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Praying for this young lady. Any advice for her?
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[cyrene renee gerard] - You pray. Every time you think of it PRAY. And nothing shallow. Honest prayers. Talk to God He is your best friend. Tell Him how you feel even if it is anger, betrayal, hurt, broken heart. Pray for forgiveness for yourself and your exhusband. Pray for your children. Trust me I know I have been there and going through it now. God is the only one that cam heal your broken heart and you are the only one that can allow God to do it. Healing is a choice just like forgiveness. Don't let bitterness seep in. It is like a cancer and it will take longer to heal. This is a grieving time. You will cry, laugh, scream its important and if you feel you need to seek counseling. You need to be strong for not only you but your children. He has moved on with his life. It's time for you to take the steps to move in with yours in a healthy way. Don't pray for karma but pray for Grace. You will need it too. God bless.
[shelly c. smith] - Only time will heal a wound. and that is what it feels like to be left behind by someone who quickly moves on. But what I have learned in life is that if they can leave because the grass looks greener but it never it is. He will soon find out she is human too and has flaws just like any woman does. After being left behind at 21, I drank, I smoked, I partied and it all brought me nothing. Now that I am older I wish I would have just turned to God, to heal me, to comfort me, to calm my fears of the future and most of all just get lost in Him, so that when God felt I was ready, He would bring me the man who would be the absolute best for me. He will do all those things. Give it time and also, Give it to God. Bless you
[stephanie johnson yancey] - I went through something very similar! It's hard to think that better days will come but I promise you they will! Try to remember that when God closes one door it's always to move you on to something better! Trust him! I am now remarried to a good man and I hold no resentment toward him because I now know what a good marriage is. If I would have stayed in that marriage I would have never found my wonderful husband and never would have felt the peace that a good marriage brings! I will be praying for you and your family!
[virtuous lawanda d] - Divorce is very hard. Mainly because there is no death, the person whom you Loved and trusted, betrayed you. I have been divorced for 10 yrs this July. Unfortunately, Christmas was awful. My ex husband and I used to have family breakfast for our children and grandchildren. I live alone now and was making breakfast on Christmas morn and found myself crying uncontrollably due to my loneliness and was totally Angry with him. He has since remarried . Everyday is hard, you have to commit yourself to God and allow God yo be your husband. It will get better with time. I think until God Blesses me with another husband I will always miss my ex. I keep my life filled with God. I spend a lot of time with my Church Family, my children and grandchildren. I also spend time with my siblings and nieces and nephews. Someone in the family is always very appreciative of my Love. I travel a lot with my sister's and friends that I grew up with. Staying prayerful and filling my life with ppl who love me is what gets me through. You can do it. I'll pray for you all and you all pray for me.
[cindy gunn calvo] - Apparently he was moving on before he asked for a divorce.
Accept it. Accept that you won't be with him. And put your trust in God. Not easy. But I finally turned to God and told Him "I can't deal with it. Please take it and then let me have a little at a time so I can deal with it a little at a time."
He never gave it back to me. He took it all and I was able to move forward and live life more fully.
I've now been married to my current spouse for almost 27 years. We are happy - have had ups and downs, naturally, but we are happy and always moving forward. Kids are out of the house on their own (well, one still at home and the other comes and goes) but our faith never waivers.
Let go. Let God. Trust in Him because He never fails. But do it with faith that He will help. Because He will.
[latoya lovingwhoimwith pruitt] - take a look around and see what blessings God has given you <3 You gained children in which some ladies long for, you've gained independence and most of all you don't have to settle for fake love bc thru the hurt God is making you stronger for a bigger blessing he has in store.
[andrea bell] - Ask God to put forgiveness in your heart I went through a huge disappointment yr ago I was able to forgive and move on
[kay elaster] - Pray, cry, heal, live.
[felicia flemming-brown] - Please don't take any offense because it all out of love. Stop comparing yourself to your ex especially regarding where he is and where you are at. He moved on and out long before your divorce. You may not recognize it right now but you have been prepared for this journey and as long as seek God's guidance and some healthy counsel you will be better than you imagined. My prayers to you and your family. God Bless!!!
[diana vega] - Confessing everyday that the Holy Spirit invaid ur memories and emotions...then thanking God for healing ur broken heart...
[deb buckley] - It's been ten years and I'm still stuck. I can't afford therapy . Pray for me
[vennis hopson] - You are in my prayers, that's a hard thing to deal with, I pray God gives you peace, and happiness again. One thing we can never do is make a person know our worth and care.
[cuellar toni] - It takes time...prayer!!!
[robin crotty mcloud] - Give it all to God, forgive, and get on with your life. Get active in church and even volunteer if you can... Giving your time to others is so rewarding!
[deedee nerios] - I still love him but I have to accept that he is gone... and with someone else... the trust was broken where I placed the deepest trust and took me alot to trust again... but I still trusted... then the trust went out the door with him when he walked away... the memories are still there << the good times we laughed until we cried... the times when we hugged and I actually felt "loved" <<< but did he really and truely love me and the kids? I would like to say he did and he regrets what he choose to do... << I remember his heart.... the compassion I once knew... it's been several years since we broke apart.. I found a love letter he wrote telling me I was the stronger one in my heart and he knew I could get through the times we were apart. I tell myself "remember those words" and do not forget.. gotta keep going no matter how bad it gets.... God is always here and I need not fear... the days will come upon me where I shall stand alone but I wont really be alone God is always in my home. Divorce is so difficult it is not something to recommend.... tooo much pain, and nothing to gain ... but there is something I have learned in this walk with God >> that marriage is to be valued and not taken for granted and love has a deeper meaning. He is with another and sin tore us apart... it was not something that was in either of our hearts. So do I forgive him? Yes "I do". Pictures of him break my heart. But I'm off to a fresh new start.. I must walk again and trust in God. He would not leave me nor ever forsake me ..... alone I am not .. I have God
[lori ann fulford] - Psycologists will tell you it takes 2 months for every year you were married for you to heal, some may take longer. I was married for 17 years. I was left holding everything, all the bills, with no job. It has now been almost 5 years. I would say its been in the last 2 years that I really started healing and forgiving. I am a strong believer in God. I prayed alot. I would give it all to him but then take it back. I myself slowed down my healing process. It will get easier with each passing day. I sing praises to the Lord. I need you now by Plumb is a good song. I pray God will carry you through this storm in your life, I pray for him to send you peace and comfort.
[jacqui gerstenkorn] - I was married at 17, by 18 I had our first baby. By 19/20 I was divorced and alone with our baby. I was so lonesome. I had a job but no friends really. The house I rented caught fire. By then I was crying every night and praying to JESUS. I gave myself to JESUS and told him I just couldn't go on alone. I met my husband of 43 years and three more children, making 4 beautiful children. My husband adopted my child and we are a family. We are blesst to have 4 lovely grandchildren. None of that would have happened if I hadn't given myself and problems to JESUS. I will be praying for you and your problems. Don't give up on JESUS. He knows the time to help you. Just keep your faith in him and really believe in him.
[juel radcliffe krajewski] - This was me! I was married for 16 years. I just didn't believe in divorce. All I can tell you is time helps. The hardest part is trying to heal your heart when you have to help heal your childrens' hearts at the same time. Don't say anything bad about their dad in front of them. Let them see you cry, then they will cry and talk to you about their feelings but do not let them know your feelings, just try to help them. You need to talk to someone who you trust (and yes, I totally understand the one person who you were supposed to trust above all others has broken it, so it may be hard to find someone to confide in.) You need to get your feelings out there. My biggest hurdle was admitting to myself that I DIDN'T fail in my marriage, my husband did. HE is the one who broke the vows that were said at the wedding. He is the one to fail at the marriage.
[la tanya douet] - Bless someone hurting more than u. <3
[kathy cybelius] - Sorry Cindy Brain but if women who can't " suck it up" can't call our selves Christians?!!!
Did you think about yourself for posting those words?!
I'm a single mom of 3 kids, my husband of 13 years left us 9 months ago for another woman who lives 5 min away from us and I EVERY SINGLE day mourn the loss of my marriage!!! I have lots of guilt and what ifs.
I am Christian! I believe in Lord and I talk to him every single day!
Hugs to all the woman who's world was shattered and who believed marriage was suppose to last a lifetime.
[priscilla davis] - I was abandoned many years ago at 21 and two babies. That left me a mess and I became very promiscuous trying to prove I was worth loving. My advice is to press in to God's loving arms. He is the only way to be healed and receive the love that only He can give. He will never leave you nor foresake you. Doing anything else will be futile. Healing from this will take several years and only God can heal her broken heart.
[jerri demandsrespect thomas] - O.M.G. HOW CAN I GIVE SOMEONE WORDS OF WISDOM WHEN MY HEART IS HURTING TO??? BUT SHE WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS!!!
[melissa james] - By giving it all to God
[linda green] - Saying this may sound so easy, but it's not. But the only way you are going to be able to heal is by forgiving him. not for him but for yourself. and each day at a time, began to pray for him. because by praying for him you will be healing. and before you know it you are going to be free. JUST TRY IT! I promise you it will work. I 've been there and I know from experience that prayer will work! you may do a lot of crying, but your tears are temporary relief. the more tears the greater the prayer. and you will be loving him. not because of in love with him, but being in love with Jesus will allow you to see how much damage he did to himself. so the love that you will have for him, is Godly love for his lost, because he is the loser not you! AND ONCE YOU HAVE CLIMB THIS MOUNTAIN, YOU WILL GET YOUR STRENGTH BACK AND THEN MY DEAR HEART YOU SHALL LIVE AGAIN. for you I am praying!!
[fannie mccall richardson] - I feel your pain, for me I had to be delivered from the pain by some REAL WOMEN OF GOD. They labored with me bc they wanted to see me delivered as bad as I wanted it they saw me through the process and when it was all over the pain was gone healing took place and all the unwanted feeling towards my husband were gone. No it's not that simple but if you have your mind and heart in the right place GOD WILL AND CAN MOVE ALL THE HURT AND PAIN.
[looney quevedo nedrow] - I'd like to know too please
[peggy riggins] - When we lay down our self before the lord.s feet n humble before Him is when we begin to heal from brokeneess
[robbin henry-lance] - He did not move on, He had her when he asked you for a divorce. Pray and stay Praying turn him the whole entire mess over to GOD . God will fight your battles. Yes I am a living walking proof , pray and keep praying believe what you pray and speak as if it was so.
[yvel diaz barbosa] - In time everything will get better. Is your homework to take care of yourself and your children, to forgive and to learn to trust the Lord. Keep going to church with your children, make the Lord first priority in your home and teach your children to love and honor the Lord. There's a lot of danger outhere but the Lord is faithful and he will take care of you and your children. Don't focus on what seems easy for your husband, because he is living in disobedience to the Lord and in time he will have to give account for his deeds. You focus on your personal growth, always talk positive about him to the children and teach them to forgive. You have to recover and 20 yrs of marriage doesn't recover on 5 of single life. Be able to submit your will to the Lord and trust him that he will show you how to be a christian single woman.
[judy mackey] - Trust in the Lord..pray for healing in your heart and for you to be able to forgive. As time goes by it gets easier and not only do you feel rejected, abused, unloved, disrespected, abandoned, lonley , unable to cope...one thing God will never give you more than you can handle...it hurts very bad...hold on to Jesus and trust in Him. Then the time will come when you feel so much at peace.... cuz that is God.
[maria esparza] - I also am going thru separation, I feel her lost and pain, its hard letting go, but I pray God gives her and my other Sisters in Christ, the strength to endure this pain in our broken-hearts, because He knows what's best, its not easy, but with God by our side we can't go wrong, Lord, Thank You for this peace in our sad hearts!
[kimberly beck] - I divorced my husband and at the time I thought I had 1,000 good reasons. In my heart I never wanted it but did not see how we could make it work. Since then I've developed a relationship with God and regret my decisuin much of the time but he has moved on, is with someone else, and still makes a lot of the same choices that I cannot live with. Divorce is painful and my own broken heart goes out to you because with all of our probkems I still love him. But we cannot control others only how we respond to what they do. When I feel most alone or scared I rely on this, " Fear not for I am with you; do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strenghthen you and help you, and uplift you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
[vickie whitaker] - So sorry your induring this great betrayal. But thank God he told you the truth,he did it in a wrong way, but at least he's not cheating on you bringing you home disease? You will need time to grieve, it is a death to a twenty yr. marriage. Be kind to your self choose to forgive go walk or workout to release your anger. Get over him It's his lose, you reap what you sow. Trust God and work on you. Think about it if your a beliver you have a faithful -commited- positive-respectful man coming your way. Because you reap what you sow! Thank God.
I got all that from you from a short story. So think on the positive- the uplifting and all the standing you did and understand reaping and sowing. Yours is coming reaping and sowing is for good to! God will not be mocked! Turn the evil around to your good just by seeing Gods word in truth! Allow yourself time to grieve and heal you Will be a better person for it. I will pray for you too God Bless you my sister, don't stay where your tolerated be where your Celebrated for who you are.
[tamara felix] - The hurt eases in time. However, I don't know if it ever truly leaves. You go through stages of healing...the last step is acceptance of the circumstances. You need to allow yourself time to grieve, because you are mourning the death of your marriage. Having the title of "victim" won't help your feelings though. Try to forgive. At first it won't be easy, but pray every day not only for you, but also for your ex. Turning to God is what is going to get you through this. He will carry you, like He has with your past struggles. In time, you will have peace
[patty brenneman] - It's so hard to let go of love, and what used to be a comfort zone as well, knowing that you and your children would be cared for by a man you trusted and relied on. I had to learn to let go as well, and learned the only reliable being is God. I urge you to pray. Even when those tears fall, pray and if you can't find the words, ask the Holy Spirit to pray for you as you simply sit quiet before our Lord. Let this man go, as it is obvious he did not care where his sin took him, or who he hurt. Do not free him from his financial obligations to your children. The stronger you become, the more you are able to stand on your own feet, the sorrier he will be one day. God sees your tears, be honest with Him on all you feel. Remember it's okay to be angry, but don't sin in your anger. Don't allow yourself to fall into the get even trap for God will re-pay this man for his sin. Keep God as your number one from this day forward. He will reward you for your faithfulness. Seek Christian counseling if you must to help with any depression. Be of good courage my friend.
[cory brady] - First forgive second search out Christ so deep that he shows you the rite person n let him heal you put all you're trust n God he's the only man you need n you're life at this moment God Bless
[zahna colmant] - Instead of focusing on what you think you lost start thanking God for what you have. Your husband seems like he exited the marriage long before he actually left you. Based on your story, he actually sounds like a jerk and you are well rid of him. Stop blocking your blessings by holding on to this anger. How can God reward you in the future if you are holding on to the past? Your husband has moved on, wish him the best and focus on you. Karma will take care of him. But truly the best 'revenge' is to move on with your life & be happy. Keep loving your kids and be blessed.
[maria crisostomo] - My heart aches with yours..it says in the bible that the Lord is close to the heartbroken. You have the right to mourn, and righteous indignation. Present your hurting heart to The Lord. Give Him your pain and anger and ask Him to chisel your heart and teach you to forgive. Remember we are fighting a spiritual battle. You sound like a very strong woman, it's time to allow God to take over and show you His strength. Trust in His plans for your life and that of your children. Prayer my sister and faith with believe.
[kathy carr] - I believe by him being gone all the time made it easy for him to disengage. When someone else makes themselves available during transitional times to be that listening ear and understanding heart then they are open to go another direction. Depending on the advice, He wanted change and sad for you he found it with someone else. That other person may have helped make it easy for him because it could have been hard for him to let go after 20 years. Distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder, sometimes it helps sever the ties. God is the only one I know who can heal a heart shocked by trauma. He can make your heart whole again to love again. He may have been your world but now the real world is waiting on you to bounce back and help others who have experienced the same trauma as you. God bless. You will be that answer to others who are hurting just like you.
[janet wolbach] - I have lived thru a similar situation. When my marriage dissolved, I had a 3 year old boy, a 2 year old girl and was pregnant with my second daughter. I grew so angry because he abandoned the children. When the baby was born he came to see her at 2 weeks of age and the last time he seen any of the kids she was 6 weeks old. Honestly I hated him. I called my pastor and he counseled me. He let me understand that anger was only harming myself. I had to work on forgiveness. I just concentrated on loving The Lord and teaching my children about his Love, Grace and Mercy. I raised my children by myself and poured all my love into my church and my children. I'm proud to say my kids are all in their twenties, happy and serving the Master. They do not know their dad but they know their Father. I had to work on forgiving him and I eventually did. I do feel sorry for him because I have precious memories of my children and I have six beautiful grand babies. Just focus on God, your children and being the best mom and woman you can be. Have faith that God will provide you with the life that will be BETTER than the life you miss so badly. Your in my prayers.
[teressa barnes] - 1 day at time...GOD is able
[cyrene renee gerard] - Healing is a process and it starts with honesty and truth. Read your bible faithfully know your word. Glory to God I've been.blessed and found favorable in Gods eyes that He healed my shattered heart. I'm stronger because of it and closer in my relationship with Jesus. I'm praying for you. Your strength is in Him. All the faith you need is in you. Dig deep.
[doreen scott] - It takes time but she needs to be willing to really let go and realise it's over.
Once she comes to terms with that, then her heart can start the healing process.
She must tell herself that it is over & pray about it.She needs courage, strength & someone she can talk with.
Someone who is not judgemental but understanding & sympathetic.
[maryann arruda] - There's a website called, 'Hope for the brokenhearted'...It has a lot of Inspirational posts. It helps me when I'm feeling low. Journaling helps also & it's nice to look back at it, in the future, & see how much you've grown. You'll probably even laugh at some of the things you jotted down. 20 years is like a lifetime...Everything happens for a reason. Remind yourself daily...1. Most important in life-God...2. Most beautiful attire-smile...3. Greatest asset-faith...4. Most powerful force-love...5. Greatest weapon-prayer...Sometimes, you just have to pick yourself up, & carry on...It's a daily struuggle, after all it was 20 years...Ask God to help you heal & carry on, on a daily, & remind yourself those 5 reminders...& pray, "Lord, I bring to you my burdens & you know my situation. You know I can't make it without you. Comfort my heart, give me strength & help me carry on. Thy will be done, not mine. Please & ty. ahead of time, Amen." & go about your day. Take good care of yourself. Learn to like your own company. There is an empowering feeling, of liking your own company. This is also like a mourning period. Take all the time you need, to take care of you now. You spent 20 years taking care of others, now, this is your time, to take care of you, & reevaluate things...Look forward, but keep it in the day. Don't dwell so much on what went wrong, what did I do, things like that. Focus in the moment. Try to practice, not looking back, you're not going that way, & forgiveness doesn't mean everything's ok. It means you choose to forgive this situation, so it doesn't keep you trapped in the walls of your mind. People grow apart. Maybe, God has bigger plans for you, than you have for yourself...Stay strong, think positive, & always keep the faith. Keep your head up, & let go gracefully, with your dignity in tact, knowing you fought for 6 months & he didn't. His loss...You didn't give up, he did. This is hard to do, but if you can, also practice & pray for his well being...God has a funny way with, what goes around comes around...God bless you always & forever...<3...
[elizabette avette padbalagtas] - When life seems hard always remember that God knows you even before you were born, so be assured of His great love and plan...focus on Jesus and His great love for U
[delores arnette cochrane] - Honey, God did you a favor. His girlfriend was there all the time, don't let him fool you. God has something better for you and what you experienced with your ex, will make you stronger and smarter when the next man captures your heart. Praying that your heart heals and you stop wasting time on 20 years of fake memories. Cherish your children, seek God and peace will be forthcoming.
[nikita ledlie porcasi] - I have been through the same...felt betrayed.., but now I am much happier in life than ever.., so pray for strength and move on
[lynette abrahams] - Let go and let God! God is just waiting 4 u to reach out to him. Focus on urself and ur children. B Blessed
[diana a brito] - You were the one who was doing most of the work all those 20 yrs I could almost bet! You need to let him go and ...find your own happiness. He is not your happiness. Search God. Real love.
[aira mae tiburcio] - Even from the begining He already planned everything for you. We can put a lot of advices to you but its all up to you of what to do. But one thing is for sure God will never leave you in times of your broken heart. You just need to stay close to Him whatever happens. Look, you might cry many times but you should wipe your eyes still, for you to see the clear things that you've never seen while your crying:) You are valuable:)
The Praying Woman: Praying for this young lady. Any advice for her? - 50th Comments
[sandy heart] - Tell God through prayer exactly how you feel.Let go and let God:He heals the broken hearted.
[yhendamie hayes] - Wow I'm going through the same thing I'm my life. these women are giving out Good advice I needed 2 hear this thank you lady's so much. Wow how powerful women are when we're helping each other :-)
[lori heyer] - My husband left me after 28 yrs. Was devestated and didnt know what ti do. As for me, after a yr and a half i finally decided life does go on. I will nevet really completely let go, but i asked God to help me move on and he did. I still ask God evertday to take care of my husband and to helpme to hold on to what i found to help me be happy again.
[marcus sims] - Forgive him, there a good man out there looking for a family.
[grace nelson] - Pray, feel your emotions. Focus on God. He's our healer of all pain, hurt and brokenness.
[valarie walden] - It takes time. Now it time for you try things that you always wanted to do. Go to new places. Take the time to rediscover yourself. You will meet the man that God created just for you,.
1) give yourself a hug every morning
2) tell yourself that you love me every morning while looking in the mirror
3) go have some fun with your girlfriends.
[lore hettinga] - It's hard. I am in a similar place like you and it hurts but with time you will feel less hurt. Also I would encourage you to go do something fun just for you and no one else once a week simple as eating your favorite dessert and make you yourself happy again. It will happen.
[cheryl mcdaniel elliott] - My heart goes out to her. Many of us have felt this way, both men and women. We are left with unanswered questions while they seemingly move on with a happy life. Don't give the ex-husband any power by letting him see how much his moving on hurts. When he comes to pick up the kids, get dolled up and sing joyfully. Act as if the healing has happened and eventually it will just be something she does. She must let go and let God! There is no quick fix to heal her heart. Only God and time will do that for her.
[neida lopez] - My husband walked out on me for another man in November 2013, we've been together for 20 yrs I didn't see it coming because we had a good marriage he treated me like if I was the most precious thing in the world we act like honeymooners , he raised the bar so high, now he tells me he made a mistake, he realized how much he loves me, he feels wrong when he is with that guy, he cries every night thinking about me and he wants to come back because he misses us and what we had. I'm praying so hard for God's guidance. I told him I need space, don't want him calling me or texting me.
[lisa z brown] - I know your pain and I cried a many tear. As I sought the reason, "why me" I was consoled by the" Word" and learning the lesson that I should put nothing and no one before Yahweh for he is a jealous God and your strongest love should be for Him and Him alone. Not to say you can't/aren't supposed to love but know that when you are His put Him first and your husband should do the same.
[lynne gruszka] - This is a very sad story! I am so very sorry that his weakness came in between your marriage and family! Tragic...but you must get up every day, search your faith, be a great mom and find your next chapter...it may not seem that way now..but the sweetest is yet to be!
[schmecka hickman todd] - Pray and ask God to help you forgive. You can't move forward with your purpose until you forgive those that are hindering you. I have had to do this before more than once;).
[petrina o'brien] - Embrace your feelings and tell God..on your knees and tell him the truth about how you are feeling!Because these feelings will pass..Tell God how hurt you are and be honest..Let your ex husband go...God will sort I'm out..Most Men will always bounce from Woman to Woman, it's their ego and pride. Woman, especially at times of a separation and divorce, are Emotional beings, and wonder why "he doesn't fight for me, like I would fight for you?"
You may not see healing, but I can promise, it's working..
[claresa jenneker pretorius] - The heartache of grief can come from many places: a death, a divorce or even the loss of a dream. These losses can cause tremendous disappointments and pain. And while these dark valleys change our lives forever,we are not meant to wollow in a state of endless depression. Instead the process of grieving can keep us from becoming permanently crippled by loss helping us to continue to walk through it.
Councelors have identified five stages of grief:
Each stage represent a natural response to loss. People who are grieving will work through these stages in their own order and on their own timetable. God's Word can be a salve to your wounded spirit.
[adriana ayala] - Starting over is very hard,, especially after 20 years,,,it is going to take time and lots of prayer...it hurts yes it does but you will find laughter again and you will build your new life,,,,trust God he is with you and he won't let you go Never!! And for your children they have pain too and for your husband I know he will realize marriages aren't perfect,, and he is also going to have to work at the new one..in saying this about your husband doesn't mean he is coming back, it's just how it is. Let your children adjust to this they are broken hearted... And if you see them different take them to see a Christian counselor,,,,and in all you will find yourself again!!!! I am sure because I went through this is ugly,hurts,confusing, disrespectful,,,,but God became my refuge provider healer laughter and my protector,,,blessing you are beautiful and always pick your head up,,,,blessings
[antia carlin] - Heavenly Father please touch this woman and mend her broken heart so that she May lead the life of joy, peace and LOVE you intend for her. You are an amazing God who heals all wounds. Guide her, hold her and show her what forgiveness can do... Set the prisoner of a broken ♥ free... In Jesus mighty name! God bless you.
[jessica burns guadalupe] - When you think you can't, when you feel betrayed, when you are at your worst and your thoughts keep bringing you, what he has done to you, in situations like that just stop, forget about everything and start praising God, praise his name just say Jesus , if you can't say anything but he knows your heart and mind and He is in the midst of your situation , He won't allowed anymore that what you can handle!!!
[peggy j. landers o'brien] - When God closes a door,a new one opens. You just have to be ready for the open door!
[janelle monique] - First, you are NOT alone nor is ur story an isolated one. Speaking from experience, I know satan tries to put thoughts in our minds when we're in pain, that we're alone. Screw satan, he's a LIAR. I can't know exactly how u feel but I do share your pain, in my own way, with my own story. You have kids in the picture, that must be doubly hard.. Trying to put myself in your shoes, I would ask for grace sufficient just for today causz tomorrow may be too much to think & deal with. Strength, hope for the future and comfort in this experience. You keep your integrity and your blessings will flow. Do something for YOU, to bless you and your kids. After the rain, you must see the sun again. Praying for u and the kids;).
[brandy harper] - Pray, take it one day at a time! You will heal and get over it! It took me awhile and I even went through some counseling. Let go and let The Lord heal your heart.
[maria cecilia dacanay amor] - I am into that situation very similar to yours, my military husband left us 6 yrs ago, I live alone wid my 3 kids...yes ur right so painful at first I dont know where do I start but God's word help me to go on esp His words in Matthew 6:33 & Isaiah 54:5:)
[ella arnold cloud] - Seek help, get in a bible study for women. It helps you heal. When I went thru this I stumbled across a book called Hope for the separated. I think the author last name is chapman. It helped me learn how to get past the hurt when they have moved on. A divorce is like mourning a death, there are different stages. The one I got stuck in was anger. You can't stay there. I will pray for you, I know it's hard and how bad it hurts.
[anieta prettyinnocent henry] - Love god n your self
[tina kneeland] - It wasn't meant to be, forgive but don't forget, it is hard to move on I am trying but my guy has the bottle instead of a woman
[vanessa shaw-potter] - I actually went though something very similar. The best thing I ever did for my ex, his 2nd wife and our kids was to let go of the anger and I did that by praying for them every day. It is hard to be angry at someone when you are praying for them. You have to look at them with Jesus' eyes not your own. Pray for them to learn to be respectful and to have a caring heart when it comes to you and your kids, pray for yourself to let go of anger and bitterness. Pray that you can all come together, be cordial and do what's best for your children. Prayers for you all.
[karen grubaugh] - My forgive prayer goes like this: Lord, I don't want to forgive but out of obedience to you I forgive (insert name). I can't change my feelings but you can so I give them over to you and ask you to change me. Amen
[sharon nana reed-conrad] - Allow yourself to feel everything you feel and forgive yourself for feeling the way you have every right to feel. When YOU are ready... not every one else....fall on your knees and ask God to remove the pain and hurt then and only then can you forgive him... and that forgiveness is for you ..not him;) Gods got you<3 and you are NOT...nor have you ever been alone;) praying with and for you<3
[david walser] - you have to give your soul to God he will change your life for the better then and you will feel whole again
[ruby varghese] - The Lord sees the tears of a betrayed women.
[m margaret safara-cobble] - When you love someone for 20+ years it doesn't turn off overnight. He shocked you at first with his confession not giving you the time you needed to adjust. Your situation has to be grieved in order for you to move on. There are 5 stages that you must pass through before the healing can begin. Sometimes you must go through the jagged, dark valley to emerge on the smooth side where the sunlight will reach down to greet you…that's the Hands of God hugging you. Don't go through this alone, you can find fellow believers and/or a counselor or life coach to help you. Stay strong and pray for His Everlasting Arms to guide you. Blessings to you
[chandra flemmings carroll] - God allowed that disconnect for a reason....simply trust Him....you are well on your way to learning to trust Gods every decision for your life
[gwen marsh] - Listen to God ! Be still and listen!
[rebekah white] - He heals all broken hearts
[rebekah white] - Give it to Jesus
[jeannette rodriguez] - The Lord will heal her heart. I've been there & it was the hell and such an agonizing constant pain. She will go through all of the stages of grief. She will then realize that The Lord is right there by her side. Reading the Bible, staying close to God, surrounding herself with godly people who love her will help her along the way. The closer she gets to God, the easier the healing will be.
[angela pama] - GOD CAN HEAL EVERY WOUNDED HEART LIKE MINE.. ♡♡♡♡
[priscylla regis] - Yes. First of all I think there is always hope with Jesus Christ . In his power we can do great things! He honors us and is right there beside us when we want to do something that honors his word and is according to his will. I don' t think that her marriage has ended yet, because in her heart there is still love for him. I think she should pray for an opportunity to speak with him and for The Lord to open his heart, towards her. When The Lord gives her this opportunity to sit down, maybe at a restaurant or someplace else, she should give her best shot. Wear her best outfit, and pour her heart out. I think she should ask him what made him so unhappy in their marriage, without putting pressure on him, though, maybe tell him she just needs some closure in order to move on with her life. She can also try throwing in some questions for the sake of brainstorming and healing for both of them from usual mistakes we women make in our marriages, like for example, not taking care of our bodies, not caring for our family, not being consistent, not being well groomed, focusing too much on the children and neglecting the needs of the husband, not communicating, not respecting our husband' s authority figure on the home, the list goes on and on. After she helps him to find out what happened, offer him another chance to change to make a brand new marriage, one that is going to be pleasurable for both of them. If he accepts the offer, work on the issues, If he doesn't, accept the fact that God is in control, and advise him, still with respect, but with great confidence that he is making one of the worst mistakes in his life in letting go of his family so easily, and that one day he's going to have to face God for not valuing one of the best gifts The Lord has entrusted to his care- his own family. After that, move on and work on the mistakes you made in your past marriage ( even though you're not married to this man anymore, you still have to work on your side of the issues, this will make you a better person and opens up the doors in your life) , The Lord will give you another chance in life, forgive him by taking care of your needs, and your children's needs, take care of your spiritual, physical and emotional health, with baby steps, and pour out your heart to God, asking him for filling up your heart with forgiveness, healing, direction and wisdom. Hope this lady gets this advice soon and that it may help her!
[brenda villasenor] - Get on your knees and ask God to show you how
[abigail sanusi] - It's not easy but u hav 2 let go so dat u can let God heal u & turn things around 4 u. it wl b well.
[melissa frasier] - I've got the same issue. I'm going thru a divorce, you just take one day at a time and pray everyday. Surround your self with friends and family!
[beverley thomas jacobs] - Pray my angel and get something to keep you busy, so you don't have time to think about them. And a big step that you have to take is forgive. I started to sell Tupperware and with my teaching career it kept me so busy and I was so tired at night, when I put my head on the pillow I fell a sleep. I followed that routine for more then 4 years. Before I knew it he was out of my system. And the better part is, it helped me financially to get back on my feet, cause his money was gone now and I had to take care of my 2 kids. Today I'm so blessed cause God carried us. My daughter completed 2nd year at Varsity, my son just wrote his matric. You will be ok girl. I promise you that. God bless.
[cathy carr] - First off Pray! God will see you are not alone.It's not going to be easy but you are a strong woman,and if you don't think you are.You will surprize yourself.Lean on God and good friends and family to get you thru this time
[da harrisons] - Pray, only god can heal your heart. I was in a similar situation and after 3 yrs of being divorced, I still have so much bitterness and I'm always waiting for my now husband to betray me as well. It's the worst feeling in the world but prayer really helps your heart.
[marcella karekye] - May God take the place of your ex husband. Don't judge yourself harshly,no,don't judge yourself at all. Love your children and focus on them. Surround yourself with positive people and pray and pray. God will fix you.
[ruth kirsten] - Firstly forgive really forgive. If u have to do it each day over then u do until u feel u have. And then let it go just let it go. And ask God to do His healing work in you. Change the way you think. Renew your mind. And let it go. Give it all to Jesus .... Alll Allll.
[kimberly jones] - Wow, hit so close to home. I am so sorry for her heartache. Mourning the loss of her family, marriage, friend...etc is so difficult. Obviously, he will not take any ownership and understand how she feels. This is the part where she will need to find peace with in her self. She will need to find ways to heal and cope. I pray that she finds peace. It's never easy to walk away from your family. The grieving process isn't on a set time table, allow yourself the time.
[nini mahanyele] - God is with you , He knew sbout your path of life and He will never forsake you.
[stephanie norris] - Let go. It's always the ones who offer the encouragement and support that are last to know. It will hurt, but it will get better.
[ratu masivesi seru] - The bestthing to do rite now is neverpanic,get yrself together,keep the pressure dwn n shut that mouth of that mind of yours.Take control.Let your heart do the talking not your mind.Go to prayer meetings.Seek God on yr own time.Have a prayer session with yr family esp yrkids at 7pm.In yr prayers ask God to lead u,make u dothe rightthing.Ask him to speak to u thru the Bible.Remember always have patience and faith.Offer yrself often,daily as a living sacrifice to God.Dnt rush,but step by step,on yr own pace turn to him wholeheartedly with complete trust.He knows yr limits.Never..Giv up on God coz he will b loyal to u till the end.Keep that feet standing up no matter what....it pays..GodBless...
[thelma dahn-debrah] - May God heal ur heart. Continue to pray for healing. Pray for your ex too. He is also hurting somewhere inside him. We can't give what we don't have. Focus on your blessings. They are many. Give no room to negative feelings. May the love of God take over in your life. Amen
The Praying Woman: Praying for this young lady. Any advice for her? - 100th Comments
[vicky vanhorn] - Pray, keep a gratitude journal, think of everything you have to be thankful for,,,,,!! It takes time,
but ' know 'you Will Feel Better !!!! : )
[lorraine mcgill] - God has a plan , yet for your Life and he still loves and care about you. Love yourself. Rev. Lorraine. One day at a time, one moment, each step of the way.
[tracy too sure lambert] - Prayer. The only way to move on is to pray and ask the LORD to help you forgive your husband. Peace will only come with forgiveness. One day at a time.
[erma thompson] - You can't do it on your own!! It has to be with God through Jesus!! Then you can let go and let God!!!
[domeka harrison] - Pray and stay in your word when I had a hard time letting go I found myself in my word every time a thought came to mind eventually God allowed me to find the strength of letting go
[tiffany mulhall] - He moved out in his heart and mind before he ever told you. The only solution (I left my ex and took my three children) is prayer. Let God carry your heartache.
Plus, he's your leftovers.....I detest leftovers.
[kairy garcia] - Forgiveness, not for what or whom hurt you but for your own sake. Look for God daily, he gives you the peace that surpasses every understanding.
[gita cooper hira sing] - Put All your Sorrows and pain in Gods hand and pray that he Heal you. Amen god is great
[deborah scruggs] - Time heals all things.Spend time in prayer and ask God to heal your broken heart.Try to speak positive things in front of your children.It takes time to focus and regroup after a betrayal,but, with Gods help you can come out better and healthyer in the long run.
[monique bella donna] - Tell God about all of it and ask for him to heal you and he will? He did the same for me! Praise God!
[zyketra monae] - God & time will heal your heart.
[joycelyn peterson] - I know the feeling all too well. Pray. Prayer and forgiveness will all you to heal. I'm still working on it.
[lorraine montes sklar] - I have felt your pain. All I can tell you is to use this time to find yourself. So many women lose themselves by dedicating their entire being to their husband. As did I. Pray a lot and time heals all wounds! You will never forget but you need to forgive in order to move on.
[anita pearson] - Not easily done but with time you can grow closer to God, love yourself and kids more and soon he will just be a memory. I've been married caught husband in bed with a woman, she had a child by him I had none almost lost my mind, cried everyday all day for 7 months straight than turned to crack cocaine No one or nothing is worth your peace of mind. 14 years clean, divorced, loving God and myself more, and single!!!(**)
[samantha hunter-fletcher] - I am in your situation and it was a year ago that God let me know that He would not force my husband to do that which was not in his heart. It sounds crazy but I was so relieved and I no longer walk in bitterness. Let it be because your children's father has to answer to God about his hurtful decisions.
[lynn roberts] - Prayer and praise, praise is powerful. Even in those times when you least feel like it praise, it brings breakthrough. God honours a sacrifice of praise and as you draw near to him he will draw near to you. Much love xx
[rhonda harris] - It takes time and prayer, took me a year to work thru the worst of it, sounds like ur ex hubby has rebounded into a new relationship far to quickly men seem to be inclined to do that cause they dont want to be alone, u are wise to take ur time otherwise u will drag all the baggage into ur next relationship, go at ur own pace grieve ur loss fully and get some good christian counselling it was a big help to me, hang in their it will get better :)
[lorraine marrie mcarthur] - God took you to your divorce and he'll bring you through it....
When I suffer I look at other countries, research and send money that I don't really have to help them.
Seeing them suffer makes me realise I'm having a minor hiccup, it isn't all that bad and helping them, helps me....it's about soul definition
[angie ochoa] - I just recently came across a daily devotional book titled Jesus Calling. My friend posted the passage on Dec 31st and it touched me. Remember that you're not alone. Have faith. Pray and ask for guidance and strength. Best of luck to you all who posted. It's great reading some positive feedback of others reaching out to people.♥
[carol wilkinson] - Trust in God and keep putting one foot in front of the other let the Holy Spirit guide and keep your mind together things can get bad very easily don't let it get worse pray pray pray
[neasy hines] - Pray pray pray ...
[mari garcia] - Prayers your way
[amanda bacon] - Pray and ask GOD to heal you....
[evie eve] - Lots of prayer, and be involved with people from your congregation but put that trust in the Lord and have faith that he will take care of you in whatever situation your in ;)
[gloria bryant] - I was one of the most BROKEN woman on earth i was rape left for dead in and abandond building,i could go on but let me tell u how god healed my heart and i learned how to forgive people and talk people again.I couldnt trust know one but now im a total different person.
[barbara miller] - Trust God, he wants what's best for you. Everyday get on your knees and let God know you 're hurting, and ask him to show you how to forgive him and pretty soon you will find it easier as life goes on.
I know your pain, and will also be praying for you.
[pam langston woodard] - Honey, bless your heart. God and a few very close prayer warrior friends will be your best source of help. If you ever want to talk PM me. I have recently gone through a very similar situation!!
[darlene clark] - Forgive, let go let god. Pray and ask god to bless him. Tell god not to lay this to his charge. Keep that agape love in your heart. Smile and keep moving. Hold no grudges towards your ex husband in your heart. Crying is good for the soul. Give it all to god. God Bless you.
[patricia du toit] - This will take time,but as you put your trust in Jesus and allow him to lead you the pain will lessen till one day you will see the brightest rainbow and know God has brought you through this pain.
[katya babchuk] - Pray, art, LOVE YOURSELF, go to church, ask God to speak to you, read the Job, proverbs, Song of Solomon (maybe not this one). Ummm get super involved in a church
[melanie rosas] - When you can't let go it's usually because ur heart is not fully with the Lord. Once you keep ur eye on Jesus, that's when ur storms seem like they are nothing! Change ur focus.
[heather lane] - Most of you who say give it up and let God take it must not have gone through this. Don't you think she has tried that. Girl give it time...I'm right there with you in it. Forgiveness isn't easy....God eventually has restoration for you. Praying for you!
[alvin j young] - Give it all the way to the lord in prayer
[janet batchelor kellam] - You have to turn to The Lord and ask for help and guidance,you have to be strong for your children and show this man you can go on with your life for you are a strong person and you have God on your side.Get you a note pad and write to God in it and let him know how you feel and watch the change in you ,that helped me.Things happen for a reason and doors closes and a better one opens up. Just remember you are NOT alone. God bless you .
[sophiah tipis] - God created humans with a freewill and they constantly make a choice against him even disassosiation from him. Same thing a person does to God is the same thing they to another human. Look at the person from that point of veiw and set them free !!! Let them exercise their God given freedom to choose . Yes it hurts and yes its wrong of them to leave. Life moves on. Let go and let live
[lynnette cuebas] - I dint know..im still looking to the past
[marti webb siems] - I hear your pain. You are a strong capable woman and what was done to you was wrong. You did not deserve this. I'm very sad about the damage your ex has caused in your life and in the lives of your kiddos. I won't try to give you a pep talk. I can say that God is the God who sees. He sees you. He loves you. He wraps His arms around you and calls you His. Rest in that today.
[katchy oguejiofor] - Hand it all to God.Pray for your ex husband anytime you get angry,try and let go of that past in your life.Cling unto God,He will definitely heal you and move you to better life.You will definitely laugh last.
[jo ann reyes bragalone] - I'm so sorry you have to go through this pain. It's not an easy process because you have spent years with this person. And even harder to know that he just moved on. The pain never goes away but it will be less pain. The only answers I know is seeking God and asking him to heal your heart, I know it's not what you to want to hear but forgive him cause he will have to answer to one person. By forgiving him it gives you a chance to move on with your life and god will find you someone better and will love you more than you will ever think. God will give us what he knows we can handle. and right now it doesn't seem that way but give it time and you see the changes in yourself. I pray for your heart to be healed and that God will guide you in the direction that he only knows what you truly need.
[sandyblynqx amankrah] - i pray that the Holy Spirit will take absolute control over her heart
[deborah rodriguez] - God gives you a new life not for the bad but for the good so start enjoying the better life
[kefilwe fifi itumeleng] - Our Dear Lord is with you,be strong and courageous
[delresea anderson] - Wow. I was so there, but God. You have to mourn and grieve. Its only natural that you feel a lost but don't stay there. Someone said "What you give away is your blessing." God will never leave you or for sake you. Let go and let God.
[hloni phecudi] - Grief is something that doesn't go away within seconds, you loved this man and he is too selfish and caught up in a new thing in my language we always say a new broom sweeps clean its fine its going to hurt time heals
[endinako minny mabai] - Don't ask your God why me...because once u ask Him that question that shows that u doubt him...never doubt ur God, ur Father, ur creater and ur Everything...he is the same God he doesn't change and I promise u if u lift u hands and say father can u hear me Im calling on ur name..he will listen to u my dear his ear it's not to far not to hear your pain... stay blessed and have faith in him...love u and God bless u
[mari reyes] - When God does NOT approve of a union, He lets the stupid one err. God says let vengeance be His, so when we let Him deal with things in His time He blesses our patience. God will put the RIGHT MAN in your life @ the RIGHT TIME. After a 11.5yr abusive relationship, God put MY "prince charming" in my life 2 years ago but I wasn't ready for him until this year. And despite my flaws, this man is amazed by my ability to still love and trust despite that horrific time period. I'll be praying for you, but you need to focus on what God's plan is for you. Ask Him for His direction, to heal your heart, to move on to your next chapter in your life without looking back, and to bless your efforts. We all hate being alone, but sometimes, it's how we are reminded of who we are or were before if we changed for the worst.
[candide figueroa] - Run to the arms of God the best advice any one can give you
[nicole voorhies] - Let go and let God. He'll fight your battles for you. And whoop your husband in the same breath! And thats my story
[diana lostrappo] - The only advice I have to say is keep asking until you get it. The peace that you need .the sweetness, the fullness of joy. when you remember these things the pain won't be there anymore . . Just like when you ask God to forgive you in Jesus name he forgives you and then councils your debt forever and he doesn't remember . He heals you too and fills you with such sweetness enjoy
[grace mccray] - you will know when you are healed,you can look at him and look straight through him and smile when you say good bye
The Praying Woman: Praying for this young lady. Any advice for her? - 150th Comments
[mateboho makoala] - First you must acept that it hapen nomater how hard it can be,coz acceptin its speed up the process of healing,an fogive the person who cause you that pain,you are not fogivin 4them bt 4you,coz wen u fogive u live the place in your heart called place of peace
[debbie barragan] - Praying for you. Talk to God. He will help you through it. It takes time but if you believe His word in time you will feel His peace once again. God Bless you <3
[mary cheok] - Prayers n total surrender to God. It's easier said than done. When a person is hurting as much as you, you will become bitter. So hang on in there. Life goes on no matter which way you look. I pray you have friends n family help you through this stormy crisis. With God and through Our Blessed Mother all things are possible. Even the hurts n emotional pains will go away in time.
[linda johnson] - I have no advice because you are in a mental place for God to intervene. Therefore, I shall pray on your behalf for spiritual recovery because the spirit of your loving heart is with your former husband. You loved him, and true love never ends. You valued the sacred substance of your marriage. It is God, that is able to rescue, recover, and restore all weight of your burden. God is going to deliver you with reward, honor, and wholeness. Get ready for your shift, and you shall soon look back at this matter and never waste your precious energy standing in the empty grave of mental robbery. I see you mounting up with joy, whereas your family shall see you joyful, renewed, and empowered with victory. Your true live is now because a storm always reveal what was hidden, covered, and over.
[tasha daqueen scott] - Jesus is your answer and know this that God will restore what the devil has taken! Trust God
[rebekah roberson] - Pray and meet this woman. Clear the air with your husband and her. She's spending time with your kids and your husbands criteria for a new partner may definitely not include a good mother. Better check it out and take control of the situation.
[kris vance] - No one knows how their life is going to be when they add one to theirs and hopefully for a lifetime together but when you have children and one is gone a lot things get confusing and never the same since you both grow. I will pray and hope you find happiness in 2014. If it was me, I'd do the best for my kids and show them I am still strong and that I'll be fine. I wouldn't give anyone power over me.
[lorraine mcgill] - Sister, move on, you cannot have power over the other person, he has move on. It's not worth it to hold on to hate and hurt, allow God's love to heal you, get in the word, prayer as often as you can talk to positive people love your children, most of all forgive yourself. Try with all your might to walk in love. It's a new year, expect God to do something in your life. Is. 43:19 b. says, I will all things new, look for and expect it. It will come. In the mean time, I will stay prayer for you, the children and also, him. Stay well my sister.
[phara lassin] - I pray that his how girlfriend rubs him the wrong way and drives him to wanting and needing his wife back like never before.
[rose encomio] - It's hard and it is painful but time is the healer of all wounds..I know God Will not leave you...move on and have some faith in God..
[carolyn banks taylor] - It's going to take time and much prayer.It's not easy but it will pass.Practice letting it go cry; scream do what you need to do and move on.He may have done you a favor; your life is not over it's a new beginning.God bless you and give you peace and strengh:)
[vivian symchysn henry] - this would be so very hard, only God can heal your heart, keep giving your hurt and pain to Him and forgiveness is needed too, God requires it and I know that is hard, I speak from experience.
[carbonell gina] - Pls include me in to your prayers too..Godbless and Happy New Year!to every one.
[brenda yarber-thompson] - Pray like David did. To remove all your hurts ,bads etc pray for a heart that seeks after God. Pray for your mouth that out of it comes words from God. Set goals for you and your children that you pray for that you move in with God. Seek God with all your heart make him your number 1..Pray for double portion of Faith. God is faithful he will heal you when you make him your top priority. God bless
[patricia stokes] - Yes i no how it feels cuz i am in the same situation how do i let go and fill my heart with the holy split everyday i find my self lost and pray that god will lead me in the rite derection its is very hard
[coachfrances fresneda] - God doesn't give you anything you can't handle just pray yo
God to show you the way
[hiawatha jones] - You can not do this alone . You will need Jesus to help you . First you have to ask Jesus to help you to forgive him. As Hans we have a hard time forging others . Repeat daily I forgive. (Name if husband) for hurting me and breaking our family . Next decide to get better not bitter that is. Mindset. ask. God to help you renewing your mind . Begin to love you , focus on God and your children I have been in your shoes You find life much easier
[nicole harris] - I'm there too. Our divorce was final a month ago and he's engaged already. Wife #5 also just told our young daughters to call her "Mommy." I can't let go of the anger.
[leigh dowdy-hunter] - The book crazy love is really good to read. It's about a new type of relationship with God. It's an awesome book. Try focusing on a new improved relationship with The Lord. Put the same focus you put in trying to keep your marriage together in a new relationship with Jesus. Now of course this is harder than it sounds. With a new relationship with the Lord you will be renewed. Your hearted will be mended. And your will learn to forgive. :))
[daniele smith] - Cry, believe, forgive, let go and let God
[kristy ownbey] - You forgive. That's it. You can pray for peace, but you immediately forgive. Then, you are free
[santoesha pratt] - It may be tough but don't be alone you need the people of God to be there with you support you at this time
[santoesha pratt] - what everybody said is righT, just remember actions speak louder than words. as you're crying find out what you're supposed to be doing right now what are the goals that God has for you what makes you happy do what God wants you to do. do what makes you happy do what brings you peace in Jesus name. The more good memories you build the faster the old sad memories melt away. Don't stand stagnant. Go after the things that make u happy! Spend time with nurturing people! Good people! Serve God and have lots and loads of fun!
[sharon pollard] - Always Keep God First, Trust and Believe So that you can Receive his Blessings...
[khethiwe khety ngubo] - letting GO is trusting God that he took whatever it is, for a reason, by stopping and letting go, you get to see Gods purpose for u... so pray, ask God for strength. and have Faith, that everything happens for a reason, and the is a reason for this aswell. slowly trust in God and let go... God loves u
[michelle caldwell] - It takes an unbelievable amount of time, patience and prayer. I was with my ex for 14 years and our marriage ended with his alcoholism. It has been three years, but the pain has gotten a little more bearable as the days have gone on. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself and your children. We have three also. Hardest thing to go though. I know our situations are different, but time does heal. You will never forget, but it will get better.
[olga brambila] - Its not easy. I myself went thru something very similar. But i found that if i allow to go thru process and allow myself to feel every emotion as i bring it to the Lord, he in turn brings healing allowing me to see the bigger picture. It will take time and starting another relationship too soon won't help.
[cynthia miller] - Its a process...fasting n prayers breaks evry yoke...fast n surrender all to God...pray for me also as i am going thru too...but Gods grace is sufficient enuff to keep us.Stay strong xx
[yvette january] - Stay in pray let God guide your way
[sonja burns] - Forgiveness is not for the other person. It's for you. The other person is moving forward not knowing or caring how you feel about the situation. When you can't forgive the other person has power over you. When you see hear or think about the other person you go through a emotional and physical roller coaster. Ask God to remove hate and unforgiveness from your heart. Only with God's help will you be able to move forward. It may take some time but God will give you victory. Nothing is impossible with God. Just trust Him.
[ernestine jaramillo] - I know how you feel...so many emotions go through you...lost..hurt ..lonely...frustrated cause that feeling won't go away...then you get angry...then you start resenting the fact that you wasted time..YOUR PRECIOUS TIME...then you get angry again and want to hate cause you gave him your heart and soul...your PRECIOUS LOVE wasted on him...so you wish you never met him...you cry tears of why? Why did this person EVEN come into my life?..TIME and a lot of begging GOD to remove and rebuke those emotions cuz it's poison to your soul....soon it will dissipate and you will be able to breath...and his poison will leave you..
[stacey evans] - Embrace time , pray, and praise God for your awesome future In jesus name ,
[vicki mckenzie bucher] - Write down a list of what brings tears to your eyes and heart. Then ask the Lord to be by your side and each day, talk to the Lord about what's going on. Read scripture. Pray.
[kathy peters] - let go and Let God!!!
[vicki morris] - Father in Heaven please heal her heart. Amen
[ida calvin] - I agree and pray for you in the mighty name of Jesus┼ ♥
[joanne torchia] - Give all your broken pieces to God. He is the great Healer! God even sees our tears as a silent prayer. God bless you and comfort you.
[marquan love] - confess your Now Faith
by His stripes I am healed and i forgive daily
&cant forget to fast and pray
some spirits dont leave but by praying and fasting
[sharon duty] - I am having a hard time with the same thing and it has been 39 years ... how do i get over it ????
[monica cook mcdonald] - It will get better as time goes on, God has a plan, new doors and relationships will open. Forgive, is the main feeling for you right now forgive. If you don't it will make you hate and you don't want your kids to see you like that.
[adriene fields] - by letting go. you heal your heart
[rhonda argo] - It's easier to say than do , but you really have to work for it everyday. Lots and lots of prayer. Helps to have praying partners who you can talk to , sometimes it helps just to get the ill feelings out, but always pray without ceasing.
[connie wilkinson] - I'd love to know the answer to that question as well.
[reginarena bunch] - Praying for this sister... Lord Jesus in your name... in intercessary...for healing for her and the children ....renew her mind and the right spirit in her....forgiveness for her and the husband and faith for her....Amen! You will overcome! His good shall prevail...hold on to His hand and he will see you through to peace.
[kendra appling-rounsaville] - Put God first and get close to him through daily prayer, meditation and reading his word.
He will give you peace that surpasses all understanding.
It's not a matter of sucking it up you need to heal and God is a healer.
Praying for you and Dianna Darby.
[m margaret safara-cobble] - Sharon, it sounds like you're stuck and need fellow believers to help you move along or maybe someone more knowing how to grief counsel.
[jackie vandenbossche] - Yep this for god. It's out of your hands. Pray for acceptance. Sorry for your pain. You will come out of this stronger and a better person. Let him go you need better. You have to trust in gods plan for you ❤️
[sandra bass] - God will help you. Forgiveness isn't easy and sometimes it takes awhile to come to the place that you can but God is a miracle working God. He helped me to get to the place where I could do it. It wasn't necessarily that I wanted to but I knew that's what God wanted me to do. It's like a step of faith. The release of the burden of unforgiveness will come.
[naomi gilyard] - You don't LEARN it..."JUST DO IT" then KEEP urself BUSY doing GODs work, Living for HIM, SATURATE urself with EVRYTHING GOD..HIS word, CHRISTian/Gospel music, church etc....THEN it just happens, NO more pain, hurt, just HIS PEACE.Amen
[jeannette rodriguez] - Stay busy too!!!
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[pam lewis] - Seek a good counselor, even a pastor can help. On Facebook there is an excellent support site called Second Firsts that I highly recommend. Trust that God has something better in mind for you.
[shawnae alston] - It takes time but don't be it's ok to hurt. Acknowledge your anger and feelings, write a letter to yourself or him, go somewhere private and cry and scream about all that's causing the anger. We are taught to suck it up but it's not always that easy! After you identify you anger then you can began to move forward... Lots of prayer and positive reinforcement!!!
[wendi n bryan mixon] - Let go and let God
[janori riddick] - Prayer. It's worth your child's happiness.
[terri lynn record bell] - just gotta give it to God and focus on what's really important, your beautiful children, I know its hard and a big loss, but through God we can do anything for he truly gives us strength <3
[pamela leftdwrige] - LOVE OTHERS WITH YOUR PAIN THE WAY CHRIST LOVES US AND TRULY HE WILL HEAL YOU..I PRAY THAT All Of our pain is healed..that the World. WILL BE without Pain and confusion AND NOTHIN BUT GOD'S LOVE MERCY AND GRACE.. IN THE. MIGHTY NAME IF JESUS PREVAIL ...AND INTERVENE CONTINUALLY.I JUST PRAY. FOR A REVELATION A CHANGE IN THE NATION ON TODAY. AND FOREVERMORE...I DECLARE IT ON TODAY THAT ITS ALREADY DONE...WE WILL ALL COME TOGATHER AS ONE IN UNITY, IN CHRIST JESUS..AND IT SHALL COME TO PASS! HALLELUJAH ...I LOVE YOU ALL MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND GOD BLESS! 2014 A PROSPEROUS AND DIVINE YEAR!
[jenna fergus] - Praise is a specific kind of prayer. The 31 Days of Praise by Ruth Myers is the most effective healing tool for me.
[cline oedrei gabiedez] - Trust to our dear Lord pain takes time but healing with LORD no time.... have faith.... and God will do the rest....
[glorytugod berry] - First for give him, then forgive yourself. Now give it all to God little by little each day acknowledging Him in all of your new plans and He will direct your path. Much pray much power. When it seems you can't bare the pain talk to God out loud in your bedroom or bathroom. Teach your children to do the same. Cover your children with prayer give them plenty of hugs and kisses and help them understand that it is not their fault. Spend time allowing them to express how they feel with much embracing and assuring them that God does not like divorce but He does heal the pain. You will find it easier to let it go as the days go by... starting is not easy but God will see you all through. May the Blessings of God Overtake you and your children as well as heal his heart too.
[asandah nossy tomose] - tell God all your troubles and U'll be ok.u can try bt with out him u won't make it.
[emmanuela arshakian] - There's sunshine after the rain,leave him and let God fill your heart,be sure that he will never leave your hand and about your ex husband I'm sure he's going to repent one day,devil close his heart and mind but not for long,one day he's gonna be back but no worth,God will heal your heart dear,move on and let God work with your life!!
[deborah rodriguez] - we learn God helps us
[lynlyn tan] - Start working in you can find a better man
[sofia nyaga] - U've got 2 let God direct u. He usually replaces lost joy. Trust Him 2 do something new. Stay connected 2 Him.
[luz fuller] - Fall in love again.. With God. He will never leave you and by no means forsake you <3
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[rosalie nordin] - Walk away and don't look back.
[patti morales] - this came across my face book page at the best time!!! i am feeling a tug on my heart for my recent ex husband... just wanna cry and wish i didnt miss him but i do !!!
[kipani savage] - I understand how you feel. I was also married to someone in the military and found he had children outside out marriage and didn't want to be apart of my life or our son's life. I still can't understand it. Nor do I need to. I have learned that God understands and is taking me somewhere. After 2.5 years I finally do not feel bitter. Keep praying, mourn the old life as you best can and embrace the new.
[tina fuchs-olson] - I am going through the same thing now. I don't know what to do either. My heart is broken and not sure how to fix it. :-(
[melanie dawson duke] - Same here.thx ladies love ur advise to her but also to me.only god can heal a broken heart.I know this Is true.
[apong andensu] - pray continously...evry trouble is an opportunity to gt mor closr to God...u r in my prayr.
[bongi sibiya] - Pray over it and ask to take that pain away,and demand your freedom
[cherry mc kenzie] - Let him go and continue to move on.Pray to god and god will give you the right person at the right time . Don't loose hope.
[ruby anna] - i feel for you... while reading your story i was crying all along. i cant imagine going through that stage and what kind of pain you are enduring right now, but I know with God you can conquer all of it.it will not be given to you if you cant. God knows you can!
[rhonda woodlief carper] - It is very normal to feel the way you do. Forgiveness takes time. Remember to talk to Jesus often about it. Be honest and open and ask for His help.
[fiona barnard] - Praying and Faith beyond walls, standing in Jesus, praying...is the way to go! I, too, know what it is to be married to a man in the military [legally (man's law) still married to him, spiritually had the marriage renounced in God, we still live under the same roof - 5years. Have separate b/rooms, share kitchen & lounge, yard.]. God's plans for us are certainly not what we would make for ourselves.
Thru my journey, 5 years ago when I called of the marriage, we had been married for 17 years. The things God has had me walk thru over the 5 yrs has been very emotional, stress levels high, tears, anger; all the emotions and pain has slowly turned from negative to a more positive stand. The reasons why this is my path, some God has shown me the rest not.
I have learnt though to understand the man I married and thought I knew and what the military instill in their personnel, let alone what these people are like before joining up. My ex is learning to be a parent (2 girls; 23years & 20years), he's learning that if he doesn't change, he will not have a relationship with his kids that goes beyond practical need. He is slowly learning to be attached and connected emotionally, mentally.
We all have to learn to grow and live. It's not an easy path, but, it's worth every step! Repent, ask for God's forgiveness, forgive yourself - 1st. Then forgive your ex & his g/friend in your heart, ask God to forgive them their trespasses. It is one step at a time, eventually it becomes habit.
One thing is for sure, your heart does grow stronger, there is no anger or bitterness or pain and you become a calmer better person - a shining light. Trust in Jesus.
You are in my prays. It may take a time, but it will get better. Let go!!
[nikki myles] - I'm in that exact same situation. I know how she feels cause I feel the same way. I also want to forgive and move on. It's so hard.
[greta sizemore] - Your life will get better n you'll be happier then ever!! Have faith n believe!!! Hugs
[melita van tonder] - I have never been married or divorce but I think the best solution is to pray to our Father in Heaven,surely he does answer our prayer,at times we go thru some painful moments in life only for us to discover our Supreme Father who is full of mercy and grace
[mimi wheeler] - Prayer and the church. That is how I have gotten through cancer. I couldn't have done it without God in my life.
[brenda price-wright] - Make God your first priority surrender to him ask for forgiveness and get into his word .and learn of him and he will heal your broken heart . Believe and trust in him he can do anything but fail .!!!!
[rita pams] - Trust in God,he wil guide u thru it all
[mervis mcpherson] - Take jesus as your best friend & the rest will happen
[shireen mouton] - I got hurt too but if I pray God touch me n heal me instantly , we jst let Him do that
[melissa williams] - His yolk is easy & His burden is light - Matthew 11:30. Ask God to soften your heart so that you can forgive yourself & him. Ask God for grace...He will give you peace over everything and you will know that your children are covered and you can begin to move on with your life. I know it's so hard to do, but holding on to the negative emotions isn't serving God and it definitely isn't doing you any good.
[janelle kestner zimmerman] - Look for the good in everything! Went thru a similar experience & seeing how God was still giving me good in my life helped.
[ginger templeton] - Many of us feel your hurt deeply. Yet, we all handle it differently. For me, the only recourse is & was prayer & keeping busy. Also, don't fall into someone else's arms. Find the strength in yourself to be whole for you, for your children...to help you smile again & try to go a day at a time when you are not thinking of him or missing him, or being angry with him. Time doesn't heal wounds, it just closes into scars. At least for me it doesn't go away. I can only focus on accepting what is now, loving what I had yesterday & hoping in faith for God's best place in the future. If God gave you this good man...he will surely make you a better place when you're ready Sweetie. God bless.
[rose pridgen] - Start praising Jesus , call his name. Every time you think about what's happening in your life . Praise Jesus, say his name out loud, god bless you.
[lorraine cleveland] - first things first that woman didn't just start see'n him she has been there awhile so I feel you should continue to keep YOUR Faith and pray on the situation, that The Lord lighten your heart and allow you to forgive your ex husband but to keep your eyes and heart on Jesus be strong and move forward with your life. Remember you have but one life to live as well so why not be happy with or without THAT man. If you must live for someone do it for yourself and your children. I chose to surround myself with loving family and friends that are GOD filled and time will heal broken hearts.
[marjorie gonzalez] - I am no expert but I would say Pray and the Pray some more. From experience I can say it takes time for the heart to heal. You can't heal your own heart. You absolutely must call on God.. He can heal Everything. Eventually the pain goes away. When you cry call on The Lord. He will wipe those tears away. Then as you lean on god more and more , the pain will disappear . You will have new strength and move on . God has a bigger plan for you. Bigger than anything you could even imagine. God is the only one who can bring you through this. I know from experience. God bless you, you might want to call him NOW...
[hedrick were] - Stay strong in the Lord cz nothin is imposible to God. We are praying for you
[jenn acosta] - I will most definitely pray for u to heal