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- Your lady parts take quite a beating during vaginal childbirth. The padsicle is here to help. T (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-13T16:22:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Your lady parts take quite a beating during vaginal childbirth. The padsicle is here to help. This made-at-home remedy for healing and comfort requires only three items: witch hazel, newborn disposable diapers, and crushed ice. 1. Cut the back of newborn diaper. You should be able to feel the fluffy…Comments:
ladiv esile - Saved me too! (I used a post-partum pad instead of a diaper and just filled it with water/witch hazel, then put in the freezer)
netuo .c lirpa - Witch hazel and ice saved my life post-partum. I'll spare the gruesome details but post-partum hemorrhoids are hell.
rekatihw gem - Rachel THIS is a lifesaver and not something you think of until you need it. Get some witch hazel to keep on hand postpartum :)
spillihp einahpets - Witch hazel is amazing. I am wondering though if it's going in the freezer anyhow why not skip the cutting and putting in of ice and let the witch hazel freeze? Does witch hazel not freeze maybe? I might try it. A little less work and no chance of the diaper insides coming out
nesredna rehtaeh - Those witch hazel pads for hemorrhoids were also AMAZING to have. Lol.
zednuba ylloh - I made these with witch hazel, aloe, and lavender oil and froze them...they were too cold frozen but good when thawed out :)
notgnidul ennayoj - haha, I got offered these after my last two babies. never used them at all. all I really wanted was to be able to take the uterine contraction/afterbirth pain away. My crotch DID NOT ACHE. But boy did my baby-making factory! To the point where I could have pushed to bring in my milk supply a lot harder (pumping, expressing, nursing my older nursling), but didn't because of the pain. That's the kind of pain relief tip I'd like to see!
tremme naillij - Instead of using ice, you can also put some karo syrup in a bag and squish all the air our and seal it, pop it in the freezer. Nice and cold and not hard like ice is.
Also 'perineal cold compress pads' are a life saver with witch hazel. Amazing. 😊
atsinagro ekoorb - Or you could use a reusable cloth pad with an ice pack. Better for the environment and you wont have all those nasty chemicals touching your sensitive areas.
ecivres yrosivda yppan erihsretsecrow - sanw - Did you know that there are washable pads that you can slid an ice pack into? Save you a fortune, and save landfill, and are much more comfortable to wear! :-)
mahneb nosam ylrebmik - In the hospital, we used to put a Tucks on the pad in addition to the ice. After I had my babies, I did it at home too. Sweet relief!
itsek iret - Comfrey Tea actually is an inflammatory and encourages tissue healing! As a doula/midwife assistant we always make frozen pads with Comfrey.
sretep eleynad - Courtney, this "pad" saved me. Felt SSSSSSSOOOOO good. Lol
elgnarw irehc hgiel - Best things ever.
ssob ssonav aremat - Wish I had had these! I was in so much pain from a couple of tears.
notsuoh netsirk - The hospital gave me some of these that were manufacturered but I love the idea of making some myself.
grebnennad zined imoan - Hmmm is this advisable if you've had stitches?
zednanreh-sggib eirelav - So is the verdict it's too cold frozen? Or worth getting some ready before hand?? :) tears or not, I bet these are very helpful afterwards
ytsedrah ennaej yma - I made 22 of these... and only used two because I didn't tear this time 😂
dwod yram - You can buy these ready to use. They are called Tucks. Put 3 on a sanitary pad. These used to be given in a new Mother's gift bag to take home from the hospital back in the day. They are available in your local drugstore or online. What was old is new again!
lehcuomud senih adnama - Did this dissolve anyone's stitches? My friend said it did to her sutures too early
- Yay!! We're giving away a complete curriculum package from Oak Meadow! Enter to win now! (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-03T22:06:39+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Yay!! We're giving away a complete curriculum package from Oak Meadow! Enter to win now!Comments:
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- This is my hungry baby. We are preparing to nurse with a cover in the comfortable, quiet enviro (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-05T00:21:59+0000)
Mothering Magazine: This is my hungry baby. We are preparing to nurse with a cover in the comfortable, quiet environment that is our living room. We nurse in this exact spot at least once a day. He falls asleep in my arms here. He loves it here.Comments:
eceencm etak - I was out to dinner with my VERY old-fashioned grandmother-in-law & other family. I nursed my baby without a cover while we ate & she never noticed. Afterwards she asked when I was going to feed the baby & I said I had. When she realized what had happened she was APPALLED. Go figure.
evol acceber - This is hilarious! My son, even when just a tiny little guy, would swat the blanket away with a look of confusion, frustration and possibly disgust. The images really made me laugh. I think its funny though, that having nursed three children now i have never been confronted about nursing in public. Maybe I'm just lucky! But my hope is that if mothers just continue to feed openly and never bat an eyelash, I mean just don't even act as though anyone is watching, then people won't even notice or act like anything is out of the ordinary. Because it isn't! I feel that the act of trying to cover it up makes it stand out more, which this article touches upon. I consider myself pretty bashful, but when it comes to nursing nothing comes between me and feeding my child. No mom should feel as though feeding their baby is a crime. My heart goes out to any mother who has ever been shamed for nursing in public. I suggest anyone who is worried about it print out the federal laws supporting breastfeeding mothers and stick it your diaper bag. No better way to shut someone up then to threaten them with a lawsuit ;)
llemmik-yelloj eikcim - We are supposed to nurse our young that's what makes us mammals... ; )
gnitnub nytsirk n yeroc - I wore a tank under my shirts and it covered everything but the baby! Free the boob and the baby! Here in Texas it gets over 100 degrees not to mention "feels like" no baby should be covered in this heat!
notxul arac - I always nurse in the open. I wouldn't want a cover over my head while I eat and I'm sure my infant son doesn't either. We have breasts to feed our babies and we shouldn't be afraid to use them.
nospmoht alaham - I wanna watch those people that are all "use a cover" go to a restaurant and eat with a blanket over their head.
dooh egas - While we're at it, can we please stop calling it nursing and call it what it is? BREASTFEEDING. The term nursing is just another means of placating the cover up campaign.
el kian atanamas - Why can't you just pump or nurse at home? That's my favorite one.
neirb'o aicila - Nursing with a cover is an unesesarry pain. I tried with my oldest for about 2 seconds, then used my cover to cover the window during nap time ;)
with my youngest I haven't bothered with a cover, just nurse when he needs to eat! <3
ikslatrop ylime - I hate when people are like, "nursing in public is cool as long as you use a cover". Um... You're an idiot. You can cover your face while I nurse my baby comfortably 😊
obos tterrab esined - Why can't men keep their freaking shirts on in the summer time? Why is feeding a baby, the way our creator intended, more "disgusting" than running around half naked for no reason? Our society created this warped sense of normalcy - we have to fight for changes.
tebsin zeugirdor atirol - I used to breast-feed all three of my girls in public all the time- discreetly covering up with a blanket, or an extra shirt, etc. No one EVER said a word to me about it, and more than once I realized the person standing or sitting directly in front of me had NO IDEA I was nursing a baby! I have never understood why there needed to be such a fuss about things. It is not a difficult thing to do in a discreet manner. And in the few situations that were just too complicated, I found a way to excuse myself, feed the baby and return. Mom
sreka einahpets - I've breastfed three babies / toddlers and never used a cover, (after trying to a couple of times with my first with no success). Baby's head covers everything anyway, and if someone can't look away for two and a half seconds while baby latches on, they are the one with the problem!
dnomaid m rehtaeh - Amen!! My son won't stand for it. I just nurse wherever, whenever and it is much less distracting than a screaming baby. Plus I can wear tops that are discrete and it's not a big deal! Someone is going to have to look hard to catch a shot of my engorged, milky nipple if that's their thing! !
llessur ynaffud acceber - I have nursed out in the open both with and without a cover and think all women should be able to without shame. But for those that would like another option, or are just shy about their bodies like me, try nursing in a Moby! I used to do that all the time and the baby didn't mind a bit. There was better air circulation and a little cover attached that didn't bug him.
asobrab enilorac - My baby is 8 months now and I've taken her to 5 countries in three different continents . I always breastfeed her in public and without a cover . Nobody has ever stared at me the way they do in the states . But I couldn't care less when they do thou ! And when I see a mom covering herself up, I hold myself not to go and tell her that she doesn't need to !!! Aren't we a free country ? Breastfeeding is amazing and nobody should be ashamed to do so !
icsat aidan - We are feeding our babies. It will happen wherever and whenever. It's natural and beautiful <3 I would never cover that ;-)
oclafed sedohr einna - Love this. With my 1st I always always always used a cover.... Why? So I wouldn't make others uncomfortable.... I just made my babe uncomfortable (hello Missouri humidity!) This time around I have said screw it. It's freaking hot outside. Look/don't look-whatever- my babe needs to eat and deserves to not be overheated in the process.
rolyat elehcir - after a heated dispute with my dad about breastfeeding and how he thinks "breastfeeding is like religion..to each his own but I just don't want it crammed down my throat...." I made a promise to myself to breastfeed my son wherever, whenever and without a stupid cover. it made me feel like I was shamed of what I was doing when I wasn't!!
I made the mistake of trying to cover up while having lunch with my parents one day so as to not make my DAD uncomfortable, all the while I was making MYSELF and MY BABY uncomfortable!!! the feeding didn't go well at all and my then one month old howled and I felt so flustered. poor baby :(
I haven't spoken to my dad or stepmom in two months because of his disgusting and ridiculous stubborn ass attitude towards me breastfeeding HIS GRANDSON!! what an asshole.
aelnova airotciv - I had this exact same cover when I was nursing my daughter! Lol. And I had the same problems using a cover right from the start. It never worked for us and I gave up on it pretty quickly. My daughter was just too squirmy and I ended up exposing more of myself trying to use a cover than if I had've just done without. Eventually I had to ask why I was even allowing men glaring at me to deter me and make me feel uncomfortable breastfeeding my daughter. Actually, I remember as a child my aunt was nursing my cousin under a blanket once and I ripped the blanket off because I didn't understand why she had it like that. I was worried my cousin was going to suffocate like that! Lol. Of course I did this to my shame and everyone's in my family.
nrubriaf haras - Great photos showing how difficult covers are after a certain age. My son was fine with one until about five months and that was it. Some of the comments on the actual article are disgusting though.
- Because sometimes we just need to feel better about ourselves, here are 10 brave moms who share (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-07T23:34:45+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Because sometimes we just need to feel better about ourselves, here are 10 brave moms who shared pictures of some more well lived-in areas of their homes. Names have been changed to protect the innocent. Little girls are filled with sugar and spice and… explosions of messes. Martha told me this was…Comments:
enizagam gnirehtom - If you don't feel that this post accurately reflects everyday messes please send your own messy house pics to email@example.com and we'll do a 'take-two' on this post. Names will be kept private.
dyolf rehtaeh - New headline: 10 Moms Share Pics of How Clean They Managed To Get & Keep One Room For the Length of Time Required to Take a Picture
lemmik ayamey - Those houses were gorgeous. Now I feel even worse about my old, funky, not updated, not painted house that no matter how perfectly I clean it will never look as beautiful as the homes in these pics. Now I have validation for why I don't want to have anyone over ever. Oh please. I will trade you my clean but old and funky house for any of those beautifully stunning messy ones. This post only made me feel worse. I'm going to go crawl into a corner and cry now, thanks
zemog aydil - "brave moms" really? this is not messy its lived in and a bit disheveled. This is life with children. Even worse with a husband if he doesn't do his part. Where's all the dirty underwear on the floor!! Or nasty sticky floors and carpet after like 24 hrs!!! But how does the house smell!!! Hahahaha. Whatever!!!
nosretep eiluj - why don't they show what a real messy house is with 4 girls home for the summer?
allab acissej - Id love to see a real messy house.... not staged messy. I was hoping to find one to make me feel normal. Nup didnt happen
yecats edaj - I can never relate to these type of posts, I keep a pretty organized, very clean home. What I've learned over the last 21 years of marriage/child raising is this: It isn't a competition.
A mom isn't a better mom if her home is messy vs. clean, if her hair is done or needs it, if her husband picks up his chonies or not; her kids perfectly behaved- whatever that looks like.
I have my own reasons for keeping house the way I do, it probably isn't healthy, but it is what it is. It works for me and mine and that is all that matters.
One of my dearest friends would rather doing anything but clean. Guess what? She is still a phenomenal mama and a beautiful friend. We can look to our strengths and encourage others, not make them feel inadequate or filled with doubt.
drehpehs ynaffit - I wish my house were this clean. I wish so much my biggest mess was a tipped basket on a freshly vacuumed floor. I'm so tired of cleaning.
I have 3 small boys and teenager my house stinks and there might be boogers on my couch.
These messes here are nothing. Just people upset their house doesn't look like a magazine image. My house will never look like a magazine and I'm ok with that.
llih alusru ajna - I guess the fact that these all seem like upper/middle-class homes makes them seem a little less 'messy'...they would be embarrassed to post my messy house pics lol
tterrab eram - My son came in the bathroom while I was cleaning it and asked if Gramma was coming over... I said no why and he said I thought she was because you were cleaning the bathroom... like I don't already do that every day with 4 sons haha
imegdesserts nybor - LOL thats messy? you call any of those real child in house messy? LOL you should see what my five year old grandson can do in a few hours omg lol those were nothing......my favorite was the one lone tipped over laundry basket.......one barely filled spilled over laundry basket ROTFL
zerimar yma - My favorite is the one where clearly the only child isn't old enough to walk yet and the 'mess' was baby equipment throughout the room. That was cute. I remember those days when I only had one....
nodles .e llij - I always thought this was how homes were supposed to look: lived in! And yes, mine is also way more of a poster for a messy house thanthese sometimes. Great project.
gnus namleke anaid - Most of this look what our house looks like AFTER we clean it. I feel like a failure now...
ydennek yrrehs - Yeah, to tell you the truth, if I were going to share a photo of my messy house, I might clean it up a little too.
xilef acissej - My mom told me my house was "in shambles" last month. That's life with kids! With a toddler and a teenager in the house you can clean and clean but things are not going to stay that way for long. My kids even pitch in (a lot!) but we're focused on living our lives, not making our house perfect. Either visit us and keep your comments to yourself or stay home! Amirite?
nruboc eus - I am a Nana now of 3 gorgeous grandchildren.I absolutely LOVED all the pictures they brought back a lot of sweet memories now, not 35 years ago.I had my 2 children and had a home day care with a total of 5 kids 2 after school care & 3 toddlers full time.It was a lucky day if you could see the floor through the toys !!
I am a firm believer that a "messy " house full of kids necessities in a HAPPY HOME !!
PS- I wonder if they cleaned their houses before they took their "messy" pics, they really where not that messy !!
grebredos eilsel - I say we start potimg out own messy pics now.
regeurk yrrebed irrek - My house never looked like this...I always taught my kids to clean up their own messes from the time they were old enough to walk...we made it a game and I am a firm believer of cluttered house, cluttered mind. I simply cannot function in a messy home...That being said, clean house vs. messy house, makes no difference...do what works for you and your family and never be ashamed of "living" in your own home! Motherhood isn't for whimps!
swerdna anirtak - Those houses looked like they are staged to look "messy". These pictures are my best days.
senoj retrop sreynoc harobed - When my kids were younger, I cleaned house once a day. After they went to bed at night. During the day they played with their toys and sometimes everything in the toy box was around the house. They are only little once.
- If you’ve ever been to Target, you’ve probably noticed that their toys, among many other pr (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-10T00:47:32+0000)
Mothering Magazine: If you’ve ever been to Target, you’ve probably noticed that their toys, among many other products, are divided into girls’ and boys’ sections. The “Girl” toy aisle is not only glaringly pink, but remarkably void of most toys that promote math and science, while being heavy on gendered toys such as b…Comments:
ekwah llij - Lol stupid. I'm not ashamed of my kids genders or their natural tendencies based on said gender. The fact is that different genders do TEND to prefer different activities. This just makes my shopping trips harder... 😐
yllek nimsaj nairb - It would better if they focused their efforts on increasing wages and paid maternity leave.
etihw annahs - Can we say first world problems?
ssorcyloh nwad - That's crazy!! It's very helpful while shopping with my kids to hit one aisle and say "yes, those are girl toys" and then go to the next aisle and say "yes, those are boy toys." What is up with all this gender neutralization? News flash! Boys and Girls are DIFFERENT.
zreh hteb - I'm really confused by all these angry posts. I love this idea and I hope they start carrying more toys with more gender neutral coloring. I don't mind terribly buying my boys a broom set that is pink and purple because they like playing house in between playing with trucks etc and they also like the color pink. Still, do all of the kitchen pretend toys have to be pink?
rekab ynaffit - Way to go Target!! (Sarcasm) This is dumb. Gender specific toys!? How terrible!
strevog erialc - Good for target. Let kids see what toys they are interested in instead of aiming them towards what people think is gender appropriate.
nothguan gem - I have always let my kids choose their toys based on their interests rather than telling them which toys are for boys and which toys are for girls. This won't change anything for our family.
ytsirhc arorua - The toys are not changing, they are simply removing the boy/girl label. Why is that a problem. Kids will gravitate towards what they like no matter what. My daughter likes barbies and transformers. No big deal. Some kids just like barbies, dome just like transformers. That is still what they will gravitate towards. But when you label things as for boys or girls they kids who don't identify as the assigned gender of the toy are already made to feel bad about it and they shouldn't. Over consideration is not what is wrong with this country. It's the lack of kindness and respect.
yecats acissej - This is great. I know a lot of little kids that are told it's wrong to play with the toys of their opposite gender siblings. Especially when you look at Lego! Girls Lego is all pony and princess crap. Girls want cool lego too!
enial-nadreb elleinod - To be honest, I'm shocked that people honestly believe this will make their shopping harder. A good amount of stores do not have blue and pink shelves or the labels for 'girl' and 'boy' toys. They simply have labels like "legos", "barbies", "games" and neutral colored shelves. Have you had issues in those stores?
knif yentruoc - Annoying. If my daughter wants a big hero six toy for example I'll walk over to the boy section. Who cares.
srewolf lirpa - This weekend the aisle backgrounds were taken down in my area. They also removed the girls toys and boys toys from aisle markers.
yllennod zil - Great stuff go Target! Toys are just one area where ridiculous gender stereotyping with endless pink, princesses, only using a certain colour palate for girls (which is a 'passive' rather than an 'active' palate, just saying') is insulting to our girls - and vice versa with the toys targeted at boys. Children should be able to be choose from a wide variety of toys, gender neutral as much as possible, yes, with some pink, but only as one option among many, hey its a nice colour boys can like it too - and not have to even think about what anyone else says about it - even if they do choose something that may be 'for' the opposite gender. Parents, watch for the stereotypes buried within children's TV programmes too. Well done Target! A step in the right direction.
sekrom aram - I disagree that society has dictated what gender toys my kids play with. I tested it with my own children starting from birth. I gave my first born daughter Hot Wheels cars and she barely touched them. She wasn't interested in the Tinker Toys, blocks, bristle blocks, etc. My son was born into a house of lots of girly toys because that was what my daughter asked for. My son attacked the Hot Wheels and promptly wanted more and he made all the Tinker Toys into swords, guns, daggers, lightsabers, etc. They play together a lot which means she loves Ninjago and he plays Barbies with her or lets her dress him up, but they have had clear likes and dislikes from birth.
That all being said, I'm glad that Target is taking the gender bias off the aisles so that both of my kids have something to look at on each aisle. Also, just because I think gender-thinking is more hard wired than people realize, there is no reason to reinforce this in their environment. Let each INDIVIDUAL child choose what their likes and dislikes are.
nworb-kcenetihw eitak - I'm shocked by all of this negative feedback. This is a great change to make! Way to go Target!
eezarf nasus - Great, now I will have to walk the whole toy section to find the teenage mutant turtles. Will they be next to the Barbies soon? All infant and toddler toys are gender neutral. That's fine, that lets them explore everything. But when they get older they have a preference. Wake up America, political correctness is going too far.
yerorccm doowllams ellehcim - No more target clothes 😀😀
rellum lehcar - instead of just removing the gender signage, why can't they mix the blue and pink toys
reuab eugnoy yllek - Let's cause gender confusion from birth! Let's dress gurls in blue and boys in pink. Let's make the girls pee standing and make boys sit. Let's give boys dolls and girls guns and let's call them by gender neutral names like Pat. People need to rethink their lives with some purpose ... Dam
eniamot anaul - What next panties with boxer shorts! Seriously do they think parents and grandparents are so dumb that we can't choose diverse toys without their "help".
- My husband’s grandmother left a message saying she was coming over. Right. Now. I’d been pu (Type: link | Published: 2015-08-02T22:10:00+0000)
Mothering Magazine: My husband’s grandmother left a message saying she was coming over. Right. Now. I’d been putting her visit off. I wanted the first week with our newborn to be a closed circle made up only of new mother, new father, and new baby. Benjamin was a wonder to us with eyes that hinted (I swear) …Comments:
newob aicila - Every new mother feels differently. It's so important to be attuned to their boundaries, respect their space. I wanted company. I felt lonely, but I also needed some space, and for company to come with clean, manicured nails, soft clothes, and no perfumes or cigarette smells. It drove me out of my mind when I was handed my babies, wreaking of cigarettes after smokers held them. Ask first, or wait to be invited. And if you must, stop by with cooked food, ring the doorbell, and leave.
athem eet - Stupidest article ever... I really appreciated all the support i got.
People brought me food, presents, showed love and affection to my baby that I will remember for a lifetime. I know my daughter cried for a few seconds and my friends and relatives always gave her back! They would also help with chores and keep me sane! I would breastfeed the baby and they would do the dishes while I rested! They did not over stay their welcome! I guess you can say I was lucky!
smailliw adnama - As someone who had six babies and never a single visitor to "see the baby" I couldn't disagree more. I always felt so lonely I can't imagine not wanting visitors. I get that some people don't want them but man, I would have loved just one.
nivel hsubma aner - ok, wow. lots of thoughts and feelings on this one. Which means that this is a great article. As a new first time mom, I remember all too well how it felt to have way too much company. Especially my grandmother, who was a very very difficult person. She actually came with my dad (her son) and then they had a fight, loudly arguing, extremely disruptive...and well, I had to call a cab and throw them out of my home. So yeah, there's that! I get it. On the other hand, I am now a grandmother, and I have never felt so superfluous in my life. Drove 5 hours to the hospital to see my first grandchild and was kept in the waiting room for more than an hour, then was "allowed" to see the new family (on post partum day 3, mind you) for a grand total of 15 minutes. BUT, as a childbirth educator/doula and lactation support person myself, I totally get that it was NOT about me and my husband, the new grandparents, but about the new famliy. They were recovering from a traumatic birth experience and needed their space. It is THEIR time and THEIR turn. I have been there, done that, and I certainly don't wanna be "that" person that articles are written about. So yeah.....it hurts to have to "stand down" but that is the correct thing to do. I would rather have them feel that they need me and then ask me to be there for them than impose on them.
rekced thcul yduj - Mother is the gatekeeper to baby...and usually MOTHER'S FAMILY has access and hands on priveleges that FATHER'S FAMILY may not have. Ah...so true...a daughter is a daughter all the days of her life, but a son is a son until he takes a wife. ..Young moms...find a loving way to bond the family together.
osogerf ailuj - I can relate a little too well. It's amazing how having a baby can change relationships between you and the inlaws.....or any other baby thief. I think it's great that grandparents want to bond, but it shouldn't be at the expense of a newborn and the relationship between that baby and his/her parents. My mil took my firstborn up stairs to her room to comfort his inconsolable tears (which he was perfectly fine before she wanted to hold him). I couldnt stand to hear him crying and everyone got upset when I went up to get him. They didnt, and still dont, get it at times.
hcram lyrpa - Visitors are nice, but it is always important to respect a parent's boundaries and wishes when visiting their children. Whether the child is 1 day old or 16 years (my oldest child's age). And if a new mama tells you to give back the baby, give back the baby. Now. I don't care how well you think you "know babies". Mama wants baby back,GIVE. BABY. BACK.
oekomik acceber - Maybe this would have been better had it been a "Prepare mentally for the family that misses and longs for days their children were babies, who want to see the miracle of life that sprung from their own miracles , understand they have joy in their hearts and love for this precious person they too have awaited as long as you have ( longer if you put it into the perspective of waiting all their parenting lives for that moment) , understand that hormones play a huge role in how you're feeling and to use the time they're visiting to breathe, shower and have something to drink"
Rather than "stay away family! How dare you visit my baby"
gnimelf refinnej - I'm due with my second child in September and I understand her viewpoint completely. I was overwhelmed with visitors after the birth of my first child and wasn't able to devote the time I should have to bonding, establishing nursing, resting, and getting into a rhythm with my baby. There's nothing rude or unappreciative about wanting that space with your baby. That's exactly what that time is for. If people want and/or need the support they most certainly should have it, but to paint parents as selfish for wanting that time to themselves and their new baby is selfish in itself and insensitive to the needs of new parents and babies, which should always come first.
sixela tegdirb - Truth my daughter was in the nicu the first two weeks of her life. Two days after she came home my in laws visited and stayed at our house. My husbands step dad CONSTANTLY took my daughter from me or my husband and insisted on holding her for up to an hour on end. The straw that broke the camels back was when he took her into a room alone for some reason. I've never felt more primal urge to take somebody out in my life. It's been four weeks and my blood stills boils thinking about it.
niffirg htiaf ellehcim attenoitna - I agree, let us mothers get comfortable with our surroundings, don't be dicks cause you want to see the baby. Be nice and we might invite you back.
strevog erialc - Too much "pass the baby around" with a newborn can mess with breastfeeding. Newborn needs lots of skin to skin and latching often. I get that people are excited for a new baby, but they need to respect the parents wishes.
nrehtuos aicila - I just want to say to everyone that in my journey of processing my childhood and the way that I am, I have come to the realization that many times the act of forcing children to act selflessly (ie sharing) so they will not be selfish leads to rebellion, resentment, and outbursts of "rudeness". When you teach people that their needs and desires are irrelevant if they go against what someone elses, they learn that being selfless and self sacrifice make you good, and putting yourself first in any situation makes you selfish or bad. They learn that they do not matter and that they are small and powerless because you force them to behave in a way contrary to what they want and shame them if the don't obey. People raised like this will be people pleasers that become doormats and cannot stand up for themselves in relationships with others OR they become people with a sense of entitlement that expect others to be the selfless ones that jump at their beck and call. Sometimes people can even be a mix of those two types. But that is not really the point of this post. The point is that the instinct of a mother to protect her child and keep that child content is strongest within the first part of a child's life when that child is fragile and unable to defend himself. This is a normal and appropriate response to feeling your child is not being properly cared for and knowing that it is your responsibility to make sure that baby is ok. She is not a monster for wanting her newborn to not be held to a perfume soaked, jeweled sweatered, impatient grandmother that was determined to hold that baby come hell or high water despite knowing that mom was uncomfortable and wanted that baby back in her arms. This blogger knows herself well enough to know that in the week following delivery she needs to physically and mentally recover from birth, bond with her baby, and get rested and settled in before others come into the mix But as a first time parent she didn't KNOW she was going to feel this so strongly that it would cause her to respond more harshly than she intended. No one responds well to stressful situations when they are exhausted and dealing with the onslaught of hormones and overwhelm of new parenthood. She likely never would have responded the way she did had she not felt the immense pressure to go against her instincts and wishes and if she hadn't been blatantly ignored when first trying to get her child back in her arms. Grandma might "know babies" and how to comfort them, but if a momma asks for her baby back, you immediately give.them their baby back. if you don't, then YOU are the rude and selfish one. No matter how old baby is. If you can't relate to what this mom is saying, that is ok. You don't have to understand, but if you don't then give this mother a break. We have all responded inappropriately to someone at some point or other because we are human and we deserve grace from ourselves and others. Think of how you feel when you are out of line- you feel like a monster. Do you respond better to love and grace or shame and ridicule? What motivates you to act differently next time? Please be kind to others as much as possible.
ecirp nnir yma - I'm on granny's side. Sorry. You are part of a family, and I imagine great-granny was thrilled to meet her great grandson. Within what, 3 minutes you took him from her arms and ran off? Sheesh. Grow up. Calm down. Take a shower. Babe will survive contact with rhinestones and old women.
enilc assilem - It's more about respecting boundaries in general than about visiting in particular. When I tell you to give my baby back, you give.the.baby.back. You don't walk to the other side of the room.
kcicarts refinnej - I've been holding on to resentment for being visited when the baby was newly born and it's been 13 months. One time his grandmother on his dad's side came by unexpected and banged so hard on my bedroom window when I was sound asleep with the baby I was so furious I didn't answer!! She since has made comments like my other grandkids lived with me for 6 months like my son should so I don't feel good about her being around at all which is selfish I know
retals hannah - The article is not really my issue here, it's their choice, BUT! I don't get this breed of women. There is no 2nd time I reach for my child, if I want him I WILL take him back the millisecond I reach for him. I cannot comprehend mother's with no back bone in this day and age. You have to have one, the 2nd choice is to forfeit your role, that's it.
nospmoht haras - I loved having visitors. I thought I'd want to be just with my husband and baby but having my parents there to help was nice. And I loved introducing my new baby to all my friends. Everyone is different
ereehnem keinom - I had such a thing.. because my ex stole my son from me, i wanted noone to hold my 2nd child. Only me..and even my own man couldnt hold him too much..he was mine..people who i loved took my other son from me so i had no trust in people close to me now. Grandma came over.. i turned towards her so she could see him..and she snatched him from my arms.. my man saw my face.. he commanded his grandma to give that baby back..right now! She said dont be childish.. and he not so kindly repested himself. After a few years i felt a litttle bit guilty.. but also not. Dont just grab a baby..especially not from a new mothers arms! You might just (re-) treaumatize her
yllonnoc nylorac - Good for you! This is exactly how I felt when people visited. I would put them off, and then when they did arrive, almost no one was allowed to hold my newborns. I firmly requested that my friends, who I love dearly, NOT set up food delivery for me. I STRONGLY felt that my babies needed to be protected in that first month. Even from well-meaning people. Reading others comments -it looks like to me that it depends on the mother. I think the point is to respect what the individual mother feels. The emotions immediately postpartum are so primal, they need to be respected.
enyella-érrac .j ecirtaéb - I don't get the need to hold newborns. I know we want to but I always give the new mom space and help out where she needs it. Leaving her to tend to her baby.
- Making kids share is good parenting, right? I don’t think so. In fact, I write bearing good n (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-27T23:34:06+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Making kids share is good parenting, right? I don’t think so. In fact, I write bearing good news: you don’t need to force your kid to share with mine.Comments:
elpmet refinnej - I read something similar to this and it stated "imagine you are at a park or waiting in line and a stranger comes up to you and grabs your phone while u are on a call. Would you "share it" or would you be like "hey, thief give me my phone back!" - likely the latter. And why should we expect our toddlers to react any differently in the given situation.
snikwah ytrebil - Thank you. I can't stand for a child to run after my kid yelling share share.and think my child is supposed to hand the toy over then and there... Nope that's not how it works ... Sharing isn't about giving up your toy it's about giving the other person a turn when you are done ... Thank you thank you. Glad to know I am not the only parent who feels this way
nnelg irret - Glad to find others who feel this way. I think "sharing" as it is practiced by most parents is ridiculous. Prying toys out of the hands of small children to hand them to other children? What is that? How about instead of preaching sharing we teach "Wait your turn" or "Sorry, that toy isn't available. You need to find something else to play with."
llang etak - I completely agree with this 100%. My only concern is ignorant, careless parents. "my kid had it first. Your kid's hogging it. Your kid stole it. Your kid wont share"
eroom asil - This is a hard one to explain to parents who are fixated on the "thou must share at all costs" mantra. Sigh...
hted cidolem - How about I raise my kid how I want. Reality fuckers.
ibiahsla eitsirk - I have a different issue. My daughter has suddenly become very uncomfortable with her cousin or any other child touching any of her toys when they come to our house. I am a bit stuck. I don't want to insist she share, but I don't want to tell the other kids,
"you can't play with anything." I've tried asking her what is ok for others to touch. Nothing. She gets very distressed and anxious and curls up in my arms whimpering while the other child looks on confused.
ayias acissej - So, so true. My toddler will sometimes cling onto the thing another toddler's trying to take and I love that.
Question, though. What do you do when the other toddler takes it from yours, upsetting yours and it's not your toddler? Do you take it from that toddler, saying, "My son was playing with it first. You can play with it next?"
Also, what do you do when the toy your child is playing with belongs to the toddler whose house you're visiting and the mother does nothing when the boy takes it from the your child? I had the hard experience of telling me toddler, "Well, it's his toy. He wants to play with it now." Ugh, I was heartbroken. Thanks mamas!
zoñum ailuj - I taught my son the 2 minute rule. Allow the other child to play with the toy for two minutes, and then it will be your turn. Many times the only reason a child may be hogging a toy is because another child wants it. I also taught my then two year-old that kids get bored with toys fairly quickly. Oh, and if two minutes is too long or short, you tell me if you know of a tot who knows how to tell time.
retneprac yrrehs - I'm not saying I was never guilty of this with my children.
But I think this idea to teach children boundaries.
namrevo-girhor alegna - Love this... Kind of mirrors what I was taught and what I teach my kids. The mantra in our house is, when you're done, can I have a turn? It seems to work and gives them the mind set of being thoughtful of others.
srayb eicart - I never make my children 'share' or 'take turns'. If they want to allow someone else to play with their things, that is fine. I don't 'share' my car or 'take turns'. We do and can have personal property and not feel obligated from a very young age to 'share'.
tnarg ydnic - You shouldn't force a child to share...you should teach them to share.
remlap durmit netsrik - Hmm, well we can certainly emphasize sharing at least, I hope. I've never taken something out of my children's hands and told them to give it to another child but explained that someone else is waiting and especially if it's not ours (ie in a park, etc) that it's there for everyone to spend some time with. Really, is this an issue now? We shouldn't expect our kids to share?
nilemah euqnamal irret - Forcing a child to share means the other child will possibly develop a sense of entitlement. Also, a child needs to have a sense of ownership before they will had a toy over WILLINGLY. This forcing a child to share has always felt wrong to me. I think it also develops a lack of respect for the other. If a child chooses to share then they have confidence that the other will respect them and their toy. You know what I mean?
remlap liagiba - The Montessori rule- if someone is holding what you want, then you have to wait until they put int down. You can ask them, but you have to be ok with them saying "no." Otherwise, find something else to do. Improves executive function in children!
samoht htebazile - i prefer our children to have turns each
nieldnarb alyak - Absolutely loved this 👏
mirg aeslehc - You share a bowl of popcorn. You take turns with toys, when the other one is ready. It's learning how to wait and understanding property.
kcirtapkrik ronim ynnep - Yes!!!!!!!!! Great article!!!!
seyer yma - Wise words right here.
- After overcoming such a tragic background, it seems absurd that feeding her baby would be at al (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-28T20:43:07+0000)
Mothering Magazine: After overcoming such a tragic background, it seems absurd that feeding her baby would be at all controversial. But, of course, any time a woman breastfeeds in a public situation, condemnation soon follows. While Donda Pérez has had her share of critComments:
yenoor kcebsiar eiluj - But she exposed a baby to politicians..... Dangerous! ;)
rebrag asil - She is feeding her child! That's what boobs are for!!! People need to lighten up
sille eirelav - I love this woman more and more. She regularly has her daughter with her during parliament sessions, this seems only natural.
tac nerak - Sorry but when at best a U.S. mother gets 12 weeks leave (often some or most unpaid) how do you expect the numbers to be anywhere near the 77% that they state start off nursing? That's ridiculous! I can't have my baby at my hip working with sick patients. And further more I'm one of the lucky ones! I get 12 weeks leave, must use my vacation and sick leave for payment, and I'm able to afford the rest (usually 4-6 weeks) unpaid. The U.S. Policy on this and maternity leave has to change. No one bats an eye at a topless mother in Africa working a field and nursing. Why is it a big deal to do it at a restaurant or store here?!!
retemed elleinad - Good for her! THAT is "balance" and "having it all"
noogam aynos - I'm always in awe when I see a mom with her nursing child at work. I feel like our society finds babies at work so unprofessional.
arahuzim yram enirehtak - i breastfeed when baby is hungry
elyl selrahc - What in God's name is more natural then a mother feeding her child?l
elpmez mik - Breastfeeding a beautiful connection between mother and baby! Glad she has that connection with her baby!
notwal enirehtac - Great to see professional mothers nursing their wee ones. I was lucky enough to have each one of our three babes attending conferences, meetings, travel, etc as deemed necessary with small business. Life doesn't stop with young children and the opportunity to balance parenthood with professional career is brilliant. Wish their were more opportunities for women to do this easily.
nameloc tenaj - With all the teens an 20 somethings (plus anyone famous) who flaunt around with see thru clothing, strings for swim suits, stickers for bra's and the "clothing malfunctions" you see live Tv etc! I think we have more important issues to deal with then a mother feeding her child. If you don't like it then why do people keep taking photos of breastfeeding mothers/babies?
lleb anrol - I am not against breast feeding at all. I would not however want Amy surgeon, dentist, police officer, hairdresser pausing in the middle of a job to breast feed. How can any individual be focused on what they are doing and where they are when they are breast feeding?
renurb nroht eirret - Perfectly normal we lost this with bottle formula along with a lot of other great things taken away from our babies. We also lost part of who we are as women and our special relationship with our babies. SO STAND TALL MOMS AND TAKE IT BACK. BREASTFEED WERE EVER AND WHEN EVER YOU WANT TO!! Sorry what the haters think.Who cares!
atnarf anitsirhc - Yes, it is about time. Natural way to feed baby regardless of others opinions. I am a nursing mother and would not have it any other way! :)
retsamel atlil acinom - A way to connect with herself and her activist mother by nursing the baby in this way.
nosnibor idnas - I am an avid supporter of breastfeeding but I am an avid supporter of showing MODESTY!!!
yar atina - Perfectly normal. It's best for both baby and mother.
siuhgreb yecats - Her job allows her to bring her child to work with her! That's incredible some parents can't afford day care and they understand that we need to work to support our family. She also breastfeed a her daughter which they obviously allow! People need to lighten up!!
namron reyd ydnarb - Because of her I bring my baby to my local town council meetings, where I am a council person. If he needs to nurse, I feed him. All of the men have 0 problems with it.
kezalb anida - I'm more concerned that she seems to be sleeping at work!
ytirod ahcatan - What a fantastic precedent.
- What's the worst thing someone said to you when you were a pregnant/new mom? (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-29T22:13:55+0000)
Mothering Magazine: What's the worst thing someone said to you when you were a pregnant/new mom?Comments:
sdleihs narfyram - My mom told me, "oh you're not going to be able to breastfeed!" Yes, I was.
elah llennoccm acissej - I had my four children out for breakfast when a complete stranger (and he was like, my grandfathers age, so he should have known better) said "wow, what a crew you have there! You know how that happens, right? Ever heard of birth control?"... Ugh! I had some choice words for him since he decided that it was his business to discuss a married woman's sex life!
enitnallab ydnarb - " you look tired, didn't even wait for me to respond she just laughed out loud like she had something more funnier to say in her absent minded head" "are you going to breast feed while the kids in Kindergarden and/ or all the way to college ( insert face of smart ass of a person that gave me that look while asking this stupid question too.) Useless, fat, & I could've pushed the kid out instead of getting a csection. You just don't know how to have a baby right. Your only 6 months, you'll look more pregnant when you actually have a baby. The more I Type here I realize that there are some pretty messed up people in my life. 😡😢😭
namwen elyod nna yram - When going in for a MD appt. toward the end of my first pregnancy, a woman in the waiting room said, "I would think twice about a second pregnancy if you get that big with the first." Little did she know that I love my big belly in pregnancy. The rest of me doesn't gain weight, so it's just this huge belly sticking out. I love the brown line running from my navel to pelvic area, I loved everything about it. Despite being that big, I used cocoa butter and never, ever got stretch marks. I was also huge for two subsequent pregnancies. I loved pregnancy and childbirth. If I could do it all over, I would.
nauj anel - Does your kids have different dad? No my almost 21yrs old and 31/2 years have the same dad, oh really wow , I am like I am Catholic, Hispanic, proudly married to my hubby 21yrs and counting.
relwof nosila - I was 19 when my son was born. I got married in-between dh and dd#1. Went on to have a dd#2, all by the time I was 23. So I heard:
"Are they ALL yours?"
"You don't look old enough to have so many kids."
"Are you the nanny?"
"Where's the father? "
And my favorite, in the elevator, leaving the pediatrician, a mom sets down her baby in his carseat, with his propped bottle. She looks at my 2 toddlers and very pregnant belly. "You must be a glutton for punishment. " (Since when are babies a punishment? )
evod ellehcim - You sure are young to be pregnant. 😬 I was 21 with my first and happily married. Even if I was younger and if I wasn't married it surely wasn't anybody's business. Also when I was pregnant with my third at age 27 everyone asked me if it was my first pregnancy because they thought I was younger than 27. When I told them it was my third pregnancy they looked stunned.
flow nethcelhcs - I had a lady in a bathroom asking me if I was starving my baby, that I looked too skinny to be pregnant. Ironically, I had, the same month, a lady ask me if I was having twins. LOL. I don't pay much attention to peoples word vomit anymore. My GYN asked me if I ate the whole turkey at thanksgiving, all by myself, or did I share. My GYN was overweight herself and I was shocked she mentioned anything. She attended my second childs birth and told me to Shut the F up when I was moaning and pushing. I was at the hospital that time all of 11 minutes from the time I arrived to the time of my daughters birth. I think the doc was mad at me for not getting induced. LOL My 4th delivery, I told my husband the baby was ready to be born and the nurse was so mad that we asked her to come and check me. She refused to check me and kept looking at the monitor and said I wasn't going to have this baby anytime before 3am. A few contractions later, my mom went to get the nurse again and the nurse refused to put down her magazine until the nurse heard me yell from the room. Fine, I don't need a doctor here to have this baby. My husband was a paramedic and my mom a former labor and delivery nurse so it was all good. She came in all disgusted ripped up my sheet saw my son crowning and ran out of the room to get the doctor.
newo gihwoc nairam - For my son's first month or so, he had trouble gaining weight. So when my friends who had kids saw him and exclaimed "oh, he's so tiny!" it was like a knife to my heart. Now I know what they meant -- when you're used to your hulking toddler, a newborn IS tiny -- but it didn't feel that way. I try not to say that to new moms now ... and I sometimes succeed.
nostaw ain j - Worst thing: "I'm going to hope and pray to God every day that you have a miscarriage." -- My Mom. Granted, I was young but still...
magruser hanej - "What race is your baby?" She was white with a medical condition jaundice. Never got over how rude that was.
olletsoc hakeber - People called me oompa loompa, twins, baby factory. My MIL told me repeatedly I was going to kill my babies by having them at home. One woman, upon hearing I had a homebirth, told me I was lucky because I deserved a dead baby. A nurse in the hospital after the birth of my first told me she was terrified I was going to smother my baby trying to nurse her. That breastfeeding my toddler was perverted or disgusting. "Christ, again? Don't you think you have enough already? " don't even get me started on what the one ob I ever hired had to say.
zerimar rehtaeh - Wow there are some callous people in this world. Mine isn't exactly as insulting as some of these but almost every time I go out grocery shopping with my mom and three young children she always gets compliments about my kids or people call her their mom. No one ever thinks they are mine and I'm 25.... She always has to correct them.
yeuh ydnuc yralih - From my then husband "Can you turn around, the bump is a turn off". I was a size 8 and 6 months pregnant. That ended our sex life.
ynehtam ecidnac - I was pregnant with my husband and I first and only child. I kept trying to get him excited about my pregnancy and he finally said to me "I've already had three kids, it's just not a big deal to me."
ogellag-etihw lirpa - Talking about the cord getting wrapped around my baby's neck!!! Also random strangers hugging my belly to talk to my son. I was fine getting touched or patted but your face so close to my lower half? Nope, not for me.
The worst thing ever said postpartum: my sister and I both had babies one month apart from each other. We both visited home when they were a few months old. A woman looked at me and said, don't you wish you could look so good after having three babies? It was my first baby. I've always been pudgier than my sister, I was exhausted, and hormonal. I went home and cried.
oosruus divad - not something said, but my parents went to go see 'Alien' while mom was pregnant with me - she hadn't felt me kick yet. apparently the first time i kicked so that she was distinctly aware of it was during the chest-bursting scene.
so yeah, i scared the ever-loving daylights out of my mother...
nesdam yramesor - With my first pregnancy circa 1996, in line at a grocery store, from a 70+ yr old woman, who told me, "I would never bring a child into this world with all the problems we have now..."
I. Was. Horrified.
errol ho - I can't believe youwould get pregnant at your age. (44) you know some thoughts we have we can keep in her head
allidap noslen ykceb - During the worst of my postpartum depression, my mother, a depression person herself at the time, told me to pull myself out of it. Unbelievable.
remtihw enelehtak nyleve - UGH 12. I was not even that tiny, and yet I got that comment literally every day. Someone even said to me, "you're too tiny, I think your baby is dead!" Yes thank you for the HORRIFYING comment about my baby's size. You can go to Hell now.
- Have you seen Inside Out? What did you think? What about your kids? (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-14T19:11:16+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Have you seen Inside Out? What did you think? What about your kids?Comments:
tserofed anala - My husband and I saw it (without our 3 year old son) I enjoyed its emotional roller coaster but thought as I walked out of the theater it would be hard for most kids (under like 10?) to really understand what the movie was talking about.
ynehcat yebba eitak - It was perfect for my eldest, who is a highly sensitive, just-turned-seven year old. He sees a counselor, as one of his little brothers has terminal brain cancer, and in their session the previous day, they had discussed feeling more than one emotion at a time. The movie was a perfect follow up.
noclaf ydnarb - My 5 yr old son and I loved it! He's very in touch with his emotions and seemed to understand. I thought it was hilarious (and I cried a bit too).
nuhsaf acissej - We have a five yr old girl and just moved. While some of it had to be discussed, she loved it.
Here's my post from today:
We just saw Inside Out with Elie! This is a movie everyone should see, adults and children.
I asked Elie what Joy learned from Sadness... "That its okay to be sad".
In light of the fact that we just moved, which I'm pretty sure was hardest on me, it was a great reminder that I don't have to pretend to be happy, ever. That its okay to be happy and sad a the same time, that anger and fear will creep up on us in new situations. Telling someone to 'buck up' and 'be positive' might be helpful, but it also might be helpful just to listen to the person who's having a hard time. So many great lessons. See it. For you, and for your kids sake, we seem to have an unnatural desire for others to be happy all the time.
Listen to each other, care for each other-especially in times of great need and transition, and love your peeps even when they're not always happy. No one is happy all the time, after all.
rrap eilatan - It is soooooo a mom and kid movie. What a great mix. At the end I cried so hard because my little girl is growing up way too fast for me. She loves the characters. She laughed and at 2 years old appropriately pointed out who was being "silly." And laughed. She may not grow up on Disneys princess movies but if they keep making movies like Inside Out she will be a Disney kid.
sesom nosam htebazile - My son is 8 and we've been talking about emotions for years, so this really put into pictures what he already knew. He knows his Anger dude has a bit too much say over the control board. I loved the message about sadness. So important!
ikcicir wollefakcor ahtibat - We were at dinner one night shortly after seeing the movie listening to a family friend tell a childhood story. My son leaned over and said "core memory" quietly. It was cute.
notlad deer hteb - My husband and I took our 9 yr old to see the movie this weekend, we have also just moved to another state and she has been dealing with missing her friends and the adjustment of a move where everything is *new*.
--- I think some of the movie may have been over her head--- it can def make talking about her feelings easier in the future. I really like that they validated all emotions and showed that it is ok to be sad, upset, angry, joyful, etc--- we will buy this on DVD when it comes out.
hcivakrov refinnej - I felt like it was a movie aimed at parents with a few jokes thrown in for the kids. I loved it.
yolscm esor yrucrem - We loved it! We use it as a tool for talking about emotions when they arise in our little one. Makes tantrums much easier to work through! (He is 2.5)
elknih ruon einnoc - I think it's perfect for tweens. We saw it with 14yo DD and she said it was like they made a movie about her.
nosdivad adnil - I enjoyed it, I think more than Luna did. Some things a little over her head, but she seemed to like it.
dlefsginok ardnos - I think it was a great movie.. My 10 yr old LOVED it! We are a very communicate household and it was wonderful to see emotions addressed in a healthy way.. I don't think it was intended for very young children (I personally think a parent should of been able to see from the preview content that it was not geared to ages younger than 4/5 - you can't expect your young kids to "get" everything just because they are rated G) .. Love to see more movies that are not violent and have a good measage👍
ocouf eilatan - Haven't seen it yet BUT I am hoping it is a message to adults as much as the kids. I hope it encourages adults to recognize their own emotions and their children's and better navigate interactions and relationships with conscious parenting choices.
dlog nostrah eériséd - Although some of the themes are pretty adult, it has given us some additional tools for talking with our three-year-old about her strong emotions.
yrb essej - Took my 3 and 6 year olds. A lot of it was over their heads and honestly, I feel like it was a little soon to introduce ideas like being embarrassed by your parents, worrying about the cool kids and stealing from your mother's purse? Clever and entertaining for grow ups, but "Anger" and "Diagust" use lots of words that we didn't care for (stupid, idiot, moron... You know, all of the words that Pixar insists on using in every movie). I think my husband and I are both really emotional people and talking about emotions and their complexities has always been an important aspect of output family dynamic, so while cute I don't think it will have a broad effect for us.
arutnev ennayram - My granddaughter liked the characters but wasn't as focused as on Home. She loves J Lo and Rihanna songs from Home.
aicrag akinorev - my friend and I took out 8, 7 and 6 yr olds to see it and we ALL loved it! Additionally, it has also helped each of us make light of "scary" emotions. Coincidentally, my friend is also moving so it really helped her son discuss his emotions about it. My son gets angry a lot and this has helped him diffuse, we joke about anger shooting fire out of his head and it makes him laugh. Also, I say sadness is at the controller etc. and it helps my kids understand when I am having a not so stellar day.
niprut yelgde ayna ahsatsan - My husband and I saw it together (left 2 year old home with grandparents) and we LOVED it!
llewop r adnarim - 5yo and 3yo loved it! We use it for so many references now! The islands? Awesome!! We had a spontaneous stop at the lake this weekend that turned into a three hour swim, 5 yo said, man, this sure is one for family island!! I feel they nailed it. We don't go to the movies often, and all had really been looking forward to it.
sirrah acceber - Our 3.5 year old was a bit scared and often sad during the movie, I took her out. The 6 year old thought is was okay. Hubby and I thought it was much more appropriate for older kids.
- I have five children, and five children is a lot in these modern times. Five children means a l (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-17T15:12:01+0000)
Mothering Magazine: I have five children, and five children is a lot in these modern times. Five children means a larger car, a hard and expensive time booking holiday accommodation and mountains of washing and food. It means four school lunches to pack each morning and busy nights driving children to soccer and ballet…Comments:
otanod refinnej - Ya just *had* to post a pic of baby toes to drive the point home! Have you no heart? :P
eener ycats - I have 3 (3, 5 and 7) and can 100% relate to this article. Do I want another baby bc my body is so used to the constant giving and fullness that comes from caring for a baby? Is having another baby fair to my children? To my husband? To me??
The question I ask most is "could I be the mother I want to be if I had another child. I like to think I would be but I'm not so sure. That might be the most difficult reality to face- the fact that I'm not a mother with never ending patience, grace or love.
For now, I am mom enough. With another baby I don't think I could be.
yeffoc saah teragram - We had 4 and still felt someone was missing. Had our 5th and felt complete!
reigna htak - Ask yourself this question: Would I adopt a baby as my next child?
relgeiz reuab yelhsa - You will never hear someone say they wished they had not had all the children they did-possibly they would space them differently, but I'v heard several people say their biggest regret was not having more when they had the opportunity to, it is a whole lot of work though :-)
sdoow nej - Wow! You could have written the story of my life! Except for the husband not being keen on another one. My husband is ALWAYS game for more! ;-) I too have 5 children, ages 2-13. I started having kids at the age of 24. After they wean around 18mos-2yrs old I am ACHING for another! Great article...
ekard eissej - Margaret Haas Coffey we had two boys but someone was missing. Had our daughter and we're complete.
onalliv elehcim - I became a birth/postpartum doula ;-)
senrab enna aicirtap - Between my husband and I, we have three boys. 15, 13, and 4. I so badly want to try for a girl, but wouldn't be disappointed if we had another boy. But my husband doesn't want any more. My heart wants another...
yaj tan - I have a 3 yo daughter from a previous relationship & we have full time custody of my husband's 8 yo son. I would love to have a couple more with my husband but sadly I am unable. It hurts like hell, but I realise I am lucky to have what I have, so many spend years trying and have no children.
dneirgrednav eiluj - I have a 4, 2 and 1 year old and can completely relate. Some one is missing in our house! I'm just trying to give my body a bit more time before we have another.
noslrac ylime - I only have one and go through this on a constant basis. We both don't make much money, and our home is so very very small. And my body is still not recovered from our 3 year old... But still... I was an only child and it was awful... (My partner says no, which doesn't help ; ))
nosnhoj etak yhtac - I have a 10 year old and am hurting for another one
tdrahnier reuab lorac - I have written 20 different comments. Had to erase them worried I would hurt your feelings. Ash, be happy and enjoy what you have. Don't wish ahead. You have made it thru some very sick days. If you think about getting a fifth, you are putting your needs before the family you already have. Besides more stress on Aaron. Youll never have alone time or enjoy each other. Just hug and love the wonderful babies you already have. I'm sure your sisters your sister in law will let you get baby fixes. They have been there for you,. I only had Tommy and Dean and the dr wanted me to abort Dean saying he was going to have spineabifiada at 5 months. If you look at him, theres not the things they told me. But I knew two was what I could have and handle. I worked outside home for 10 years of their life. But I wouldnt change that. I worked to provide for them. To have as better life. But when I got sick, I made them my 100 percent. I have a great relationship with them but if here were more of them it wouldnt be the same. So enjoy your family. Your health comes first!!!!!!!
dnalon-nosac ralip - So very sad that people would judge her for a large family. I wish I had started younger and had at least 4.
I have 2 and i miscarried 1, so my heart and my family yearn for another baby.
erah'o nimajneb eimaj - After 4, it has passed :)
ekard eissej - GRANDBABIES THE ANSWER. It worked for so good for me trying twins in Jan!!
tterrag ydnew - We are expecting #7 and I hope this isn't our last.
lessac lehcar - I'm just waiting to get to the place of knowing. That feeling in your gut that tells you it's time for another or it's time to stop.
nesredna rehtaeh - Nope. One high needs baby is enough for me.
eroom llennoc'o ylime - Children are a blessing from the Lord....They are a gift from Him. ❤️❤️❤️
- Dear Male Lifeguard,
I understand that you were the one who initially reported the mom who was (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-21T20:42:53+0000)
Mothering Magazine: Dear Male Lifeguard, I understand that you were the one who initially reported the mom who was feeding her baby. I have some questions for you, but first I want to help you see why a woman might feed her child without covering.Comments:
sgninnej ylime - Breastmilk in a pool! I'd hate for that to interfere with the sweat, urine, vaginal secretions, fecal matter, snot, saliva and dirty band aids we're swimming in.
semreh m enitsirhc - 5 years ago a lifeguard threw a towel over my babies head in 85+ degree heat because I was breastfeeding her. I was outside of the pool and off in a little corner. When I refused to use the towel, the other pool patrons chastised me for breastfeeding in public. I was irate! My babies head covered my breast, yet almost all the other women had skimpy bikinis on. This was my one and only public shaming for nursing in public. Luckily I had a strong backbone and I advocated for my rights. It's sad that women are being shamed for using their breasts in the way nature intended them to be used.
egdod nosretep ylloh - I overheard one woman talking to her husband about how it's disgusting that I was breastfeeding in public (covered up mind you. All you could see was his feet. ) It was our first time out to a restaurant since I had my child. Sometimes a girl feels like eating her meal w/out it going cold. Mind you, she had three little boys. Bet she never breastfed her children and had a complex. Meanwhile, an old woman stopped by and commended me on her way out of the restaurant. You win some, you lose some.
isrucil yvi - Even before I read the article I called my teenage son who's a lifeguard and asked him what would he do in the same situation and he responded "nothing, you do it all the time. There's nothing with that" 😍While I was extremely proud at his response, I also realized that maybe if more people were exposed to breastfeeding (yes including teenage boys) they wouldn't make a big deal of it. After all a boob is just another body part.
llah etat ynaffit - Just curious, was she feeding in the water or out? Most pools have a very strict no food/drink/bodily fluid IN THE POOL policy and I recently saw a mom at our pool get very upset when she was asked to get out of the pool to feed her child. I was a bit baffled by her anger since she was in violation of the rules. She was never told to leave the property or cover up, just to follow the rules that are in place for hygene purposes. Before I get yelled at for not supporting bfing moms, I nurse un-covered and support that right. I'm just trying to find out the rest of the story. If she was not in the pool or violating any rules, I'll join you in indignation.
dradeb eirrehs - Gosh I'm so sick of hearing about this shit! it's a fucking boob, get over it! Women complaining about other women breastfeading is downright disgusting....Your a woman, and yes you should have empathy and compassion for mothers feeding their children even if your a man, have some respect cause chances are your mother breast fed you too,. What are you jealous their husbands are going to want them because their boob is out? ya so sexy, feeding a child and trying to seduce your man.....shut the hell up! so sick of ppl like that and wish they would go away from society
sniksah amron - I remember asking a guy if he wanted a drink while he was staring at me feeding my daughter!
kedad srednalf nej - Some Nimrod lifeguard did that to me 5 years ago. I read him the riot act and told him to basically go jump in the pool because I was going to feed my child wherever the heck I was. And that I really didn't give a damn about how he felt about it. And nor did I really care about what anybody else felt about it.And then proceeded to continue to breastfeed without covering up.
As we were leaving the pool a couple of hours later with all for children in tow, he comes up and start apologizing profusely. I graciously accepted his apology and told him not to do it again.
I related this to my husband and his comment was that the lifeguard probably went to his supervisor and found out he broke the law. And was hoping to avoid a lawsuit.
I only wish I had remembered about the law when I was talking to him.
namtluh assyla - You go girl! Breastfeeding is the most natural thing you can do for your child. Boobs were created for feeding babies, nothing more! I nursed my kids EVERYWHERE & never had anyone say anything.... But I sure would have loved for them to try... I'm Not nice to those who attack my babies & the "momma bear" comes out!
lleweh emmum - i never ever showed my baby suckling to the public , it is sensual & private . I found the shade of a tree or even the ladies wait room .. i saw that it was just getting the wrong kind of attention by men & followed & sized up by groups of ladies So I choose no need to be part of the publicity .. btw i once on a hot day at a busy road bus stop still found a way to feed my bundle of joy & not make it noticeable Nor did i ever cover my babies head.
bmalcm nellum alegna - I breatfeed my kids and I have 5 but why do it in a pool? I'm more concerned about the kid here. Outside the pool who cares...just try to be discreet but if it's blazing hot...geez...you shouldn't need to cover up a child's head to make him overheat. And I'm with Christine M Hermes...its natural...dogs nurse their pups, cows nurse their calves...why is this such a big deal. Especially when you have women/young girls dressing like hoochie mama's everywhere but feeding a child is not public nudity....look around peeps. Glad you stood up for your right to feed your child! Whoop whoop!
Be blessed. ..
niwdoog eener anat - Had a lifeguard ask me to stop breastfeeding at the pool once while my daughter was in swim lessons (not the one I was feeding!) . So irritating. People scantily clad in bathing suits all day, but my child covering the breast he was nursing from is offensive. Uh huh
etniopal assenav - Why is breast feeding shamed upon so much when strip clubs, porn and sex toys are not even looked twice at anymore. It's looked at at
As expressing your sexuality! Well the way I see a nursing mother is she is feeding and nourishing her child ...HMMM something is wrong here
tnert ffej - Ok, speaking as a dude here (and a father): At the pool, beach, water park, etc there can be seen at most times speedos so tight you can see what religion the guy is, two piece bikinis that amount to two pasties, floss, and a cork, and other forms of marginal clothing. That seems to be cool. But all of a sudden there is a mom feeding a kid and everyone goes fucko bazoo? There is absolutely nothing improper and/or lurid about the most natural act on the planet other than breathing. Grow up!
aia aiua - I breastfed my first son and planning to do it for the one coming soon; and I will do it in public if I want to. Some woman walk almost naked in the streets or eat at restaurants to the point of almost showing their vagina and no one tells them anything. For God sake people!!! Let mothers feed their kids comfortable. Don't be so damn ignorants.
eorgen irbbaf anad - Btw, I breastfed both my sons for 18 months each and in all kinds of public places from restaurants to the SM Pier never "covered up" once, and not one person told me a thing! I must look mean...👿
zepol ail - We are all unique in our parenting opinions and styles. Personally, lightly covering up when I am feeding in public is going to be my preference, as I am a person who likes to draw as little attention to myself as possible. Ultimately, breastfeeding is an intimate and personal experience which has proven to yield the utmost benefits to the child. How a mother chooses to engage in this sacred activity should be entirely up to her.
oel kcir - I guess this is a woman thing, I think it's a beautiful thing to be able to feed your child. This crap only exists in the US, love your bodies ladies and take care of your children as you see fit.
efiwdim noxid-farg traeh - Yes by all means, feeding your baby should be reported...what is wrong with people??
slayr drahcir - What the hell? She is feeding her child. If they were in McDonalds and the kid wanted a cheeseburger and she gave it 1 would you bitch? Geeze people, Mother's are just caring for their child, If you don't like it LOOK AWAY.
selarom arual - Crazy. I was at white water a week ago breastfeeding my daughter in the pool and nobody said a thing!
- While I strongly believe that children should not be rushed to reach milestones, I do think tha (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-22T15:18:01+0000)
Mothering Magazine: While I strongly believe that children should not be rushed to reach milestones, I do think that they can be gently encouraged to use a potty well before the national U.S. average of 30 monthsComments:
reuabgul hcirlu harobed - First child I obsessed about training. Did the stay at home thing, fancy potties, and made the child crazy. Second child, I took my son to the store and had him pick out any pair of shoes he wanted. I took him home put on the shoes and took away his diapers. Told him he would mess up his new shoes if he didn't go to the potty. Worked like a charm. Lesson I learned raising kids is that the child has to want to make the trip to the bathroom. Doesn't matter what mom wants, the kid has to want to stay clean for the training to work.
nworb rehtse - I hate " potty training", I hate baby potties. Not doing it. What I have learned having three children, is that they will learn how to potty whether you " train" them or not.
adid alil - Why would you potty-train a one-year-old? It's rough with my potty-trained 3-year-old. If he has to go, we have to do it right away. He was potty-trained at 2 1/2 in two days, no problem. If it had been that easy when he was one, I wouldn't have done it. Diapers are far easier than a potty-trained toddler...
kahcap einnej - As an example its so much easier to "train a young puppy than a year and a half old dog". As soon as my kids were crawling around the house, at about 6 or 7 months, we put a simple white potty in the bathroom, one that looked like a toilet. We usually left the door open when parents then older sibs used bathroom. Never brough them there to sit any length of time. All 3 kids out of diapers at about 18 months with just example and modeling behaviors. My oldest son also got a boost at 16 months when he was present at the home birth of his first cousin. He saw a newborn in a diaper and totally related he was a "big kid" and not a" baby".
hanayyad - Sigh. There is so much good advice in this article. Please don't slam it because you chose to go diaper-free a little later. We introduced a tiny little potty when my oldest daughter was 7 months old. It was gradual and gentle and she was completely done with diapers day and night by 20 months. Average potty training age in the U.S. in the 1940s was 18 months. Today, it's about 39 months for boys and 35 for girls. Yet around the world, babies are still diaper-free by about a year and a half. The availability, cost, and convenience of disposable diapers encourages people to wait longer and longer. On top of that, diaper companies (whose sole purpose, let's not forget, is to sell more diapers) advertise pull-ups as if they're some kind of training tool, when in reality they are just another bigger diaper.
Other than the environmental impact if you're using disposables, I don't think there's anything "wrong" with waiting longer. But just accept that it is a choice that everyone makes for their own child. I just had zero interest in tackling potty training during the terrible twos with a daughter who's pretty strong willed to begin with. My way worked for me, and I'm tired of being told that something we did successfully and without incident was done "too early".
yekcul assilem - My oldest son didn't train til almost 3 and a half when he asked to stop wearing diapers -- he was fully trained (day & nighttime) in a week. Trying to force kids earlier is only more stress on parents!
otuparraig alemap - all of my kids potty learned early because I wasn't lazy, I was consistent and it was also a natural thing. I'm talking my 5-6 month olds were peeing in the potty. My 8 month old does several times a day and consistently has dry diapers because she goes in the potty. Starts off with the first thing in the morning, I gotta pee, so I stick them on too. it gradually increases. Baby's gotta stay with mum so might as well make use of it. talk and explain to them. Show them. My fifth child (8months old) knows the sign for pee, will pee, when she's done will sign all done, she knows I have to wipe her and she immediately goes to pick the pot off her potty to help me dump it, I guide her obviously. She turns to the toilet and knows to walk over and dump it. Then stands and waits for me to flush it and she waves bye to the pee or poop lol. It's doable if you just let it be natural instead of just changing diaper after diaper without consideration otherwise
ecurb nworb ydolem - I totally disagree with this article. Pushing a child before they are ready is a senseless practice. Urologists advice against super early potty training because it teaches children who don't have proper reasoning skills to hold their pee for long periods of time, thus causing infections. Just another example of trying to make babies/children grow up too fast. Follow your child's cues. When they are ready to use the toilet, they'll let you know. Toddlers learn best from imitating their parents/caregivers. Also not everyone has hardwood floors that allow for naked babies to run around peeing at will. Not everyone, not even stay at home moms, can be at for 3 days at a time.
ydennek nagaet asil - If you can stay at home, keep your kiddo naked, and have success great. My daughter was in no way ready at age 1. I HAD a potty and she was used to it. However she never showed signs that she had to go. Furthermore, she was speech delayed, had some developmental delays, and in no way could have managed to pull down stretchy pants on her own. I waited till she showed signs of readiness! We had a stress free potty training period at age 3 with no issues. I've worked (as a pre school teacher) with children who were rushed. Kids who went into hysterics any time they had an accident and begged the teachers not to tell Mom & Dad. For me, I was not willing to put my baby under any stress until SHE was ready.
esor ylime - Kids don't need potty training. They are successful when they decide they want to be diaper free.Methods to try to train them before they are ready only leads to failure on their part, frustration of the parent, and I think it's harmful to their self esteem.
Just give them the option and support them when they make the choice.
dlog anin - I never 'trained' my kid, she started using the toilet around het second birthday ( she learned by imitating us on her own time ) : I would never do it any other way!
smailliw elleinad - Every child is different. Mine are 11 months apart. So I got to putty train both at the same time. Two gumballs was all out took to get my daughter fully potty trained. My son it took hard work, alot of help and I still wipe his butt after going poo, he's 6. Every child is different. Each child gets it done in there own time. They all have individual issues, and are there own people. My daughter poops like a teen boy she's 7. My son has a reduced sphincter problem and has trouble because of this. Learn your child, learn what makes them tick and why and use those things to help you acheive this. They well not be 18 year olds in pampers or pull ups. We developed a monitary system for poo and sizes for my son because it hurts when he goes and waiting causes him accidents because he's afraid it will hurt. He gets a certain dollar amount based on size to help him bypass the pain and see a goal to achieve to help get out more poop. My suggestion is simple, learn your child, what drives then, and use that to help them.
ávoclabuk anela - I know mothers who proudly trained their children around 1 yo. Later children had trouble to use public toilette or to hold it during the nap in kindergarden. I´d rather be 100% sure my child knows her need to pee or poop and do it freely without any help.
namdrah eima - Potty training was what finally convinced me my daughter would always be an only child!
snomelp gnilgreb anad - Speaking from experience, don't train under three years old- main culprit for 80% of 4 year olds to 16 year olds having pee & poo issues & constipation. Read the book "It's No Accident" by Steve Hodges MD, Pediatric Urologist.
sonideref jn epoh - My last two babies have trained ME! They protested pooping in their diapers. Lots of grunting and distressed sounds. Very easy to predict their movements. So I just set them on the potty and let them go in there. I never make them "hold it." My youngest son at six months was letting me know he had to go. I dp not rush them out of diapers. Nevertheless, my daughter trained herself by 20 months, and my youngest is poop-learned and often dry all day at 23 months. Just listen to their cues (preferably from birth, but anytime after also!)
ilopip eirelav - As a parent of 2 EC graduates I find it so frustrating to read that children can't learn where to eliminate and to alert the caregivers of their needs from very early on. What do you think cultures do that don't gave diapers ? Do you think the early people of this world changed diapers ? It is unfair to claim you are not pushing your child bc you waited until your baby was practically school age b/c of some claim that you think it is pushy and causes stress and is bothersome to your schedule. Those of us who use (d) EC know otherwise. So please stop making it out to be some parental contest. It is not. We choose (or chose) this route for reasons other then competition.
sggib yrelle - I took the same approach. Kept the potty in the living room and it was just part of our day. By 18 months both my children were diaper free during the day and at nap time. By two my daughter informed me she didn't need diapers at night and that was it. My son will be two in September and wakes up dry a couple times a a week. Starting early before they become opinionated toddlers was my goal. :)
llennod'o yram - 1 year olds do not need to be potty trained. Give them time to be a baby while they are still a baby. Save it for when they are 2 1/2 to 3. I have 3 kids. The key is to let them be done with diapers when THEY are ready not the adults. It worked for each of my kids.
oizaf eitak - meanwhile my son will be 3 next month and has no interest in potty training whatsoever... -_-
mossolb yellehs - I thought I read somewhere it was better to wait until they were older and ready, that training too early could cause water infections. I haven't gone into the competitive parenting thing and don't see earlier is better. Each child develops at their own rate, surely.
- After several incidences of mothers being asked to move or cover while breastfeeding, Target ha (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-23T00:59:02+0000)
Mothering Magazine: After several incidences of mothers being asked to move or cover while breastfeeding, Target has implemented a new breastfeeding policy.Comments:
ressesle yram - "If you see a guest breastfeeding, do not approach her." I get it -- but it makes us sound like wild animals! "Do not make any sudden moves. Slowly back away."
notnroht adnarym - Excellent! I have used the benches outside the fitting room to nurse on many times in target, and always found the employees very friendly, many times the attendant would even sit and chat for a few minutes!
oyay ynnon - I'm confused about why this is surprising. 49 states have laws protecting breastfeeding mothers.
miehdats noslen eitak - Excellent! Now how about places to pump? It's nearly impossible to find an outlet in a private area that's not in a bathroom.
leicam enasus - I nursed my baby walking through Target with Ergo. Excellent!
arahuzim yram enirehtak - I am breastfeeding AND my baby does not feed with her head covered up
elocin rehtaeh - Isn't target closed down? Btw there's no policy on feeding my child, except DO IT!
yornoc einalem - I nursed at Target many times, always with mini in the Ergo though :-D
htims rehtaeh - Awesome! I used to breastfeed in the furniture department at Fred Meyer on the couches
hguabhcnilf acinom - This is not a great thing. There aren't even comfortable places to sit inside target to breastfeed. The dressing rooms have those tiny plastic stools. If I am NOT comfortable, my daughter is not comfortable, and then she will not eat. I go to the furniture section where the nursery stuff is and I climb up on the platform and I sit on that rocking chair and I nurse my baby.
éruot llij - I've nursed in their expensive gliders for sale.
dnaro dlanodcm ecirtap - It is progress, but women in the US show off their goods so readily, it surprises me that after years and years of briinging back breast feeding, any arrangement is necessary at all. I'd much rather notice a loving nursing mom and infant than tatooed or over exposed boobies.
eednil acissej - Saying they can nurse in a fitting room is not comfortable. They should create a comfortable place to feed (toys r us in our area had an actual room with a couch, rocking chair and changing station). Even bottled babies/parents need to sit down some where. I nursed in the fitting room once and all he did was cry. Had to leave target with all of my UNPAID merchandise to get home to somewhere comfy.
trah ailema - Hooray target! I nursed my sweet babe many a time walking through target lol and was never bothered :)
sekrom aram - Now we need this as a national policy. Let the poor babies eat!
regilliwret eitak - I used to work at Target about 8 years ago. We always offered the fitting room to breastfeeding mothers. Glad to know the awesomeness has made it across the company.
ikslatrop ylime - This makes me so happy! Every single public place on the planet should have the same policy! I love the part about NOT offering the bathroom as an option.
selarom nnayr - It's a good policy but we shouldn't have to congratulate companies for doing what is a) legally required and b) basic human rights.
ollitsac ellimac - More reasons to love Target:):)
yevrah retsuhs nahgem - My oldest is 12 and this was the policy at our local target back when he was an infant... Still a loyal target customer today. 😊
nalla norahs - Fabulous move by Target, yet so sad that our culture has actually reached a point that we need to educate about this most basic natural human function.
- This has to be one of the coolest breastfeeding products we've seen! It captures breast milk fr (Type: link | Published: 2015-07-23T23:22:59+0000)
Mothering Magazine: This has to be one of the coolest breastfeeding products we've seen! It captures breast milk from your non nursing breast while you feed your baby. Read more about it and enter to win this and other Milkies breastfeeding gear at the link below.Comments:
hannah eam ytirahc - Shared with me friends. Go breastfeeding moms!
olgnuhc hcnarb lehcar - I loved my Milkie. I was so engorged at the beginning of nursing and this seriously helped. I caught 6-8oz a day!
etagelppa ffej n elocin - Like and shared, would love to win these products definitely would be helpful so I don't waste a drop while pumping or nursing
relaep ayam - Have it. Works well when super engorged and milk flows from opposite side while nursing.
elttut yrollam - Shared! As a new mom I've been looking a lot into milkies :-) there is a learning curve but boy do I love being able to nurse my baby.
arat aonehs - I wish I knew about this when I was breastfeeding my newborns!! Very cool.
aicrag emro refinnej - I caught so much milk with one of these that I didn't have to pump before I went back to work! It was a lifesaver!
tuohkeob adnama - This is my favorite product ever. Sooooo much milk saved instead of sopping up a breast pad. ❤️
oisacin yllas - Shared! This would be so awesome to win. I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby due 3/2016 ☺️
gnilbad eitak - I would love to try these! Money is tight and I haven't yet bought any breastfeeding supplies!
xuor nyrrat - Does the milk being warm against your body not make it go off by the end of the day? I was so paranoid about getting that milk in the fridge asap.
llab annahs - I never thought this would be a very useful product because with my first child my supply was always so low. This time around things are going much better and I could really use Milkies! Especially for those night time feelings when I'm really full because he sleeps much longer!
airetner acissej - Would be awesome! Going on 15 months in my breastfeeding journey and about to start all over again with number 2.
sirap yffud ennazus - I wish I had these with my other children. I'm currently nursing my seventh child and they don't take bottles but I donate every ounce I can. This would help collect even more milk. I would love to try them!!
ydennek nerak - Does it collect the fat-rich hindmilk or just the foremilk? I am not sure I drip through the whole feeding and whether my drip milk would be complete. Can someome tell me how this works?
yarg murd ynaffit - This was one of my most favorite things while nursing!
draneg assilem - I love mine and wish I had it before my son had been born. I get about 4 oz a day and it makes me sad that I was losing all of that milk to my nursing pads.
noswal ytisahc - Great idea! Unfortunately didn't let down that much milk, or this would have been awesome!
noko adnil - My sweet baby is due in a week, and I'd love to use this product!
nella einna - I could have used this when I was nursing! Both while nursing and under my uniform at work. I lost so much liquid gold from leakage!
yreggip ynobe - Word to the wise: Don't forget to remove it before reaching or bending over for something. Oops!