shared her honest experience in the hope of helping other moms in this article and--just like any other mama--she deserves respect. :) Enjoy!Comments:
xuaedobiht nerual - Is this going to turn into an Isreali vs Palestinian, pro-circ vs intactivist, breastfeeding vs formula conflict? If so I'll go make popcorn
Edit: if someone starts yelling about vaccines my day will be made.
nytram haras - CAN WE PLEASE KEEP THIS POST POLITE AND ABOUT BREASTFEEDING?!?
snrub nampahc yllek - Routine genital cutting isn't recommended, nor is it even remotely necessary; it is considered cosmetic surgery. Not only am I a med assist in peds, but I have two years experience in urology, am also trained in the o.r., and I help co-direct Intact New York. I'm also a mom to a whole little boy.
There is a greater chance of death as a result of the surgery than ever medically needing one. No special treatment is required for a normal penis; just wash like a finger. Never retract an infant's/child's foreskin!
Remember: being born a male isn't a medical condition or a birth defect. All mammals, male,female, and intersex, are meant to have foreskin. Please feel free to message me with any and all questions. Let's save your little boys!
nna lehcar - Would you demand respect if she had her daughter circumcised for religious reasons, but still breast fed?
snrub nampahc yllek - Mayim? Really?! What a poor role model for attachment parenting.
attachment parents support both sexes, not just girls.
ijar newlo - such a shame she only promotes attatchment parenting for some babies and openly funds a war agsinst others
nna lehcar - She's lucky her kid breast fed after 20,000 nerve endings were removed from his body. Not every baby or mom are so lucky.
etnoc nohtanoj - Genital mutilation is the antithesis of attachment parenting.
nosdrahcir ivhsak aivilo - How can you take someone seriously when they torture babies because a thousands of years old book says to? No, her breastfeeding story doesnt interest me, and Im tired of this baby mutilator being lauded as the face of attachment parenting. I think cutting pieces off your child while they scream in pain then go into shock is exactly the OPPOSITE of attachment.
hcsrik ylime - Please stop using this cutter's face and story as a representation of attachment parenting. Many of us practice attachment parenting and recognize that our children have the right to bodily integrity and we are OUTRAGED that you continue to put her up on a pedestal! What if she stood by her right to mutilate her daughter's genitals - would you still support her? Shame on you, mothering magazine.
lednam kradnohs ynahteb - It's awesome hearing from a fellow Jewish mother who circumcises in a natural parenting publication.
enots assirak - I didn't see circumcision mentioned in this link at all. It doesn't make sense to me that everyone is so focused on that. This article is about a mom who is helping other moms breastfeed. Her other beliefs shouldn't be a factor, we should just be happy that someone is helping moms who need support.
nosdrahcir ivhsak aivilo - Religious freedom doesnt mean you can carve your religion into other people.
seibabtonseikoocstuc yort - Few things affect breastfeeding as negatively as mutilating a child's genitals. I'd say she's very anti-breastfeeding
damha airam - Knowing that she's a smart woman with a PhD there's really no excuse for circ. She put her religion ahead of her children which is NOT ok!
xuaednolb ymmomsnaicul adnilem - screw her. she mutilates babies and sent bulletproof vests to Israeli soldiers, who are MURDERING palestinians. More innocent childrens lives will be snuffed out by soldiers and bombs because of her. there is nothing GENTLE about that!
nospmoht hael - Wow, you bitches are awful. Thanks for reminding me why I don't hang out with other women.
uelb arual - Sexual=genitals. Assault=a knife taken to said genitals. SEXUAL ASSAULT, yes.
neburnaed ellehcim - Surprise surprise, a child whose penis has been skinned has problems feeding. Duh.
kcalb ecrofniks assiral - When there are now so many strong, female celebrities that promote breastfeeding, why choose one that supports forced genital cutting? It especially doesn't make any sense when you consider the fact that circumcision harms breastfeeding. The source matters. http://www.thewholenetwork.org/twn-news/circumcision-and-breastfeeding-studies
tnuh lehcar - Mothering Magazine - you asked for comments on breastfeeding and yet you allow all this to happen. Why not step up and remove all comments unrelated to the topic. Other pages do it and it's fantastic.
- What is Cry It Out? I’ll tell you, but first I have to climb into the nook under my staircase (Type: link | Published: 2014-08-03T21:29:55+0000)
Mothering Magazine: What is Cry It Out? I’ll tell you, but first I have to climb into the nook under my staircase so no one knows what we’re discussing. Cry It Out is an approach to getting babies to sleep. It was first proposed by Dr. Emmett Holt in 1895 in The Care and Feeding of Children. …Comments:
namttip yksiob enirehtak - How about letting mothers decide what is best for them and their babies and not be so judgmental all the time? For me and my children, I didn't really want to do the CIO method. But I don't judge those that do. Being a parent is hard. Being a tired parent is REALLY hard. Sometimes it's a choice between letting your baby cry and not surviving as a sane parent because you're exhausted and don't know what else to do. Surely we can all agree that mothers using both methods love their children and are doing what they think is best, no? And surely we ALL no adults who were left to CIO as children and have grown up just fine, no? And I'm SURE we all know adults who never were left to cry as babies and perhaps aren't so fine. There's so much more that goes into being a good parent. How about we support decisions or fellow moms are making and stop making them feel bad for every. single. thing? How about set an example of love and support for our babies? Instead of shaming others so that THEY are left to cry and feel alone?
smada ilhsa - Sorry, but "only" crying for 5 minutes!!!??? Torture. Pick up your babies!
aicrag ettenibor etak - Geez, do you realize how desperately long 5 minutes is to a screaming infant??! If you don't want to hold them then don't have them!
htims latsyrc - The reason CIO infants sleep through the night is because they learn early that they can't depend on you.
rendrag yssim - as if letting your baby scream gives you more sleep.... ?
relehs hannah - I don't know about everyone else but I can't function when he cries... It breaks my heart!
ytraccm anitsirc - People always say that the reason people are so "bad" now is because parents no longer spank them enough.
Bologna. Most parents still spank.
We are raising kids with dulled emotions. Everything we do from birth on is centered around ignoring them or not holding them.
They cry? Ignore them.
They misbehave? Stick them in a corner and ignore them.
neslin nyrat - Ok, I just read over this article. It's amazing how many "articles about cio" neglect the fact that you aren't supposed to just leave your kids to cry themselves to sleep. We don't abandon our babies. People need to stop making cio sound far more horrible than it is. It's a step by step progression of parental extinction. You start by comforting your baby after 5 minutes, then after 7 and so on. You are SUPPOSED to go in and let them know you're there, just not rock them to sleep. The idea is for them to learn to self soothe.
kcobraz yssim - I have a better idea, instead of focusing on our own families, we could read articles about things we oppose and take that opportunity to verbally bash other women who are also just trying to raise their families.
We can say things to ourselves like "Man, I'm such a phenomenal mother that I have the authority and desire to make lesser mothers know exactly how terrible they are."
How about if you don't have anything positive to contribute, don't say anything at all.
Or we can start saying things like "Hmmm...I don't agree with this, but it's not really about me. If someone directly asks me for my opinion, I'll be happy to share in a loving and non-judgmental way. Afterall, we all just want to do the best with what we have and believe, and I believe that most people are inherently good."
htims latsyrc - An infant shouldn't need to learn to self soothe. CIO is another term for abandonment parenting. If you can't attend to the needs both physical and emotional of a helpless infant perhaps you should reconsider your choice to have a child. An infant cries because that is how they communicate their needs. Crying is a form of stress.
wahs imim - Ridiculous !!! I could never do it. I read the book Three in a Bed and learned we are the only country that separates our babies into separate rooms in a crib to cry it out alone... Cry what out??? Till they get that no one is coming and they are new to the world and alone after hearing smelling and being carried around for 9 months by their mothers?
abuok rehtaeh - After reading some comments here I'm so sick and tired of the tolerance our culture has when people say let a mother decide what's best for her and her baby...blah blah blah. Some people don't know what's best! Sorry folks in this gray culture there are some black and white areas.
CIO is 👎
neslin nyrat - So apparently because I let my kid cio, I'm a horrible mom. You mother's should be ashamed of yourselves. Not once have I criticized your decisions. And who are you to assume that because I utilize this method, I don't hold my kid enough. I'm a stay at home Mom, I love my kids so much it hurts, I hold them a lot of the time, I attend to their needs, I breastfeed, etc. I don't let my kid scream his lungs out either. I go in, I settle him down, I leave so he learns to fall asleep on his own. It's amazing how much hate some people express because of difference in decisions.
Seriously, people leave their kids in trucks to die, shake them to death and toss them in dumpsters, but sure, call my method abuse.
nitram irotras alegna - There's a reason why hearing your baby scream it's lungs out is heart wrenching bc it's WRONG. Crying is the way for your infant to tell you they need something & that something is wrong. Trust your instincts, don't let them cry. Swaddle, rock, shush, cuddle, feed, whatever works!
grebdnur adnama - As it was taught to me in child development , 15 yrs as an ECE and parent I've come to learn they cry because they are little babies who need their needs met , some as simple as seeing your face!! They do not understand untill 12-15 months that your Comming back when you leave their cognitive ability is simply not there yet. A three month old baby is not manipulating you they need you !!!
ydennek nerak - Babies don't need to be taught to be miserable before going to sleep. They need to be taught that the world is a safe place in which to sleep.
sregor yak - I used the CIO method with all of my children when they turned one. And I am not ashamed one bit. I believe teaching children that falling asleep on their own and that they are okay is a gift. And for the record, all of my children are mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy.
llerbmik eruhs al ytsirk - There are so many ladies at my work who are having babies, and they are talking about how they will train their babies not to be held a lot, and how they will let them cry it out because otherwise the kids get spoiled. They said they give them enough to just get by. One lady said her daughter is a pain in the ass because she wants to be held! I flat out told them that they didn't need to have kids then, and I feel sorry for their children. My daughter always had her needs met, and she is not spoiled. In fact she is very empathetic to animals and other people. At two years old she tries to meet MY needs! She doesn't have tantrums either. I read the book "the no cry sleep solution", and it is wonderful. It teaches the parent how to teach the baby/child how to fall asleep. It's brilliant! The cry it out approach chaps my ass. Sorry for the language everyone!
rolk .m yellek - Not at all true Katherine. Brain development and maturity depend on a solid foundation of having early needs met. Expecting behavior in an infant that is not natural is not good parenting. Take a look at research on brain development before making such comments!
llig gnik ellehcim - I think some people are upset and voicing concern over parents who allow their babies not only to CIO, but Vomit it out, etc... The ones who do allow their very young infants to scream so hard and so long that they vomit or get ear infections... I have no problem calling that abuse... Letting an older baby fuss for a bit, knowing you are there still for comfort is another story... Not my cup of tea, still, but not the same.
sivad yelhsa - Babies need their mother 24/7 sorry but the 'I'm tired' excuse is just that, an excuse CIO is horrific & the very opposite of mothering & the idea that they 'self sooth' is ludicrous. Self soothing requires rational thought which occurs in higher centres of the brain which only start to develop in humans at 36 months, self soothing is impossible for babies they simply learn that crying (the only way they can communicate) doesn't work, so they remain quiet however their anxiety levels remain the same as when they were crying & its proven that the stress hormones cortisol etc impair brain development.
- There is this fallacy out there that to have a natural birth you must be outside of the hospita (Type: link | Published: 2014-07-30T22:08:34+0000)
Mothering Magazine: There is this fallacy out there that to have a natural birth you must be outside of the hospital. I hate this, and not just because my first birth (and first natural birth) was in a wonderful hospital. I dislike this idea because all by itself it discourages women from even trying to have the birth they want because they are birthing in the hospital.Comments:
mala neerfa - How can ANY birth be unnatural! The title is such a turn off.
gnuoy rekcut nire - Absolutely! I had wonderful labor and deliveries and "all natural". Even "caught" my own baby while my OB just sat back and watched
cinhcurp navor eillim - i had a natural hospital VBAC. my husband caught our daughter and handed her to me <3 anything is possible.
yeliad lehcsrem etak - Three unmedicated births in a traditional hospital. Told them what I wanted, the babies were doing well and they did not interfere.
dlobeis ahtnamas - If you get there just an hour before your baby is born all ready at 8cm then definitely! ;)
giarc nej - I had four unmedicated, intervention free hospital births. Take control of your birth. It belongs to you. If there are no medical emergencies then you call the shots.
rekesgineok haras - As an L&D nurse (and student nurse-midwife) who works hard to help moms have the birth they want, I'm so happy to hear these stories! :)
sretep aerdna - It was totally not possible for me to birth naturally in the hospital. My experience was the opposite of what I had hoped. I'm lucky to have a healthy baby though, and I admit that the cs was probably actually needed in my case.
elbon nnyl einafets - Absolutely, I've had two. There were times I had to be more vocal about my wishes than if I'd been in another setting, but I got to birth how I wanted.
dnulgah asil - I've had three beautiful natural births in two different hospitals. Totally possible.
reyom reitlep htebazile - 2 with absolutely no interventions, Meds, machines, etc. A midwife in a hospital! Great experiences!
map anad - Yes, of course! It just takes a warrior of a woman and strong support team! Lots of moms do it. I just prefer to challenge myself a bit less by birthing at home.
srekco eitak - Horrible title!!!! All births are beautiful.
eer nav ellehcim - Absolutely, I labor naturally without any intervention for 22hours then gave birth to our beautiful little girl! Our nurses were in awe especially since we were first-time parents and the percentage at the hospital we were at for first times moms was 85% for C-section or drugs..We went in knowing we wanted to do our best to stay drug and major operation Free Unless absolutely needed be for safety of baby. I am not going to lie and say they did not trying to talk us into C-section a few times saying we may need to cuss baby was so big but because we stood our ground and said unless there is a threat to our babies life there was no way we are doing that, they allowed us to continue to labor naturally!!
dier refinnej - I had an unmediated VBAC at a hospital. It was a very empowering experience.
hguorbray ynnej - It absolutely is! I have had three natural births in the hospital and am so passionate about letting other women know about this option that I wrote a short ebook about it! http://unboundbirth.com
irtahk nna yesdnil - I hate how women are made to feel that having an epidural for pain management makes them somehow weaker than other women, and that having an unmedicated birth after two where i had epidurals i can say I am not a nice person without the meds, granted there is not a lot they can do when you go from 3cm to 10cm and involuntarily pushing baby out in less than an hour, but still.
refiefp ruot al atina - I had a water birth in a hospital assisted by a midwife and no drugs. It was amazing!
eroom remmiw asil - If you mean low intervention and med free, yes I did it twice. I would call any birth of a child natural though.
sehguh grebeerf llij - Natural VBAC in a hospital with my 10 lb baby.
treduad civonecuv ylil - Both mine were unmedicated, with a midwife, at the hospital.
- So, about that whole balance thing. I’m bad at it. Really bad. And as we mothers tend to do w (Type: link | Published: 2014-07-28T21:52:36+0000)
Mothering Magazine: So, about that whole balance thing. I’m bad at it. Really bad. And as we mothers tend to do when expecting baby number two, I’m going through my mental list of things I want to do differently now that I have some experience under my belt.Comments:
gmn erg - Yes! Except for #1😆
nipahc rennob assilam - Definitely not worried about nursing in public with #2 but since we waited 12 1/2 yrs between #1 and #2 putting him down? no way ;) we hold him more than we held #1....
ocsobid allezzam map - I have seven. I held each child much more than the one before. I ran faster to their cries. Having an older child is a reminder that the time is fleeting and precious.
aklicov koorc ainat - The list makes sense in our current culture that has so many barriers to being with our babies. The dust bunny should be picked up by our Tribe when we need those months with the baby & we should be picking it up when others are in need.
sllim itak - These are really good. I have my own mental list, if I do ever have more kids (mine will be 6 next month). The biggest thing for me is to accept that I don't have to do everything perfectly to be a good mother. I beat myself up SO MUCH for things that, in retrospect, were not that important.
laen elohcin ennoid - I will definitely care less about nursing in public
reiriop esined - Funny. I thought opposite for #1! I will wear the baby more ! Get out more often, do more, clean less... Worry less!
eneerg yelhsa - I agree with all but #1. That's what babywearing is for ;)
dranem haras - My poor #2 gets only a fraction of the attention his sister got when she was his age. It tears me up, but he doesn't know any better.
eiram eitsirhc - I am going on 5 and 6....hold them as much as possible. :)
nospmis arat - Except for number one... With each baby I held them more and more
droflag ecir noiram - I ditched the car seat carrier in favor of holding my baby more. It was the best decision we made.
mh aisatsana - #1 and #4 are not true. That baby is a person, too, you know?
ekdub ydissac - Who cares about nursing in public? Woman up. You're the one being a true human being.
ekdub ydissac - This is bullshit. I would still never put my second baby down and constantly worry about their well being...that's what being a mother is all about. It's the name of the game. Again, what an incredibly stupid list.
nedraw nitsirk - Keri Ann Zeigler Kelly we were just talking about this!
itserpol eiluj - Only thing I'd do different with a #2 is put the sleep tricks in place I have learned with baby #1. Hopefully then baby #2 will sleep better in the crib. Baby #1 loves to sleep with me.
drawdoow lezah - Number 5 really resonated with me, I only went back to work at weekends but I worried myself sick that my bf 7 month old baby would starve as he wouldn't take a bottle. I ruined a lot of time worrying about it 😔
kralc seyah asil - Yes, yes, and YES. At least, I'm going to try. ;)
eroom .f ennairam - Taking care of yourself and other things in a reasonable way helps your child to deal with some frustration- in baby-sized pieces.
ekdub ydissac - Wasn't meaning to be 'not nice,' just truthful. I just think it's a little ridiculous. If I had another baby I would act the same way I did with my first. Unconditional love and attachment. It seems like this article was proposing to not show the same affection and worry for your second because you are 'experienced' now. It just rubbed me the wrong way. That's all. Just stating my opinion, just like everyone else