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- His text was jarring, almost disorienting. I stared at the screen for a moment in disbelief, un (Type: link | Published: 2014-12-08T20:00:39+0000)
Mothering Magazine: His text was jarring, almost disorienting. I stared at the screen for a moment in disbelief, unsure of how to respond. Didn’t he know?Comments:
staci sevigny fortunato - The only people stressing over it lately seem to be the ones writing articles and posts against it.
christina dominguez - Instead of Elf on the Shelf we have a Kindness Elf that assigns a new act of kindness to complete that day. For example, donate toys that are no longer played with. My daughter absolutely loves it and it reminds us what the holidays are all about.
kristina murray - We have the Elf and we don't stress about it. Some times I do cute things with her, sometimes I just put her into a different spot.
sherry goes - I refuse to participate in lying to children about Santa, the Easter bunny, tooth fairy. He will know it's all pretend and that the presents come from people... Maybe I will let him create little scenarios for the elf for me instead.
jess owens-shiplett - it's only stressful if you let it be. relax and have fun!
amanda hope - If it stresses you out, I'm pretty sure you shouldn't be doing it. Simple as that. We don't participate. Even my kids find the elf creepy but they are 14 and 11.
nicole eggiman edwards - Audrey Regla Cataldo fricken Elf! Just when im almost asleep..... uggggggg.... I need to move the elf😩
amber myers - I'm too lazy lol....I do have time to lie to my kids about Santa though...eye roll...
holly barger shaneyfelt - Kids are only little once. The magic of the holidays and seeing their eyes light up is an amazing site. Besides, your not lying. If you remember correctly there used to be a real St. Nick. Its just more elaborated now. When I found out that Santa clause wasn't real, I wasn't angry. My mom told me the real story and I still believe. Its an amazing feeling to just believe and have some hope. I could never imagine not letting my children believe in the magic of anything. And we have 2 elves we move around and interact with. Its not difficult and time consuming. Just another fun holiday thing to do and I would do anything to see the smile on their faces and hear them laugh at the silly things they do!
lisa jacqueline nash - I dont find the Elf stressfull at all. Its fun...and the kids get a kick outta it. Totally worth it for the smiles :)
brian jamie bucknell - The elf is making memories at our house that my kids and I will have forever. Plus it makes mornings a little more fun!
kasandra poole - Or how about its just too dang creepy?!
dawn yoder holycross - We don't do Elf on the Shelf, not for any particular reason--just because it seems like "one more thing," in already a busy season. But if it brings you and your family joy to set one up, then do it. Don't stress about the small stuff.
jennifer sanford - I am a school teacher with 5 kids, 11 and under. I find it stressful for sure. I've realized through posts on fb that most families that do this probably have 1 or 2 kids tops and have time to be that creative. I just don't. I told my oldest two girls if they want to be the elf and move him go for it....it lasted 2 days and then they were over it. Goodbye elf, you are not missed.
andrea rey orona - I don't see the elf as a stressful or outdoing situation. I see it as a fun memory for my baby girl. As she waits for her baby brother and has two much older (near graduating) siblings this is something for her! From all of us:) mom, dad, brother and sister have fun thinking of creating be ways for elf to be found in the morning.
joa m. ruiz-norman - Stressing over it? I wait every night (with great joy) for my girls to sleep... so I could find a new spot for Sparkle! I enjoy it! I like to see their faces with joy, and it does not bother me at ALL place her on a new spot every night. Seriously?
laurie plenge dreesen - Oh my god so much whining.
carol ann - Someone bought us the elf when my son was a few months old (he is now four and a half). It sat in the box until last week when I unpacked my Christmas stuff again and decided that he needed to find a home where he would not be forced to live in the box. I am a SAHM and I still cannot figure out how people have time to set up this elaborate ruse. I had magical Christmases during my childhood and they never included the elf, so I think my kids will be OK.
lisa dexter fairfield - My goodness. If it's stressful, don't do it. If you think it's fun, go for it. Most stressful to me is seeing an optional activity being transformed into a debate. There are so many bigger problems in the world.
Next year I'm going to write posts about baking Christmas cookies and how seeing peoples' posts about homemade treats makes me so annoyed. I mean, don't they have better things to do with their time? How dare they make me feel like a less magical mother because I don't bake as many kinds of cookies!
cassie monahan knowlton - Wow I find this post so incredibly sad! I think at some point parent magazine was great for moms and gave us some ideas and suggestions and tips that maybe we didn't find other places. But now I question what it is all about.. We have moms fighting on here about which way is better..... the reality of the situation is that whether you do Elf on a shelf or not or whatever your believe in doing for the holidays...there is nothing wrong with it. A's long as your child feels loved at the end of the day that is what is most important. Besides if every single one of us raisd our family the exact same way the world would be a very boring place there would be no differences in opinion and you grow from differences in opinion you may not always take what you hear or see others do, but you'll take some of it and leave the other stuff behind. Parent magazine should be about support and I feel like when I read these comments it's all about separating everyone. There is no wrong way. Whether you do it or not is not important. what is important is at the end of the day your child feels safe, secure and loved. You do what's best for your family. I loved reading some of the positive ideas on this thread....just sad to see the attacking....no wrong way...just your family's way ;)
becky hubbard - My childhood was void of an "Elf on a Shelf"...but you know what made Christmastime "magical" for me? The same stuff I do with my kids: putting up decorations, a tree with twinkly lights and fun ornaments, bake cookies, create ornaments, time spent w/family, Christmas parties, Christmas music/carols, driving around seeing houses decorated for the season and yes, gifts exchanged on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, and of course the story about Jesus (but that's something we talk about year-round).
- The study suggests that much touted bedsharing risks are not only overemphasized but that the c (Type: link | Published: 2014-12-04T23:25:54+0000)
Mothering Magazine: The study suggests that much touted bedsharing risks are not only overemphasized but that the current recommendations could have unintended, and even dangerous, consequences for parents.Comments:
nicol kocher thompson - There needs to be an initiative to teach safe bedsharing and cosleeping practices, I get so sick of hearing the warnings against even doing it at all.
bronwen felesina - So weird to even think that mammals should sleep apart from their mothers. Just ridiculous.
lena lopez mcdonald - unless you are on heavy drugs or an alcoholic, co-sleeping is the safest place for baby. Many mothers have detected their babies stop breathing and because mommas were alert and aware being so close, they were able to help their babies. SIDS most always happens in a crib, not when co- sleeping. All cultures all over the world have slept with their babies, it is completely natural and beneficial...........who invented the crib anyway, lol
susan wood - co-slept with both my children, now 32 and 19, for a goodly time - they lived; infant fevers were immediately detected by their hot bodies; nursing was a breeze - no screaming in the night (we barely woke up) and they are functional human beings who sleep very well in their own beds.
melissa kuolt rajkovich - I don't pay much attention to the AAP anyway, I know how to raise my children and keep them alive. I've been cosleeping for over two years and my babies are still thriving.
lori meath - I feel sad that something so instinctive has been vilified.
mary e. o'kiersey - I was so afraid that I wouldn't hear my daughter because I was a heavy sleeper I brought her to bead with me. She nursed with no problems and eventually nursed with out waking me. She is 35 with 2 sons of her own.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - SIDS is NOT the same as suffocation. Please do not confuse the two. Many babies also die of SIDS alone in cribs.
amy star-gazer - SIDS used to be called "crib death" for a reason. Guess why the name was changed... (can't sell cribs when there is something called "crib death")
mary littlebrave - I co-slept with all 5 of my children. No problems
heather ramirez - I've never had an issue with it. I've slept in the same bed with both my girls from day one. Helps breastfeeding huge and I am very aware of them at all times.
andrea mercer - Everything is overemphasized with parenting....it's because they have to I guess because there are A LOT of dumb people in the world having babies...
jessica ann grimm - I always wondered if all moms safely bed shared with their babies, would the rate of SIDS drop, and drop the total number of sleep related deaths. This would make bed sharing preferable. I would also like to know the true number of suffocation related deaths in SAFE bed sharing. Deaths related to unsafe practices likely gives the practice a bad name. Could co sleeping protect against SIDS due to a mothers heightened awareness and other benefits such as temp regulation, breathing regulation, and just the fact that there is more supervision? It seems to make sense to me. Personally, I bed shared with all my children, including my twins. Honestly, I never had a major issue with lack of sleep, except maybe in the beginning with the twins. It always felt so natural and worked so well. The idea of putting my tiny baby anywhere else other than by my side seemed counterintuitive and foreign. I don't think I would have slept for all the worrying.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - Dr. James McKenna has amazing research on the safety and benefits of co-sleeping and bedsharing. I regret not doing it with my first child, but it was wonderful to discover it with my other two. Still bedsharing with my 3 yr old. Thriving kiddos here. :)
laurel anne boyd - Scare tactics are very effective when it comes to pushing an agenda.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - Statistically, it IS safe. The rest of the world does this, as did we in this country before we were told not to just a few generations ago.
heidi stane - I talked with a public health nurse today on the phone and she brought up that they attempt to educate parents that may not have enough money for a crib or bassinet to at least put the baby in a dresser drawer to sleep. I was sort of shocked that they actually think bedsharing is a main cause of Sids. I have been co-sleeping since birth, and it's very safe! I think they should spend more time educating people on safe bedsharing.
mary westbrook - Coslept with all three and even at age 6, number three often joins us. Can't over-emphasize the importance of our family bed. Babies belong with their moms and dads.
sherry gentit - Co-sleeping has been great for us. (Currently co-sleeping #5 and will with however many more).
katie harshman - My husband is a very very deep sleeper. I've woken with him on top of me all the way and he doesn't notice. So bringing home my four lb infant was a struggle. What I did was put him on my side only and used my body as a shield against my husband. On the side of the bed, I had a pack and play so if something did happen and he fell off the bed, he wouldn't have fallen much more than six inches. It worked well. You can always figure out how to do this. I feel like sleeping with the premie babies is more important because those little ones will stop breathing. Also, my second son's life was probably saved because he was within inches of me when he stopped breathing. Had he been in another room, I don't even want to think about it.
lee brooke - When you make a conscious decision to share sleep with your children you are much safer and imagine not cosleeping w a breastfed newborn Sara Curry? What would that look like? Up every 45 seconds to feed???
- I think back on all the years of breastfeeding; of the times I hated it and felt trapped, the t (Type: link | Published: 2014-12-02T19:30:36+0000)
Mothering Magazine: I think back on all the years of breastfeeding; of the times I hated it and felt trapped, the times of mastitis. Of the satisfaction that comes from being able to nourish a baby, the gratitude of that way to comfort when babes are ill or teething, anComments:
heather mcclay - The way the title was worded, made it sound like she was breastfeeding a 12 year old.
wendi willett nordell - To the moms who haven't had their nursing relationship end yet, I will pass on this beautiful wise message my friend Christina passed on to me, when I tearfully called her fearing that my daughter had weaned as she had not nursed all day. She said "Rather than think of it as over, just say to yourself 'she hasn't nursed today, but she may tomorrow'" I imagine some where in myself if I had focused on it I would have realized that it was over, all my babies were past that age (she was four) and my years as a nursing mom were done. Instead I rotated those words around in my brain and I weaned myself, in a sense, in a more gentle way! I am grateful to have had this relationship with my kids, one of the best things I have had happen in my life. ❤️good luck all!
susan peterson - I nursed nine over 18 1/2 years. I was either pregnant, nursing, or both for 14 years, then had a brief time,maybe six months when I was neither, before I got pregnant with my ninth, who stopped somewhere between two and two and half. I was in nursing school by then, and she was in a day care right in the building. I used to go nurse her between classes, sitting on the floor in the daycare. When I had to go back to class I would tell her and she would jump up and run back to play without the slightest anxiety. I remember those times with particular fondness. My oldest daughter had a baby that year whom I also nursed when her mother ( also in her first year at community college) was busy. I even nursed them both together. But that was my last year of nursing. I was gone too much, also working 35 hours a week in a nursing home, and the nursing relationship petered out. At first I was too busy in my new world of school and work to miss it, but now I am nostalgic. After about 23 years I still have a let down reflex when I hear the sounds made by a tiny baby or hold or even see one.
jennifer laws barker - i'm not reading this. i'm pregnant with my last child, and this means i have at least three more years of blissful nursing!!
audrey taflan - *sob* Beautiful! I too am ending my journey after almost 11 years. At times I grumble thag my 3 year old still nurses, but the thought has never occured to me that the time will come where he won't anymore. :-(
jessica raetz maurer - Crying reading this because I know my time is coming soon as well. As much as I want it to be over I also don't.
jenny owen-potter - It broke my heart when my milk never came in. .. but so thankful I found moms willing to help!
amber simmonds - That title is misleading. It sounds like she breastfed a kid until they were 12. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
tammi harrison schneiderman - Nope. Not even gonna read it. Already crying knowing I'm nursing my last baby. I may just nurse til she's in college (kidding).
rachelle warren white - I could of written this! From the breastfed 5 kids, to breastfeeding for a total of over 12 years combined. My youngest is 4.5 and weaned almost a year ago. You're never really ready for it...but then again...you kind of are. <3
haley thieme hone - I just weaned my 21 month old last month. Bitter sweet only because I am 6 months pregnant. Her hematologist asked me to nurse for 24 months for the immunity support and benefits, I thought- "wow! That's such a long time" and it surprised me how easy it was:) I enjoyed it very much and I'm sure it would have lasted longer if my body would allowed. It's so awesome to see so many nurse:) such a wonderful experience!
gee gibson - An amazing journey of motherhood.
I'm BFing my 23 month old and my 5 week old. My toddler was weaning but since the baby's arrival he doesn't want to feel left out so is nursing more. I feel liked I've always got my boobs out lol
chantal kirk - This bright tears to my eyes. i miss nursing so much :(
elizabeth burns - I had a 5 yr breastfeeding career that ended nearly 2 years ago now with my youngest daughter. I still miss it often. I truly enjoyed nursing both of my girls. They each coincidentally weaned at 26 months old.
alisha brignall - I'm not even going to think about it. I'm on my last baby and have been nursing off and on for the last 10 years. :( I just don't want to think about this time ending.
mary elliott shay - Emily Shay Hockenberry
lindsay woods jeffcoat - Oh! This. I am so close to this. 5 1/2 years for me with two little ones! It has been such a blessing!
tammy badger - I won't even read this because I know it will make me cry. I wish I could relive every second of the 6 (TOTAL) beautiful years of breastfeeding both my boys. The most beautiful time in my life!
christy mattingly - It is so very bittersweet. I have nursed all five of my sons, finally weaning my youngest and last at 4yo this year, after 11+ years of being pregnant and/or lactating. I am in a new season of motherhood and I sometimes get a bit wistful when I think about never comforting a baby at the breast again.
leila pisheh - I'm nursing my first and the thought of it ending still brought tears to my eyes.
mara raden - My 3 year old is weaning and among my 5 children I've been breast feeding for 13 years. It's comforting to hear from someone in the same space.
- If you've had one or more c-sections, have you found that the experience influenced your desire (Type: link | Published: 2014-11-23T21:49:02+0000)
Mothering Magazine: If you've had one or more c-sections, have you found that the experience influenced your desire or ability to have more children?Comments:
amanda skinner - we had an emergency c section with our first,, we had another, and another, and i would have another. the romance of vaginal birth has made women feel inadequate if they birth via c section, it makes for a lonely experience, that's for sure as there are no fairy lights and soft music or friends in the delivery room, but that does not make it any less or more of a good birth in my opinion.
beth anderson ng - Had 4 csections and actually they didn't bother me at all. I enjoyed my births and the extra time in the hospital (that's the only vacation I get lol)
joanne smith - My first was a very traumatic emergency c-section. It made me educate myself and prepare for my next birth. I had 3 more children. All of them all drug free V-Bacs with a Doula
ashley zimmerman - I had a scheduled c section with my daughter because she was breech and for me it was so easy and my recovery was a breeze. You hear traumatic horror stories about vaginal deliveries as well. Everyone has a different perspective.
jane savage - I had a c-section with my first and it was so devastating I refuse to have any more children. Before I had my son I always thought I would have two children, there is no way I will put myself through the possibility of that trauma again. I know some women have a c-section and it is fine with them/not traumatic but for me it was devastating. I am certain if I had to have another C-section I would not survive it emotionally. It took a lot of therapy and anti-depressants to get functional after the trauma of my son's birth.
mia pedersen - I've had three and although not what I had wanted, I have three healthy children and would have a fourth in a heart beat.
summer smith - I have had a natural drug fee birth and a Csection! I'd do the Csection over again in a heart beat! It was a great experience! I was breastfeeding my twins within 20 minutes if having them Csection. Never again a natural birth! Forget it! It was exhausting, painful, and just plain sucked! I was in so much pain and so tired from labor, I didn't have the energy to enjoy my first child, or get the hang of
Breastfeeding. Just an overall terrible experience with a natural delivery. Simple as that!
andrea oberheiden-brent - The article annoys me because it assumes that women are forced to have c-sections, some harm is being done to women. Wtf? It is a woman's choice, or a choice that has to be made in an emergency situation. It is much more likely that the woman is forced to have a bad conscience about a c-section in comparison to a natural birth, not vice versa. Another emotional factor that might play a role if a woman decides not to have another child, but then it is not the c-section that is the problem. I have never experienced being pushed into a c-section choice nor do I know anyone who was. I guess the author is a little biased here. Fact is, any birth can be traumatic, natural or s-section. Do the statistics say why women who gave birth via c-section are less likely to have another child? Perhaps in those cases an emergency c-section was traumatizing? And then it is not so much the c-section itself, but the fact that it was an emergency birth situation (no time to prepare, lots of fear, etc.).
connie salamanca - I agree c-section do traumatize you for life . I had a emergency c-section with my first child. The next day my doctor was so amazing he talk to me about having a v-bac if I decide to have more children . Second child I had a successful v-back with lots of support . My birth experience with my second was much more amazing ..
chris wright - I think a better question is, why do we live in a C section obsessed society? I hear more about that now than natural births. Sure some are necessary but almost all now? I think it boils down to it costing more so the hospital gets more money out of people.
johanna hatch - This is the thing I feel so few care providers acknowledge or educate their patients about with regard to cesareans - a primary cesarean and refusal of care providers to provide VBAC care forcibly limits women's ability to decide how many children they will have.
necia blundy - Speaking as a preemie mom, I personally find parts of this conversation to be slightly ridiculous. Because it isn't about you. Yes, you are the one giving birth, but when it's either your life or your child's, then how they get here doesn't matter. Or even if it wasn't a life or death situation and the birth wasn't all sunshine, then that's life. We were never promised that birth would be easy and if that's what you think, then you're seriously kidding yourself. I personally think there is too much emphasis in our society on "me, me, me" "my birth plan" "my this" or "my that." I had no choice. It was either I give birth to him via cesarean or we die. Would I have liked to have a vaginal birth? Yes. Did I think it was going to be all rainbows and wonder? Nope. Because thankfully, I had friends who were brutally honest with me about birth. And to be frank, out of all of the women I know, only two have had successful first births where nothing went wrong and there was no trauma. Everyone else had some kind of trauma. And I personally believe that's true of most women. I think women just need to let go of this idea that it's going to be like the movies and focus on what really matters: a healthy baby and a mama that is alive to take care of him/her. I realize that it's difficult when you feel like you have no voice, but sometimes the choices have to be made for you because of your situation. And that's where letting go of the need for control needs to come in. It isn't just your story, it's your baby's. And really, how many good moms are seriously going to tell their children that their birth was awful and they regret it? Yes, some moms still experience pain, but that's less about the birth experience than about the actual process itself-- issues with a vaginal delivery, bad c-section operation, etc. And those can happen to anyone. My son's birth was traumatic due to his being born at 29 weeks and my developing sudden severe preeclampsia. Yes, I am scared to have another child because I run the risk of the same thing happening, but I'm also willing to let go and try. Because I just don't know. And I honestly do not care one little teeny tiny bit how any future children will be born. If I have to have another c-section, fine. If I can try for a VBAC, fine. Because it isn't about me and how they arrive into the world. If my son's birth taught me anything it's that so long as we're both healthy in the end, then that's all that matters.
allison michelle - I have had 3 c sections and I am sick & tired of the negative stigma around them. Traumatized for life? Give me a break. Stop making mothers who give birth via c section feel like less of a woman than those who give birth naturally.
amber wright randhawa - This article makes me so angry! My first born and I are alive today because of the modern medical miracle of C-section. I was able to go on and have a second child because of the blessing of a second C-section. These articles that demonize C-sections are so offensive to those of us whose lives were saved in that manner.
kristen donohue - I think this article is spot on-this is coming from someone who had 3 sections. I did not have the necessary support for a VBAC (in 2007 it was MUCH harder to find a doctor to do one) and I was scared. While I've made peace with how my children came into the world, the *better* option is clear. Just because an article makes you uncomfortable or sad doesn't mean that it shouldn't be written or discussed. It's only through these hard conversations that change can be made. A 30% c-section rate is obscene.
jennifer schweers currao - I had a planned C. I was perfectly fine with it, healed beautifully and have no regrets. I was high risk at 37 and he was measuring at over 10 pounds. They didn't want to take chances. Turns out, his umbilical cord was extremely short and he wouldn't have passed through the birth canal, so it was a blessing. Birth is birth, beautiful in all forms.
lulu rhodes-oskam - My first was an emergency, second a elective. Next will be an elective. I am all for the baby being born the safest way for both mother and child, all this rubbish about it not being a proper 'birthing' experience - I felt my babies grow inside me for 9 months I don't feel any less a woman or Mumma because I had a c section.
natasha bilson - I had the worst c-section experience. Labor for 2 days then an emergency c-section. For my next child I will see a doctor that does VBAC. I don't care how far I have to travel.
julie gendron - I had an emergency cs with my first. I was devastated. I wanted a vbac but ended up hospitalized with a blood clot at 38 weeks with my second. We opted for another cs because they were afraid I was going to throw the clot during labor. It was a gentle cesarean and was SO MUCH BETTER. Massage music played, the lights were dimmed, they milked the cord (almost as good as delayed cord clamping) and he was skin to skin on my chest the whole time they stitched me up and wheeled me back to my room. It wasn't the vbac I wanted but it was so much better the second time around. I will still try for a vbac next time but won't be upset if I need another cs.
teri stein - ANY bad birth experience can be traumatizing. I had a horrific vaginal delivery with my first. I needed a transfusion, my milk never came in because of the trauma and i couldn't walk right for a year. My second, almost five years later, was a c-section. I had so much more control over how the birth unfolded, an my recovery was days long (as opposed to a year). I felt so much grief and loss over the way my first birth unfolded, and found my c-section to be very healing. Still nursing baby #2 at 2! I feel very grateful that I had the option to have a C-section; I wouldn't have had another child otherwise.
christine birney wans - Absolutely not. I am not defined by the method I gave birth. I have two perfect and healthy children. I never intended to have a c-section and wished it turned out differently, but I cannot help but think this blog post sways in favor of the population of women who shame women who had c-sections.
- Post-baby time is one filled with hormonal moods and vulnerability. How do we as women think it (Type: link | Published: 2014-11-17T21:18:03+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Post-baby time is one filled with hormonal moods and vulnerability. How do we as women think it’s okay to tear a mom down during this trying time? And since some mom out there somewhere will always be in this difficult phase of life, I would like forComments:
julie thaxter-gourlay - No one is attacking "fit women". Maria Kang does not represent all fit women, I sincerely hope. This article has a beef with the badly chosen words Maria Kang used to shame other moms.
crystal esteves - What about you don't need an excuse. Weather your a mom or not. Every person is gets to spend their time on this planet as they see fit. My kids were great sleepers, I was never sleep deprived, I didn't work and I still didn't care about having a six pack or make-up or any of it. I valued spending every second with them that could. I valued being the person that was there when they needed me. I enjoyed my time snuggling babies on my couch. My "excuse" is I love being with my family more then I love having a tight ass.
millie rovan pruchnic - wait, did Maria send her fans to comment on this page or something? how are more moms not relating to this? i definitely didn't read this as shaming fit moms.
rachel gilchrist radtke - I thought that "whats your excuse?" thing was silly. I mean, come on, we all have our priorities, and the focus of our energies for many of us might change day to day/week to week. Whats your excuse for....not keeping a perfectly clean house? Not cooking 3, perfectly balanced made from scratch meals a day, every day? not spending time developing a talent/working on a hobby? Not spending a good chunk of time every day giving each child some one on one attention? Not having weekly date nights to strengthen your marriage/relationship? Not getting 8 hours of sleep every night? Not going to the gym/for a jog every day? Not putting on makeup/doing your hair every day?Not limiting your kids screen time to an hour a day? I could go on and on. We all probably do many of those things, some of the time. The "excuse" for not managing every freaking thing perfectly every day? We are ONE PERSON and any one of those items comes at the expense of one of the others. Dinner might be amazing, healthy, from scratch one night, take out pizza the next. I might sew a new outfit for one of the kids one day, and when I'm doing that, the kids will be watching tv and the house wont get clean. The house might get super clean, but then I might be going to bed extra late that night as a result.
maegan bledsoe - This article doesn't attack fit women. It's attacking the language used to shame women.
Wanting a little more sleep...not working out b/c you had 3 kids in 3 years and that makes you too tired (or busy) to work out isn't an excuse. You just have different priorities or needs or wants or whatever. Calling it an excuse is a way to make you feel guilty.
kaylene mills - I didn't take Maria's campaign like this article at all. It sounds like the woman who wrote this article has feelings of guilt and is down right bitter. Jealous even. Absolutely ridiculous to tear down a woman who fits her workouts into her day. Good for her! We should be celebrating women and motherhood!
veronica armstrong - She didn't attack or shame anyone. Please. Using this as a shameless ploy for clicks? Give me a break.
kym terranova - I'm so sick of articles on every page talking about this or that kind of shaming that's supposedly going on. I guess that must mean I'm shame shaming.
marcella hilton - I think everyone tackled the responsibilities of motherhood in their own way. Every one has a lifestyle that works for them. Attacking fit women is just as bad as fat shaming. If we all attack each other than corporations can continue prey on our insecurities and make money off of us. Women shaming women is making the marketing departments job easier than it should. Knocking someone down a peg is so highschool.
stephanie sarad - People need to stop shaming anyone for anything. #mindyourownbusiness
guggie l daly - I found her hugely inspirational and totally got her point, no need to shame her for her non-pc or somehow imperfect meme/wording. We either want something enough to go get it, or we make excuses. If it's not what you WANT then stop whining about it. This is about people who self-sabotage, who repress, who hide their inner needs or desires by claiming they have to care for others. Which I find to be a pervasive issue, especially among women/mothers. Too bad we wasted more breath on Maria and less on reminding women that YOU MATTER, and that YOU DESERVE what you WANT. Whether that is education, a career, a completed thesis, a fit body, healthy friendships, etc.
heather caroline stevens - My twins toddlers and active 8 year old are not excuses. My teaching job is not an excuse. My home and my husband are not excuses. My need for 8 hours sleep is not an excuse. My chickens and garden are not excuses. My aging parents are not excuses. All of these things are blessings that fill my life with richness and happiness. I wouldn't trade even one of them for a "fit body". What's Maria Kang's excuse for having such screwed up priorities???
shaylene alvstad - I love this article. So. Much.
cree a dickinson - How about she tries an unphotoshopped picture and then we can talk :)
peta de villiers - Love this article. We should be celebrating our own lives without telling people that they should be doing it 'our way'.
holly easterling - Because any woman not in great shape with her hair and make-up done must be making excuses. It's not like there's any other way to determine worth.
amanda gilman-bogie - I also find the "what's your excuse" tag line judgmental rather than empowering. We all have different experiences (and levels of support) and our motherhood journeys are not the same. My son was a challenging infant and is growing into a sweet, albeit somewhat willful toddler; at 14-months old we're just now in a place where I can prioritize a workout and try to focus on my own health and fitness again. I'm envious of the moms whose figures snap back so soon after childbirth or who have infants who sleep for hours at a time without being held and nursed but I know that the measure of my worth isn't determined by a scale.
janet grear - I won't read this article just as I didn't read the "what's your excuse" article because unless you live in my home or I live in yours, no one knows what other people's lives are like. Also, toned abs doesn't equal fantastic health so I don't have the time to waste on trying to bring other people down. It's not a competition people, mind your damn business!
jill highbaugh fremont - Hmmm my nervous system got attacked by a sepsis infection the hospital gave to me postpartum and I am retraining myself to stand 4 years after this mess. Wonder if I'm excused. Gimme a break. It's hard enough to keep up with breast feeding, find a babysitter so you don't have to take your kid to a filthy gym daycare and not to mention hernias, separated muscles in the stomach, bladder issues, etc that can occur. If you are able to do it, great. If not then you should be able to feel happy with yourself just the way you are. Being a mom is a hard job and we do the best we can. We don't always make ourselves first priority.
sandie scribner - I think it's more about that badly worded tag line of #whatsyourexcuse than fit mom shaming. It does have a way to get into ones head and make them over think then feel like they aren't doing enough.
monica divane - People took this campaign the wrong way. It's sad how they attacked Maria over it. I found it empowering and encouraging. It wasn't until I was a mom that I dropped 60 lbs and got fit. Being a mom is not an excuse, it's my reason to be fit. I had to be able to keep up with my very active son. The article states how that campaign shames moms but it doesn't. If there's a will, there's a way. If you want to get into shape, then just do it and try your hardest. It sounds like women who took this campaign offensively were just wrought with guilt, jealously, and bitterness about their lifestyle. It takes a lot of hard work to get into shape especially after having a baby (I would know!). Honestly, it's mostly about eating right. She should be applauded for looking that good after three kids!
- What's the biggest thing *you* swore you would NEVER do as a parent but ended up doing anyway?? (Type: photo | Published: 2014-11-11T00:00:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: What's the biggest thing *you* swore you would NEVER do as a parent but ended up doing anyway?? We all have them! Share yours in the comments and we'll add it to a fun and inspiring article to share with other parents. :)Comments:
shannon carrigan - Nursing (yikes!) I have a chronic illness and I had to give up my medication through 10 months of TTC and 10 months of pregnancy. It's not safe to take while breastfeeding so I had no plans to nurse. I ended up with such a horrible child birth experience that all I wanted to do was nurse her. I canceled the orders for my medication - asking for an LC instead. We nursed for almost 3 years and I have never felt better or been happier about anything in my life!
azure campbell - Co-sleeping, and now it's the highlight to my night.
katie hewett - Let my kids watch t.v., feed them anything BUT organic whole foods, and Im sure there are MANY more! We are ALL parenting experts until we have a couple kids! Haha
karen kennedy - Characters on stuff. We avoided it for years but gradually people started giving us stuff. It's ridiculous but apparently unavoidable. For the life of me I will never understand why everything from clothes to bedding to even produce (Disney princess grapes, really?) has to have a cartoon character on it.
sara johannessen mooney - I swore I would never cook them a meal different than what we were having. Some nights it's just not worth the battle.
lisa johnson - Lick my finger and use it to wipe stuff off my kids faces
jenny theuerkauf - I swore I would never bribe my kids. But, you better believe I promised candy, ice cream, her own castle, anything I could to get her to stay quiet during an important phone call I had to take.
jennifer macha - Opening up snacks that I'm buying at the grocery
shannon callaghan thompson - Oh and only nurse six months. Lol, try two to two and a half years!
nancy keighley petino - Homeschooling.
I had an unmedicated midwife assisted water birth with my son, cloth diapered, coslept, exclusively BF for 6mos, extended BF until 3.4 years old, etc. But the one thing I swore I would never do is homeschool. Now we are 6 months in and loving it! What I have discovered is that children change our perspectives and priorities, give us courage to try new things, force us to step out of our comfort zones...and teach us to never say never.
kath leen - Letting them have junk food (my kids were going to ONLY EVER eat fruit, veggies, etc., until they had developed a preference, and then they would be allowed ONCE in a while, like once a month was the plan.) And TV. I planned for my kids to never see TV.
shannon callaghan thompson - Sleep with my babies. Second night home from the hospital, Dad and I woke up refreshed and my baby nursed well. I'm so thankful I did. My 3 boys always went to bed well for us. Slept well too.
connie leung - Taking her out of her car seat to sooth her while my husband is driving. :p
danielle varda - I love this quote. .."my children are making it impossible for me to be the mother I always said I would be"!
ali carter - Saying "because I said so" as a response to "why?" I say it all the time, and I mean it. :)
abigail mitchell - Co sleeping, but mommy daddy and baby sleep better so why not?
sue fogerty - Let them watch tv while eating candy. They're still alive.
caittie lynn tywoniuk - Leave my ex/be a single mom. Honestly one of the best things I ever did.
kim tweedy - Where do I begin....?
emily richardson - Spank. I said I would never spank.
alicia clare - Breastfeed a kid who could ask for it. Ha ha!
- Do you agree with this? (Type: link | Published: 2014-11-11T20:23:37+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Do you agree with this?Comments:
megan williams - To quote the wonderful Alfie Kohn, "kids learn to make decisions by making decisions, not by following directions."
I am not "in charge" of my kids, as an authority figure - they are each in charge of themselves, and we are all a team, working and growing together.
I don't know how other folks define friendship, but I am, and always will be, friends with my children. I feel very sad for any family lacking this bond . . .
anna koizumi-steidl - I wholeheartedly agree with you Megan Williams-- It seems that some moms and dads get the phrase 'I'm your Mom/Dad, not your friend' circling around in their heads, and parrot it whenever challenged by their child's actions. I am not my son's 'best friend' in the sense that I always enjoy what he enjoys or vice versa, and I don't unload my emotional baggage on him, but we are best friends in the sense that I am his partner, and not his adversary--in all aspects of life. We are equals in the relationship. There is no top down authoritarianism that treats him as a 'subordinate'. I 'command' respect with my son--by respecting my son! Gasp! This is not an either/or 'problem', as in 'either you are your child's friend, or you are their parent'. Life is much bigger than that. You can be BOTH.
kj lange - DUH. Giving away your authority position leaves you with kids who won't respect you or any other position of authority. Just my humble opinion. My son is 29 and still knows my "mom look" altho he's going to be developing his "dad" look soon. When your kids are 25 you can start building friendships... before that... you're the parent. Teach them to work, to get along in the world, even when they don't like it, stop rescuing them. Going shopping is not the cure all for every bad feeling your son or daughter has. Let their friends be their friends
alicia mulligan - My moms always been my best friend and still is, and I would want to be the same for my girls.
michele kendzie - I think this is a stupid debate. There are lots of kinds of friends. The people saying you can't be friends with your children assume incorrectly that you can't do that AND also guide them, etc. I'm friendly with my kids AND they respect me.
mesa leventhal - As my mom always said, "Your kids will have many friends. They will only ever have one mother & father." As a pediatrician I see many parents confuse open lines of communication & being supportive of their child with a peer-type friendship. If you're her friend then how can you say No to the party where there may be alcohol & she's underage? Gee, her friend is going (but mom, all my friends are going!) I'm your mom & not their mom so the answer is No. She will be angry & that is where the "friend" as parent can't do what is best for their child. Plus people confuse the much more equal relationship they have with their parents after they have grown up with what is best for childhood & teen years. The relationship changes with the maturity of the child certainly but parents should be special.
shannon callaghan thompson - Agreed! My mother put me in the position of her best friend. I was her only shoulder to cry on when she was beat by my stepfather. I couldn't cry. I had to be her strength. I knew her sex life since I was 13 years old. She told me. I knew all of her financial woes. She told me. I grew up way too fast. I divorced when my boys were 11, 9, and 6. I have not put that pressure on them. I knew that wasn't life for a child.
kat johnson - You can be both.
nancy crossley jones - Wisdom from a college professor that I still remember all these many years later... Your child will have so many friends come and go and anyone can be their friend. Only one person can be their mom. Brilliant!
sarah howard - You don't get to choose your family. Expecting people to like you simply because you're related is silly. I love my son and we have a TON of fun together, but sometimes I have to make unpopular decisions for his well-being. Worrying that he might not like me would not be in anyone's best interest in those circumstances.
sandie scribner - I found this quote on Tumblr and I completely agree:
"Parents who don't want to be their child;s friend completely miss the point of friendships. True friends are there for you in good and bad time, they understand and respect you, and you just can't do without their love and support. So, what is wrong with wanting to be your child's friend?" -Shirin Purnell
mel vanpypen - I feel gratitude for both the friendship I have with my own parents and the one that grows each moment with my children. I can still be their parent while nurturing our friendship. We are a family, a team, we work together, we grow together, we suffer and thrive together. I can't help but wonder how could we not be friends!?
carol tokar pavliska - It depends on your definition of friendship. By my definition, I am totally friends with my kids.
debbie davey - As a teacher, I see the disadvantages of trying to be the authority while trying to be best friends. As a parent, I can imagine it would be even worse. My sisters kids are extremely good kids and the youngest is a challenge, but they know non and dad are the living leaders NOT their friends and that makes all the difference.
myah d'ann wiltermuth - I don't think it has a thing to do with needing to maintain authority. I had a mother though that truly saw me as her best friend. The issue becomes that friendship is 50/50. It is depend on both parties caring for each other's personal life. Kids should not need to be concerned with their parents intimate lives. I was the kid who took care of my moms emotional and physical needs. It created a very codependent child that did not know how to be a child. I never felt held in the safety of my mother "having things." That is why I don't want to be my child's best friend. They need peers for that. Once they are adults I hope our friendship will change into more equals like it has with my father.
chelsea poyo-nieto - Define friendship.
vanessa park - Agree fully. As a middle school teacher For 25 years I have seen the disasters that ensue from "BFF" mom-daughter relationships. Boundaries are comforting. Unconditional love does not mean equality.
lauren cull norford - There is a difference between friendship and poor boundaries. A parent that dumps their troubles on their child isn't even behaving as a friend would. They are almost taking advantage of the relationship because the child doesn't have much of a choice but to listen.
meg richards - Having a really good relationship with them, doesn't mean being a peer to them. Parents are not peers, and there is good reason for that. That doesn't mean parents can't have good relationships with their kids, but if kids were ready to be totally responsible (and therefore the ultimate authority) unto themselves, we would lay clutches of eggs in the sand and slither away without a backward glance, leaving them to the forces of nature and their own instincts. Human children need protection, guidance, and upbringing by their parents, which means we can't consider them all-wise unto themselves and therefore never in need of our guidance, direction, and if need be, consequences.
mike shushan - My favorite overheard quote one day near the Gallery Mall in Philly, has become a kind of mantra for me to not be a best friend to my kids: "I'm not your motherf**king friend! I'm your motherf**king mother!!"
brooke hanna - Nope. Don't agree.
- A disturbing but important discussion -- what do you think? (Type: link | Published: 2014-11-14T01:51:27+0000)
Mothering Magazine: A disturbing but important discussion -- what do you think?Comments:
samantha apollo - I keep seeing people say "if she was a boy you'd call her a predator". I personally would not see any 7 year old as a predator. I would see them as children whose parents needed to teach them about boundaries. And wonder what is happening at home that makes them think it's normal.
simone mcguire grant - It is molestation. If she were a boy doing that to his sister, You'd be hard pressed to find someone saying it's totally fine. Because it's NOT. Ever. Exploration this was not. This was continued and forceful on a much younger child.
bethany shondark mandel - If she wasn't white or a multi millionaire she'd be considered a sex offender.
deanna norris birth doula - This is a great article on this subject. While I would not call her a child molester (by a long shot) since she was a child herself, she clearly was not familiar with respecting personal space at that age. I think way too many people are looking at her as an adult in this instance. What she did was not ok, but how was a child supposed to know that if she was never taught it? It would be completely different if she were doing this to her 1 yo sister as an adult.
amanda boykin kennedy - This is so dumb and should not be mainstream media. This is another Avenue for nosey Americans to call someone names based off of something they probably did too, but are too afraid to admit. Y'all never played Dr and got caught? Please... she looked at her sister, which she could have done while taking a bath together with her. Are my kids molesting each other when they share a bath and wonder why they have differ anatomy. grow up!
heather ashli metcalf - Who is Lena Dunham?
marnie mcnaught hinze - Has anyone actually read her memoir? I have not but my friend has and this person who wrote this is cherry picking. Before I make any judgments Id have to read the book for myself!
jennifer briggs mann - Let's stay on subject here. Liberal has nothing to do with it. I'm pretty liberal and am very disturb by this.
marybeth nelson - Lena Dunham is not a sexual predator.
She was a child.
Her parents clearly dropped the ball on the boundaries with bodies discussion.
I feel her biggest mistake was thinking it was ok to write about this--and, really, what was the point of sharing such a story?
Makes me wonder if she was just looking for shock effect as many celebs do as an attention-seeking/sell more technique.
laurie hastings-karn - I don't think the author of this article actually read the book. It seems she just heard something about it and decided to throw herself into the story.
chelsea elizabeth laviolette - She is clearly not a child molester, nor was she when she was a child. This is a perfect example of why schools and parents need to teach their children about sex and body parts from a young age. Most sex Ed programs begin way too late in the game and have more of a focus on abstinence or fear based learning. Obviously her mother should have been teaching her, but she didn't, and as a result she explored her sister, which clearly did not create anything negative as her and her sister are apparently very close and her sister agreed to let her speak about it in the memoir.
christie bittner - I think this article is a joke. Tell your writer to actually read a book before she writes about it.
r meaghan wills - That's it's no way molestation. I think accusations like that are harmful and people should think before they write ridiculous articles like this. If she was a teenager and did that sure , but she was a child. Children are curious about there body parts and there was nothing sexual about that
tori kleffman - She gives good advice about how to try to ensure the understanding of consent to young children but other than that I see this article as potentially dangerous - this culture is already way over reactive about child sexuality and prudish about sex in general. If it's natural then why isn't it okay? It sounds as if no one was hurt by the incidence, until this negativity, that is. If it's natural, then why is it not okay? If it's natural then we should be able to talk about it more openly - obviously,we can't or there wouldn't be all this negative backlash. Now we'll be sure to keep our mouths shut, of innocent exploration, and the not-so-innocent. And if it were a 7-yr. old boy, as somebody else said, it would still be two children in innocence.
tiffany leshelle jennings - Yeah. Sorry Mothering Magazine. I've been a loyal reader for some time, but this has me all done. I'm out.
brandy white - Unless there is way more than what I read, this is crazy talk.
jessica miller - Years ago I was a foster care provider... I had children placed in my home because of their siblings sexual behavior towards them... Often less than this...
jennifer wodarski-felt - Our society is criminalizing many aspects of normal development... not ideal, but normal. So now, rather than carrying on and growing up, kids are forced to register as sex offenders. Ridiculous.
amanda boykin kennedy - a statutory offense that provides that it is a crime to knowingly cause another person to engage in an unwanted sexual act by force or threat; "most states have replaced the common law definition of rape with statutes defining sexual assault"
So I'm going to assume you all think she "knowingly" assaulted her sister. The common sense society lacks today is beyond comprehension. I'm sorry she wrote the book for the negative attention, but even more sorry for the people attacking her for something she did as a clueless little girl.
elizabeth balabayev - This is ridiculous. She was a little kid and her sister was putting pebbles in her own vagina. Has anyone even read the book? Give me a break. Read "Infidel" by Ayan Hirsi Ali; that is abuse.
jen perri jaeger - Why is no one calling out the parents of Dunham for not protecting the sibling?
- Dear Beth, Thank you for attending the birth of my baby. Thank you for your support. Thank you (Type: link | Published: 2014-10-17T19:30:26+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Dear Beth, Thank you for attending the birth of my baby. Thank you for your support. Thank you for your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you for providing me with evidence-based care. Thank you for taking an hour at every appointment to talk to me about how I was feeling, if I had any concerns, etc. …Comments:
melanie mcgrath hoven - Anna Bunting, Alice Levine, & Laurel Phillips thanks for being so wonderful and amazing!! We all feel blessed to have you in our lives 😘😘
jamie webster - Angelica this made me smile and think of your wonderful midwife <3
hilary knott stillwell - Diana Janopaul I love that you were my midwife for all 3!!
jenava tait - Amy Willen made me think of you!
charlene gray - Love your story. You wrote MY story. Daughter now 28 and a doula! Love to all our midwives!
rubi pena - Thank you for being my midwife and someone I can trust! April Kermani :)
monica okesola - Kim Lane Midwife and Glenda Turner ❤️👣❤️
delaine brown - Jodi Phinney, this made me smile & think of you;) An amazing doula you are & a supercalafragilisticexpealadosious midwife you will make one day of that is the path you choose. You make me want to go for #2!
jeniefer herron-prichard - <3 Karni Seymour-Brown <3
brigette denise - Alisa Voss Godfrey and Shawn Brooking
lizzie mills fragale - I love Elizabeth Ruck Kirkley!
brenda sanders parrish - That was awesome and just the way we would love every birth to be....
kate shaw - Ranee LaPointe Doula
kathleen regan - Samantha McCormick Midwife ❤️❤️❤️
anne marie grant - Elizabeth Randolph Jennifer Powell Cain 💛💙💜💚❤️
trisha hailey miller - They are truly amazing people.
cassie ehard - Lauren Osborne Bibin Brenda Sanders Parrish Mary Henderson Nedra Wilson Midwife
liane elizabeth macpherson - My midwives lovingly cared for me, and I gratefully care for others. Most sacred, rewarding work ever. Blessed am I. Xo Angelica.
olivia backstrom - I love love this!!!
miranda sherbo - So awesome! Loved Beth!
jennifer vessey - I will always be grateful! Sara Stainton
- My husband’s grandmother left a message saying she was coming over. Right. Now. I’d been pu (Type: link | Published: 2014-10-13T23:15:22+0000)
Mothering Magazine: My husband’s grandmother left a message saying she was coming over. Right. Now. I’d been putting her visit off. I wanted the first week with our newborn to be a closed circle made up only of new mother, new father, and new baby. Benjamin was a wonder to us with eyes that hinted (I swear) …Comments:
nancy lougheed rose - It's ok not to have visitors! When they finally do arrive, for goodness' sake, wash your grubby hands, don't blind my baby with your stupid camera flash, bring food and help out- or stay out!
susan barrientos - Caucasians are very different than other cultures in regards to this....I have never felt this way and even if I did I would never be this disrespectful to an elder like that.....Just saying....
heather cornelius - I'll never forget... my excited 10 year old invited our mailman in to see her new sister.. beaming with pride, she brought him right on in to my bedroom!! The same, sweet Korean mail carrier gently berated me a few days later, when I was outdoors, sitting gingerly on a stool, planting out my tomato starts. ("In my country, you stay IN BED for WEEKS!! People take care of you, you REST!!") :)
sonia laws - I side with the mother 100%. To the Caucasian nonsense. OMFG Caucasians are technically the MOST diverse racial group. You meant White people? Classic White people I assume, like Northern/Central/Western Europeans? Even among them they are culturally diverse, regardless of them not being considered "ethnic" like their Southern and sometimes Eastern European counterparts. I wish people would realize that we are INDIVIDUALS and also that being a DOORMAT/PASSIVE because you are female, younger, the wife, etc. is NOT all that socially productive(not healthy). As an adult I RESPECT everyone even children until they prove they do not deserve it. I hate the nuts that think only adults and authority figures deserve respect and not the children. Ok Ok Rant over, I think. lol
amirissa alcocer - Serious? Do people realize that cloistering themselves off after a baby's birth is the most unnatural thing ever in all of human history? I'm sure if she'd been open with Grandma about why and given her a date when she could come over things would have gone better. This sounds more like bad communication and only focusing on one's own needs.
mary wilhoit - I hadn't thought about this deeply, but one thing I do is that I do not hold another mother's newborn unless she offers. Everyone feels a bit differently postpartum.
amberly wood - Love this!! I felt so fiercely primal with my newborns. Thought I was the only one!
megan beaver - It is NOT disrespectful to tell someone off, anyone for that matter who has your child and will not hand them back.
lisa teagan kennedy - Wow! As a single mom I was ALL ALONE. Totally alone, no friends, no family, no ex fiancee or his extended family. Had my mother been alive she would have been with me at the hospital, present at the birth, and if she'd been in good health... helping me out after baby & I were discharged. I was raised in a neighborhood where often 3 generations lived together. Mostly Irish and Italian American's. I would not have been so passive aggressive. If I really didn't want a family member over I would have come right out and told them like the normal adult I am. Obviously it's the people with LOTS of family who take it for granted that family will always be there. Those of us who are totally alone in the world would be thankful for the time & attention (plus a 20 minute shower break) a visiting relative could offer!
sveta vladimirovna - After living peacefully in a womb for 9 month outside world with all its smells, noises etc is an adjustment for a newborn! It's best to protect them from over-stimulaton and introduce them to the world gently.
amanda impossiblegirl hunt - LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL those of you saying this is selfish or entitled make me laugh. You think that the idea that you MIGHT HAVE helped and/or brought food gives you the right to physically handle another human being while separating said human being from their mother isn't an entitled one? Yeah...*we* are the entitled ones, because we want our personal space respected and to be allowed to bond with our newborns uninterrupted.
amanda mcwilliams-gomez - Never *TAKE* a baby from Momma... not ever. No matter who you are. I relate 110% to this.
dan smalley - No sir, I don't like it. Grandparents are part of the family. After all, if it weren't for them, there wouldn't be Benjamin.
kristy violeta - My daughter was born 30 December at a birthing center. We were home with her the same evening. Our big Cuban family decided to throw a New Year's Eve party at my house the next day. I really wasn't too bothered... Everyone was thrilled to meet the new addition to our family!
angela dobson matthews - So sadden by this writing. I would've welcomed both sets of our grandmother's to visit. Yes, I get the importance of the mother/baby bonding. However, if you're fortunate enough to have your mother/grandmothers around during this wonderful event, they would be longing to share in the birth of a new generation to the family. I pray that my daughters would NEVER react in this manner to their in-laws or direct family members. Karma may not be so kind to you in the future.
Crystal N Gerson B and Kia Matthews please read.
karen stoeber - Wow. Interesting this woman exposes herself and her needs as a new mother and in a few comments we have racial comments, nasty name calling and just awfulness. How about we realize that we are all different and think of another's point of view before rattling off offensive prattle.
kelsey lewis - I like the "look but don't touch" approach. Germs, overstimulation and moms hormones, all reasons to be respectful. When a momma is ready to let you hold her baby she'll let you know.
annette kimball - How about whatever new mamma wants, goes. Period. When I labor for 2 days to bring forth a human child through my own body, I get to make the rules...and anyone with half a brain should understand and respect that. If you get offended and take it personally, you may want to examine what "self absorbed" means. I'm so greatful for my family, amd their amazing ability to be compassionate and aware of how these things should work.
carol ann - Yup, I experienced this with my first child. My MIL literally shoved me out of the way while I was changing my son. Then while she was holding him she would say things like 'If you do not think your Mommy and Daddy can raise you right, you can come live with me.' Suffice to say I put the kibosh to visiting after that. I wanted to check her into the wall when she shoved me.
terri tishim - Frankly, as the mother of five and grandmother of six, I found this article rude and selfish. Boundaries....it's called selfish people who divide and alienate families. I welcomed all family who wanted to come in and see my babies. I suppose this speaks to the entitled generation now having babies. Hopefully you will never need help from those you tick off with this kind of behavior.
lindsay hawkins - I felt this way with my first ones; but, then I read an article somewhere about a woman that talked about how much joy and peace and goodness that holding a new baby can bring to someone. She said she made it her goal to let as many people feel that as possible because you just never know what person might need that more than anything in the world. We have their entire childhoods to hold and hug and cuddle and for someone who has never had a baby or their babies are long since grown it might mean more to them than you could ever know. I decided that if I ever had another, I'd let as many people touch, snuggle and love as possible. :)
- In our current obstetric culture women have lots of commentators on what they should or shouldn (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-15T22:25:17+0000)
Mothering Magazine: In our current obstetric culture women have lots of commentators on what they should or shouldn't do, but few people who are just there to support them and their partner in their birth. Few who understand how to emotionally "be there" for the birth and preparation leading up to it. Few women have a strong circle of people lifting them up. This is why the doula is such an important (but oft neglected) part of the birth support team.Comments:
carmen willenbring sullo - Also - hospitals, doctors, nursing staff totally treat you differently (read: like a human being with actual real and valid opinions and the will to make choices) when you walk in with your doula. :) And one more, a good doula supports your whole family - you, your husband, your other children. I heart my doula.
sherri lynn valenzuela - My doula was a badass. My husband (now ex) was not someone you'd want to rely on as birth support.. and, long story short, it turned out that the doula was the one who drove me to the hospital and was there with me from start to finish (32 hours of labor). She was amazing and advocated for me very effectively when hospital staff attemtped stupid and unnecessary interventions. She saw to it that my birth plan was followed so I could focus on the work of birthing my son. I had an amazing OB/Gyn too, and I credit both of them for making my VBAC/no drugs/all natural birth a reality. 10lb, 13 ounce baby boy who just turned 17 this past weekend! :D
celia poehls - My wonderful doula Gail made a SIGNIFICANT difference in my second birth experience. Without her I would never have done a VBAC with no drugs! She taught me so much to prepare me for the process. In addition, having her there as my advocate who knew what things we did and did not want to have happen was crucial. BTW, this over 20 years ago now. Doulas rock!
marissa jade sedileau - Dianna <3
Couldn't have asked for better!
judy m willington - So very blessed to have had 3 awesome doulas for my births! They made my birthing experiences awesome and they helped take care of Dad too <3 Big shout out to Nancy Draznin Dolores Michael and Liz Boyd so very blessed to have you 3 wonderful ladies on my birthing team!!!!
enza cicero-lilley - Ruth, I am sorry you had that experience. It really does break my heart when I hear stories about bad doulas. :(
emily turrubiate - Vanessa Flanders!
danielle bisneau-pecoraro - Michelle Kricket Ignoto
carol comstock - Evey Hornbeck check it out
melinda shaffer - Toni Doulanowmidwifelater Hill!
hilary nimmo lounder - Kelsey Elizabeth
candace lauren walker - My husband day he would fly or doula across the country if we have another. She is the best!
elana anastasio - Emily Piper-Phillips
gil den gil - Corinn Fitzgerald
marisol flores-garza - I Also owe my VBAC w/o drugs to my doula. She empowered me to owing my birth experience my way! So worth it!
karen kennedy - I love my doulas Taniya Woody and Wendy Robertson! My husband is an amazing birth partner but my doulas were a critical part of why I remember my births with such pleasure. <3
leah chinchen malloy - Kara Chinchen ...my long distance doula ;)
anne carlson fred plessner - Maggie Rubin :-)
nicole stacy - I just wish they weren't so expensive :(
susan dion sheldon - Natural Bradly Childbirth educattors are also good, or just having an awesome husband who is there for you as this is his process too.
bridget jazel polka - Amanda Poteet-Woolen
- http://bit.ly/1qKRa8U (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-16T21:38:44+0000)
Mothering Magazine: http://bit.ly/1qKRa8UComments:
cassandra wight - I saw the chiropractor 3x a week. It was 100 % worth it and I would never go back
debbie-lee sorensen - Oh and Obstetrician was not helpful - he just called it usual wear and tear. I'd like to see him deal with that!
stephanie johnston morris - I have been working with a chiropractor and doing physical therapy since my delivery 8 weeks ago. I am almost back to normal! I delivered my baby on my side which I'm sure helped.
talia rose - I had this with both my kids. First time 22 years ago and no one had heard of it. 2nd time around, ten years ago, and it had a name. Chiropractic and acupuncture helped greatly.
amber noll - CHIROPRACTOR! I went 2x a week from 22 weeks I didn't waddle and almost painfree vs my first 2 pregnancy it hurt to walk sleep move
jennifer watts - I'm still struggling with this at 18 months postpartum. It's nothing like it was during pregnancy (I was almost in a wheelchair), but still flares up when I run after my kids or do anything strenuous, like gardening. I see a chiropractor and that makes a difference for everyday activities. My 18 month old is still nursing, so I'm hoping when he weans it goes all the way away. If not, I don't know what I'll do. :-/
pat matson aho - I experienced this with my first pregnancy and slept in a lazy boy at the end because it hurt to much to roll out of bed. I also learned to NEVER push or move an object with your feet. My other pregnancies were much better.
echo rodetsky - I had this with my 3rd. I did not know what it was called then- or rather I thought SPD was a worse diagnosed thing (I am of the "suck it up" body pain type). Walking was painful and only a chiro kept that and the sciatica from immobilizing me.
grace snow - I had it quite badly in my last pregnancy. My baby was also breech throughout my pregnancy so I think something was "off". I should've been seeing a chiropractor throughout but funds were just too tight.
danielle hettinger morales - Great tips. I had this with my last two. Chiro helped. At the end it took me at least 5 min to get out of bed in the mornings. So when my water broke with my last at 5am, I just laid there and let it all soak into the mattress bc I knew there was no springing up and rushing to the bathroom! :)
theresa wighton - Mary Catherine White
becky arnold mathers - This bothered me with my 1st, but was much worse with my 2nd. I finally saw a physical therapist that taught me how to use resistance with my hamstrings to pull my pelvis back into place. It worked wonders!
maikalani plexico - Brittny Campos , don't know if this is what you have, but thought maybe something in here could be useful? ;)
sandra smith - There is a FB group for people affected by DSP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SeparatedPelvis/
nicole khoury atkinson - CranioSacral therapy helped me walk again!
chelsea poyo-nieto - Aligned and Well :)
sarah mabardy - I had this throughout the last part of one of my pregnancies. It felt like someone kicked me between the legs. The only thing that resolved it for me was delivery and it went away a few weeks later 😥
sommer willis - I had this with my third child, sleeping was rough sometimes, but I am so thankful it was not severe and I don't have lasting pain. My doctor was sympathetic and ordered physical therapy but my insurance wouldn't cover it.
michelle batson - I'm 19 mo pp with my 3rd and suffered with this terribly my last 2 pregnancies. I still hurt at times as if I am pregnant! If I don't see my chiro regularly it gets much worse. After my second birth, chiro and yoga helped a lot. I also wonder if breastfeeding keeps those relaxing hormones going enough to keep from healing properly... I refuse to wean based off that tho. I didn't know anyone personally that had it and docs were awful. O I feel for anyone dealing with it. So painful!
cristy 'fonseca' kuyath - I think this is what I have...it is worst after laying down and getting up...I almost can't move and can literally hear my bone or something grinding together...I have been going to the chiro since before I found out I was pregnant... Has made all the difference with my sciatic nerve pain but I haven't noticed it helping with my public bone :(
noel green - Miranda, is this what you experience?
- Here are 12 alternatives to punishment that give parents and children a chance to address choic (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-22T22:14:55+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Here are 12 alternatives to punishment that give parents and children a chance to address choices and situations with the intention of maintaining a positive, respectful and peaceful connection.Comments:
heather stevens - #6 is an example of playful parenting, which is a great way to get kids to cooperate. I recommend Playful parenting by Lawrence Cohen for more great ideas.
maria renna - Actually #6 for those who haven't tried or think is silly, at my home it does work. We have this chicken puppet that my daughter loves very much and I do a funny voice to it, she pays attention to what the chicken says and follows through, she did keep up with some very few rules we have at home thanks to it. Now that she is almost 4 years old we do a lot of role playing with her plush toys and other figures, it is a great way to remind children the little things that they should do and should not do without having to be a nagger and it helps prevent rather than having to be in an upsetting situation.
kristin lynn spivack - #6 is a little ridiculous? Yeah, its SOOO RIDICULOUS to try using your imagination to engage and help teach your child LOL....
cathy breiner - I have kids ages 3, 5, 8, and 14. We stopped using punishment of any kind, including time outs, about three years ago. We haven't regretted it one bit. Instead, we rely on unconditional love, mutual respect, and honoring feelings. Are we perfect at it? No. Are my kids perfect? No. But we have definitely noticed big changes in our family. Highly recommend the book, "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" by Naomi Aldort.
heather greenwood - Danicaandbry, check out ahaparenting.com for great non-punitive ideas for older kids. It's totally possible to raise even spirited kids without using punishments.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - ^^ Case in point, look how well that worked for you. Wow. This may be the wrong page for that kind of talk, dude.
More kids are spanked now than ever before (nearly 90%). It's absolutely NOT "what's wrong with kids today". A little education goes a long way. Just saying.
laura smith - Taking a break, or a "time-out" together, with my children, has been really effective for our family. Pulling them away from a situation to sit with me caused many tears for them; but the more I did it the better I felt about not leaving them alone. I'm not saying that I've never sent them to be alone in their rooms, but as my parenting evolved the sitting together really worked best and seemed to feel more like teaching then punishing.
kristy wolf - Early childhood educator have been doing this for years!!!
jennifer purscelley - #6 is a little ridiculous.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - Your comments completely negate the point you are trying to make, Ricky. If speaking like that about children and other people is *your* definition of successful... no, thanks. Not at all what I'm shooting for. Have three awesome kiddos who have never been spanked, nor will they ever be, and comments like that just reinforce our decision. I didn't say "look where it got you" - I said look how well it worked for you, in the way you're now speaking of "whoopings" and "spoiled brats". If that's how it taught you to treat people, and to just continue that cycle of how you were parented, then again, no, thank you. Know better, do better.
mckenzie wagner goldberg - Your anecdotal evidence (your sampling of friends) does not negate actual scientific and medical facts, of which there are an abundance, if one is truly interested. And punishment is not the same as discipline, which has a basis in teaching and guiding.
It amazes me when people say kids are "smart enough to be capable of manipulation", and then turn around and say sometimes the only way they can learn is by being hit. A punishment that we actually get up-in-arms about if it's applied to any other group, such as the elderly, wives, even pets. The AAP has unequivocally recommended against corporal punishment since 1998, and it's already banned in 32+ countries.
nancy emerson - #7. Give 2 Choices. I would give Rebecca 2 choices when she was a toddler and she would chose number 3 - a choice of her own creation!
jadele gotses - We have 21, 13 and 11... Have NEVER spanked but, will admit that at times there is conflict and... OMG... Yelling.... With all of our children, the most awesome thing is that we can TALK to each other... Dad & Mom are HERE and PRESENT!!! INVOLVED and excited for your future!!! We NEVER "coddled" ... Get over it... Raise your children for REAL life... If you do... They will have more WINS and be successful... LISTEN but, be stern and united on decisions as parents... We will not bribe ... There are chores, homework and basic life skills... Everyone works for their privileges.... Give your children the advantage of being strong in this crazy world!!!
danicaandbry davis - I don't like punishment for young children but honestly there has to be consequences sometimes for 5years +. My almost 6 year old is the worst right now. He gets does things to purposely bug his sisters and sometimes the cat and dog. We are trying to get him a play area outside so he can physically get out and use his energy more. But at times he does things to just "get away with it" and hurt others. Finding non punishment alternatives can be difficult with.
dara stoltzfus - I like #11 and have used that when my 8 y/o is making me wanna pull out my hair. It's always been very enlightening for me because it has given me a chance to see the situation thru HER eyes and then "I get it." I will realize that I've been misperceiving her as just being "defiant" when really there's so much more going on.
She likes it, too, because after I have her draw a picture of how she's seeing the situation I'll draw one back...and THAT is always cool, too! To see the look of understanding flash across her face once she realizes that Mom's not "just being mean" but is frustrated and why. #11 is very cool for me and one of my 8 kids...
nicole garcia wallace - Great article! Looks like Non Violent Parenting/ ECHO or Non Violent Communication. Most people on here know punishment doesn't teach anything. It focuses attention on what the child is losing by being punished. Focusing on the person who was hurt and finding a way to resolve the conflict teaches children to trust themselves. Supporting children and holding space with empathy as they process their feelings, helps them self regulate. Punishments and time outs don't teach self-regulation. Children who are spanked or yelled at have lower IQs, higher anxiety, and depression as adults. The research has been out for many years now. Alfie Kohn and Naomi Aldort are amazing. Dr. Aldort is teaching a webinar parenting class that starts in October.
petra debow - As a parent Educator I struggle a bit with some of these suggestions. They can be easily missed used.
We need to be careful with accidental rewards for unwanted behaviours. A behaviour that gets attention (good or bad) will continue.
If time out is used properly it is a great way to teach your child to self regulate. Check out Triple p -positive parenting . Parenting strategies that are well researched and proven to work.
kitty edwards - I want a chill out space, too.
ricky owen - Lol I'm not going to be rude for any of you people. So I'll leave it at this. 20 years from now when the world is 10x worse than it is now you might maybe get the idea that you had no clue what you're doing. As for the lady saying "case in point, look where that got you" uhh Yea it got me pretty far. I'm probably more successful than 99% of you brain deeds on here. If you really think stupid ideas like in this article are going to help then you are part of the problem.
ricky owen - This is stupid. This is why so many ppl grow up these days spoiled and entitled and sensitive little cry babies. Sometimes a child needs a good old fashioned ass whooping. My daughter is only 16 months right now but once she becomes old enough to know right from wrong and still decides to do wrong she will be punished accordingly.
jessica canade stark - Christine Ingersoll
- Going in to both of my births, I was probably around a -7 or a -8. Which is to say, I absolutel (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-25T19:37:16+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Going in to both of my births, I was probably around a -7 or a -8. Which is to say, I absolutely did not want pain medication. Someone at a +7 would wish for an epidural as soon as they arrived at the hospital...Comments:
melissa chvojicek - Good ol, fashion screaming bloody murder ;) cleansing for the soul haha. Drug free for me
lyla diaz moore - Medication, no. Warm Water, deep breath, and freedom of movement, YES!
erin mayhem - I have had 3 kids. With the first one, I opted for pretty much everything my doctor offered, and it was by far the worst. With the second, I had an epidural pretty early on . That one was pretty nice and cruisy until the epidural wore off @ the end, and I went from no pain to a 10 on a scale of 1-10, almost instantly. With my 3rd, I had no drugs and did deep, focused breathing. The 3rd was by far the best.
amanda johnston parham - Being in a pool of water made the difference for me.
crystal schubert - Epidural! Best thing invented!
jason-geraldine reynolds - No meds. Just water n breathing through
ines wingert - No pain medication needed.
raena powell irizarry - Four babies:
1. Hospital, had IV drugs. Stitches. Pushed for hours with 20 people staring at me. Not great....
2. Home. In water. Amazing "short" labor.
3. Home. Malpositioned baby. He came out that way. For real.
4. Home. Super quick. Loved it.
No drugs. I'd rather fully experience my births. With the first, it was all a fog and I look back at pictures and I see myself looking so despondent. I was 1000% present for the others. Totally worth the pain.
jenn pittman corcoran - None. Hypnobabies. I would describe my second birth as comfortable and nearly pain free. 14 months later and I'm still in awe!
caprice salas-woodall - No drugs. Lots of moving, listening to my body and my baby, having my husband on hand, visualization, breathing and vocalizing. Oh, and doing this in the safety of my home. Perfection.
jessica hendel calland - None...and due date is right around the corner! Thankfully, I have a patient husband, an experienced doula, and a skilled & mellow doctor who will be at my side!
rhea jussen - Deep breathing, relaxation techniques and being able to move how I want.
maya pealer - Breathing,focusing on baby
ellesa hunter - Hypnobabies self hypnosis is very helpful!
annie leos - None, except Hypnobabies. The techniques that I learned for a pain-free delivery are now helping me manage my Trigenimal Neurlogia holistically.
priscila g. r. mix - Epidural for me. Had an epidural with both my boys and a wonderful experience with it. More power to those moms who can go natural! However, no matter how much I prepared myself, the pain hit me too hard and too fast to the point of making me insane and completely sick, not tolerable by any means. Could not use any breathing technique, nothing I had practiced at all. I think women need to be encouraged to go med free, have a Doula, prepare themselves. But if really needed, there is no shame on having pain meds.
luciana q. mcclure - Being naked and with a little cold wash cloth in my forehead to control my hot flashes during transition. Oh and my husbands support :-)
sarah cat - Having the baby at home hurt WAY less!
jennifer macha - None. Hypnobabies
angela miller - Birthing pool, freedom of movement, focusing on baby, calm quiet environment... had an excellent birth.
shawn dorn - No drugs, just my body's own natural painkillers.
- Did you/would you allow your older child(ren) to attend the birth of their sibling(s)? (Type: link | Published: 2014-09-30T22:54:03+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Did you/would you allow your older child(ren) to attend the birth of their sibling(s)?Comments:
tara borin mcdonagh - My 2 yo saw his baby brother born. He was wonderful, kept checking with me to ask how I was doing and patting my arm. My midwife said "kids see us do new things every day. This is just one more of those things he's never seen Mom do before."
tamara meinecke - My little guy was 4 weeks shy of 4 years old when his brother was born. We had a hospital birth, though I'd hoped for a home birth this time. (I have MTHFR so it was a potential bleed-out situation.) We chose a hospital further from our house because it allowed siblings. We all spent the night in the hospital together (while we were still waiting). He snuggled with me for a while and it helped soothe me during the contractions. Baby brother *somehow* managed to give him a new truck to play with, though he hadn't even been born yet! (amazing) Earlier, we had practiced making the noises that "mommy might make" when I was pushing the baby out and done a few other things to prepare for the potential scariness or oddness. (He toured the hospital with me and had been to my prenatal appointments with me. We have no family in town, so he would have been with me anyway.) My husband was devoted to our almost-4-year-old, and our doula was devoted to me. My husband took him out for breakfast and also a lunch at McDonald's (special junk food treat!!!) and was back in time for the serious stuff. My son was mostly playing fairly quietly with his new garbage truck, but he definitely came over for the actual pushing out. He was so proud and amazed. He still talks about it. They spent the night with us in the hospital that night. It was super-super-special having him there. All the nurses were so impressed with him, too. I'm so happy we were able to do it like that, since I couldn't give birth at home.
jennifer wilson - Yup! Both of my children were present at the birth of my third. It was a home water birth and they both joined me in the tub during early labor and would stoke my hair and back. The youngest, was in and out and checked in with me frequently. She was almost two years old so didn't quite comprehend everything, but was happy to do her thing. My son was almost 5 and was very sweet. At one point he told my best friend (who was present and preparing lunch for them) "I wish the baby would come out soon because mommy is tired"! As soon as she was out he exclaimed, "that was amazing, AMAZING!" He still talks about it <3 I would do it the same way in a heartbeat.
rebecca sorrell - My eleven year old was the sweetest birth coach you could ever imagine.
gena horine - Well I told me older son who was 5 at the time that he could come when I had his younger brother, but he told me "I don't want to see the baby come out of your private spot." I about died it was so funny and sweet.
allison e. bembe - It's great for me to read this. I due in April and my 3 year old just informed me that he was "going to help me get the baby boy out." When I said I would be working very hard to get the baby out he said he'd work hard with me. I guess he decided he wants to be at the birth. :)
eliza jane oakes - I really wanted my son (4) to be present but he witnessed one contraction and was like PEACE OUT and left with Memaw. He wouldn't even come close enough to me for a hug and kiss goodbye. I'm actually really glad he wasn't there now, because it was such a fast and intense labor I would have been worried that he was scared.
ashley ross - No, honestly I think having my kids at a birth would be detracting for me. I would be so concerned about how they are feeling about seeing mommy in pain. To each their own though. :)
lisa la nasa - I had an accidental, unassisted home birth with #2, labor was incredibly quick and we weren't going to make it to the hospital. My husband and 4.5 year old daughter were my assistants. She was getting me water, towels, then telling the neighbors :) and watching for the midwife to arrive after her sister was born. It was beautiful and I'm so glad that she shared that experience.
marybeth nelson - Caution: bold comment ahead:
There is ZERO need for this.
amber stidam grzyb - My boys have all watched Baby story and stuff like that they know where babies come from but I don't think any would have wanted to be in the room for the birth of siblings, however they do know they will be in there with their future wife/gf for the birth of their own children lol
elise troop - No. My children should not see m private areas. They also should not be put in a helpless position because they can't stop the pain. I did not like seeing my mother in pain growing up. I don't think any child does.
betsy vaughn ayers - Of coarse, where else would they be?
deann ragsdale - My 5yo and 7yo daughters just watched their new sister be born last weekend. They sat there theater style for the last 45 min? (It was very fast overall) and I don't think any of us would have given it up.
stephanie johnston morris - I considered it, but I wasn't sure how my sensitive kids would handle seeing me in pain. As it turned out, labor started at 10pm and baby was here at 11pm and my kids were asleep.
lena juan - Yes they were 17 yrs apart great experience for my oldest that's one reason she is in College. ..
lucy williams - My 6, 3 & 20mo watched as we welcomed our last baby at home. They were amazing! My loud voice didn't scare anyone :)
brittany marie - I have two girls, both born at home. My 5 year old was my mini doula. She was very curious and interested in the birth of her baby sister and wanted to be a part of the experience so... We prepared her by talking openly about what was really going to happen. How mommy may be in pain for a little while but its all part of the process and worth it bc at the end her baby sister would be here with us! She was very receptive! We even watched some water birth videos together. She was with me all day as i labored and ate dinner and went to sleep while i stayed up and contractions got stronger and closer together! At around 1am she appeared at the top of the stairs with a stuffed animal that she insisted on bringing to me to make me feel better. She sat by my head and brought me sips of water and gently stroked my head after each push. Having her with me kept me grounded and focused and reminded me that i did it all before and could do it again! Once cassidy was born my older daughter, cameron jumped for joy! She told me that she was proud of me and that she would never forget that moment! She even cut the cord! :) giving birth is a natural thing and i believe if your child is interested in attending the birth of a new sibling then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
susan peterson - If they were awake they were there. If they were asleep, we left them asleep. All saw at least one birth. My youngest daughter at. 9 or 10 saw her oldest sister's fourth baby be born. No issues that I know of, but sometimes their reactions are not what you might expect. One four year old when asked his impression said,"Mommy pooped out a baby."
wendy sturrock - Allowing older children both girls and boys to experience the labor and birth of their siblings while still being sensitive to each child's emotions individually is a big part of truly changing the perception of labor, pregnancy and birth in the world. If our children grow up believing that pregnancy, labor and birth are natural normal processes of life, it can change the face of obstetrical care in this country.
jenni evans - My birth with my 6 year old daughter present was amazing! She was well prepared in what would happen and I have some beautiful photos of her watching her sister crowning. She got to cut the cord. She watched the placenta coming out. And she has the best bond with her now 6 month old sister! When she grows up she wants to deliver babies!